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JEALOUS of mother, 11 yr. old lashes out, guilt trip to her mom.
Help! 11 yr. old girl is upset her mother is traveling along w/her sister & their mother w/very sick terminal child to Disneyworld for X-Mas. This is sick child's only vacation/wish in yrs. It's all about her last "trip/wish/vacation." She does deserve it, for she has endured much pain and heartache due to her fatal disease. This sick child is living w/her Aunt and family along w/her mom. Her mom need's the help of her sister and their mother. The hotel room is going to be too small 4 all but 4 poeple. The sick child need's quiet time and can't be out very much at all due to her disease, so it limit's the fun. It would be no fun for the cousin, but she is upset, angry, sad, and jealous and making it KNOWN to her mother leaving her feeling guilty as to not taking her. The child has school, as this trip will take place in week 1 of Dec. It is obvious it is not a option to take her due to the demands needed of the sick child and her mother need's the help of her sister.
The father of the 11 yr. old is upset as well, feeling everyone should go! I've heard the story and it is BEST for the sick child & financial wise to just have the 4 people go and give this child a "dream" vacation at the very least.
How can it be resolved? THis child is upset, but more "acting" out we think just because. It is really worrying the mom and now the father.
This family need's some help with this, and I'd like to offer it to them if ANYONE out there will help answer what to do/say? If U R a medical professional/homemaker/grandmother...WHO… help me find answer's to help them "help" resolve this sad situation. It's not that they don't understand the child's upset, it's just they seem to NOT know how to handle it and being a good confidant...I don't have any answer's for them. I
IF YOU CAN OFFER ADVICE, PLEASE DO SO. I'LL PASS IT ON TO THE FAMILY AND HOPE SOMEONE CAN FIND THE RIGHT WORDS/SCENARIO TO PRESENT TO THIS CHILD FOR COMFORT, AND SHE IS I SUPPOSE TO YOUNG (MAYBE) TO UNDERSTAND THE SEVERITY OF THIS ISSUE...MUCH APPRECIATED...THANK YOU. FYI: ill child is 18 YRS./bed-ridden/O2dependant/extremely weak but this is her wish.
It would be unusual if an 11 year old child was NOT upset over missing out on a Disneyland trip. Children that age are innately selfish. It is just a fact. Perhaps planning a special outing at another time for the 11 year old and explaining that this may be the ill child's last Christmas. You can never start teaching compassion to early.
thankyou. No, U can never start teaching compassion too early. This is a great thought. I luve the quote: Sympathy say's "I'm sorry"...Compassion say's "I'll help."
They are different. Too many just are sympathtic, you know.
Yes, I can see what you say, it would be hard for a chlid, anyone not to got to Disneyworld. The main thing here is" this is not a FUN trip." this will not be staying out all day riding rides, visiting character's. The ill child will have to sleep, rest during the day..at most, she'll have 2-3 hrs. daily in the park, due to her medical condition and supplies, so it really isn't a trip for "anyone" wanting to "live it up."
It is best for the bio child to wait and go somewhere, even there again, wiht her parent's and really live it up! LIke another person stated, I hope one day this 11 yr. old will understand the difference, and she will know why she was told "this is not the right trip to go on right now" and wait until this dying child has her dream/wish and then the mom and her daughter can go somewhere special..thank you so much for sharing...bless you..
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