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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
toilet resistance
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
toilet resistance
by Ramona, Oct 20, 2000 12:00AM
Our son is 4 1/2 years old. He has been partially potty trained for five or six months. The problem is on most days he has at least two accidents (wetting). If he doesn't wet, he will often go just a small amount in his pants. He will dance or run around in circles, but if we ask him if he has to go, he will say no. If we insist that he at least try, he will resist all the way to the toilet and then go. He can stay dry if he wants to - he hasn't had an accident at preschool for several months. Also, at times he will tell us he has to go or even just go by himself.
We have tried rewarding him for staying dry. We have tried taking away priveledges. We go home if we are out and he wets. When he wets, he is responsible for changing his clothes and putting the wet ones next to the washer. We are starting to be concerned because he is scheduled to start kindergarten in the fall and he must be fully trained for that.
HELP!! What can we do? Is this normal for boys?
We have tried rewarding him for staying dry. We have tried taking away priveledges. We go home if we are out and he wets. When he wets, he is responsible for changing his clothes and putting the wet ones next to the washer. We are starting to be concerned because he is scheduled to start kindergarten in the fall and he must be fully trained for that.
HELP!! What can we do? Is this normal for boys?
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Oct 21, 2000 12:00AM
, Oct 21, 2000 12:00AM
Dear Ramonma,
There is no need to be alarmed. There's every indication your son will proceed just fine. Continue to reward him, and remove the punishment component of the behavior management plan. Also, when it's clear to you that he needs to use the bathroom, don't ask him - you are only inviting a problem. Simply tell him to use the bathroom. Dr. KDK
There is no need to be alarmed. There's every indication your son will proceed just fine. Continue to reward him, and remove the punishment component of the behavior management plan. Also, when it's clear to you that he needs to use the bathroom, don't ask him - you are only inviting a problem. Simply tell him to use the bathroom. Dr. KDK
