I’m not one to comment usually, but I came across this comment in a search. I just wanted to ask how you are doing now? My opinion on this, is that you and your husband are being far too hard on yourselves. This type of behavior is really normal! I think it’s our reaction as parents that can set them up for failure, by shaming and judging. I can hear the worry, and I’m sorry you’re having so much concern. Have either of you had trauma in your past, or something that might have been triggered? It might be a good idea to explore what it was that made you so uncomfortable, because this kind of exploration in kids, while it may seem weird to us, is perfectly normal. I hope this is helpful, and sending you my best.
Help!I know this post was two years ago but I am going through the same thing.Just found out my kids have been VERY inappropriately touching me while I have been asleep.My son is 8 and my daughter is 6.They have been doing things inappropriately to themselves and each other too.My husband and I are baffled,confused,completely grossed out,sad,and scared because we don't understand why they would violate me while I'm asleep.We are trying to get to the bottom of this and it appears no adult has ever molested them or gave them the idea to do this.We are a normal loving family that has just been torn apart when my husband finally questioned them and learned the full extent of what innapropriate stuff they have been doing and that they have violated me.Has anyone heard of a similar situation?This is so bizarre and gross that we don't even know where to turn.We know that if we go to counselors with this bizarre scenario that the information will be quickly misconstrued and misinterpreted with disastrous consequences.We love our children and don't want our family wrongfully torn apart.We have never been anything but loving parents and always private and appropriate with our children.After grilling them to try to get to the bottom of this and find out if they got these perverted ideas from any adult,it appears that they came up with the ideas to do these gross things all on their own and they simply said they have been doing it because it felt good.I know that it is somewhat common for siblings to get caught playing doctor innapropriately but why would children then turn around and violate their own mother while she is sleeping.We don't do drugs or drink.I must be a heavy sleeper.I am just so grossed out and baffled to learn how my kids violated me while I slept while pretending to just crawl in bed to cuddle with me.Does anyone have any answers???
Devastated,heartbroken mother