want to get pregnant, but have no help. any advice please!

i am very confused. i have a 27 month old. i really want to get pregnant again, but i am waiting cause i have a colonoscopy next month. after that, i will take clomid to try to get pregnant. my problem is that i dont have any help. my husband works pretty much all day and my fatehr is 65 and my mom isnt too helpful. i have noone else to help me. i chose to stay home with my daughter until she turns three. she still goes to playgrounds to interact with kids almost every other day. i dont know what to do. i really need to have another child before my other one gets any older. i would love to. but i am scared that i wont be able to handle two alone. i would love to keep my two year old home until kindergarden time but alot of people are putting the pressure on me that i should put her in a day care now and preschool soon. i wasnt raised that way and i belive that its more important for me to stay with me for now. shes a great kid and interacts with kids wonderfully. extremely smart. anyway, i may choose to keep her home til 3 and half years old. so i will be at home with two kids for a while. for those who have had a similar experience, is it hard ? can i do it? and if i get pregnant within the next three months, my daughter will be almost three and a half. what will she be like at that age? will she be helpful? is it a big gap? please help me. i want all these questions answered before i make up my mind. thank you so much.

[cutiemama]

I'm a SAHM of two DDs that are 3 years apart. My eldest is in a 1/2 nursery school but other than those 2.5 hrs in the am, I'm with both my kids all the time. With the age spread, it's very manageable. My 4 year old is very self sufficient and very independant which makes looking after my baby that much easier. Good luck.

[boosty]

thank you so much

[Raine9]

Personally, I could not do it.  I am stressing out.  I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 1 year old. The 3 year old goes to preschool 3 days a week.  She's a great kid but she gets bored staying home with me and the baby.  When she gets bored she does things that are very hard to deal with.

But my two sisters stay home with 4 kids!  You sound like you enjoy being a stay at home mom.  I think you will be able to handle it beautifully!

[KatMay]

I had mine 4 years apart and wouldn't have done it any other way.  He was old enough to help and be included and also to understand that mom had to devote time and attention to his baby brother.  Best of luck to you.

[tk8]

Hi I am TK8 and I think that it is wonderful that you want another child. You have the right to want to keep your child at home with you. And the fact that she is almost 3 is a great advatage for you. She can help with the new baby, like getting diapers and diaper wipes and other small things for the baby. She will be happy to do it trust me. I was worried that my son would not be happy with another baby. But I showed him hw much fun it would be to help mommy take care of baby. And he got so excited everytime I said can you get mommy a diaper. It was a joy to have him around with her. And I am sure that you will have the same joy as well. GOOD LUCK TO YA!

[snglemommy2]

  You could try asking your daughter what she thinks about having a baby bro/sis.  I have two that are exactly 2 1/2 yrs apart, i made the time i was preg exciting for my son by getting books to help him understand why mommy's tummy was getting big, and letting him help pick out clothes and blankets, bottles and toys for the baby--i included him because that kept him feeling involved.  I also worried that he would hate the intrusion of a new sibling taking my time away from him.  He absolutely loved his baby sis.  woke up early to wake her up when she was in the crib--soo much for my sleep, lol.  He will be 7 in august and still loves and adores babies when he sees them.  I allowed him to make the choice if and how much he was willing to help w/his baby sister and made sure to keep special time w/him,  i don't regret having her and they will forever have each other.