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I cannot sleep...
I can fall asleep within 10 seconds if I can just myself to lay thre, but it is getting myself to that point that is the problem. Here is a typical day for me:
5:45 am wake up -- I am so tired bc I have only gotten about 4 or 5 hours of sleep
7:30 am start work -- I feel exhausted throughout my entire day. I wouldn't say I am lacking energy, but I can feel it. Does that make any sense?
3:15 pm leave work -- By this point, i am swearing that I am going home to take a nap.
By the time I get home I do everything but take a nap. I read, do stuff on the computer, clean, talk on the phone, anything. You name it and its like I *have* to do it.
5 pm usually getting ready to make dinner or have something planned
I will get home around 9 (if I've left). I will wrap up my day by unwinding. I climb into bed at 10 pm and then I cannot just close my eyes and sleep. I pick up my phone and toy with it. I feel the need to call people. Etc etc.
Why? Why do I keep doing this? I want to sleep. Sometimes I can be SO exhausted that I am falling asleep doing stuff, but I still continue to fight it.
Some people say, "well just stop fighting and go to sleep." Its almost like I can't. I wish I could explain better. Does anyone else go through something like this??? What causes this???
5:45 am wake up -- I am so tired bc I have only gotten about 4 or 5 hours of sleep
7:30 am start work -- I feel exhausted throughout my entire day. I wouldn't say I am lacking energy, but I can feel it. Does that make any sense?
3:15 pm leave work -- By this point, i am swearing that I am going home to take a nap.
By the time I get home I do everything but take a nap. I read, do stuff on the computer, clean, talk on the phone, anything. You name it and its like I *have* to do it.
5 pm usually getting ready to make dinner or have something planned
I will get home around 9 (if I've left). I will wrap up my day by unwinding. I climb into bed at 10 pm and then I cannot just close my eyes and sleep. I pick up my phone and toy with it. I feel the need to call people. Etc etc.
Why? Why do I keep doing this? I want to sleep. Sometimes I can be SO exhausted that I am falling asleep doing stuff, but I still continue to fight it.
Some people say, "well just stop fighting and go to sleep." Its almost like I can't. I wish I could explain better. Does anyone else go through something like this??? What causes this???
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Jaquta has hit all the key points here as usual.
One other thing to remember is that if you are in bed resting, awake but musing, meditating, or just hanging out, or fighting sleep for whatever reason, that is very helpful even if you would rather be sleeping.
Also studies show that people radically underestimate how much sleep they are actually getting.
tg
One other thing to remember is that if you are in bed resting, awake but musing, meditating, or just hanging out, or fighting sleep for whatever reason, that is very helpful even if you would rather be sleeping.
Also studies show that people radically underestimate how much sleep they are actually getting.
tg
The expert on this forum prefers to answer posts himself (with not too much input from other members). Experts respond when they reasonably can -they have lives too.
If you're not depressed -that's great!! Depression is the pits!
So structured by necessity. That works for most people. Society would probably come to a halt without it.
I don't know what's going on. I would still probably say anxiety is playing a part (I mean, why else aren't you going to bed?). And sleep per se doesn't really seem the issue. I'm a bit biased around anxiety so that may not be very accurate either.
I would avoid sleeping when you come home from work (not that you ever seemed too). I would try taking some early exercise. I would refrain from eating, smoking or drinking (if you do any of those) before going to bed. In addition to trying sleep hygiene stuff (having a regular sleep routine, ensuring the room is quiet and comfortable. Is the bed comfortable, is the room dark enough? Injuries can sometimes keep us awake too, if this is the case, then get those sorted).
Other than doing some of those and relaxing I would suggest you see your doctor if you're still having problems. Who knows, there may even be an underlying medical condition.
I think I've covered the basics. It could be that you're just needing companionship or needing to feel connected with people??
I hope you get some feedback from the doctor.
J
If you're not depressed -that's great!! Depression is the pits!
So structured by necessity. That works for most people. Society would probably come to a halt without it.
I don't know what's going on. I would still probably say anxiety is playing a part (I mean, why else aren't you going to bed?). And sleep per se doesn't really seem the issue. I'm a bit biased around anxiety so that may not be very accurate either.
I would avoid sleeping when you come home from work (not that you ever seemed too). I would try taking some early exercise. I would refrain from eating, smoking or drinking (if you do any of those) before going to bed. In addition to trying sleep hygiene stuff (having a regular sleep routine, ensuring the room is quiet and comfortable. Is the bed comfortable, is the room dark enough? Injuries can sometimes keep us awake too, if this is the case, then get those sorted).
Other than doing some of those and relaxing I would suggest you see your doctor if you're still having problems. Who knows, there may even be an underlying medical condition.
I think I've covered the basics. It could be that you're just needing companionship or needing to feel connected with people??
I hope you get some feedback from the doctor.
J
I'm definitely not depressed. I know what that feels like. And trust me, I am definitely not structured. hehe There are parts of my day that I have to do (like work from 7:30 - 3:15), but when I typed it out I was just saying what I do most days but not necessarily at those times. :)
If it helps, I don't drink caffeine. I might have a cup of coffee but that is usually like once ever couple of months.
Thank you so much for your input. I just really wanted someone to bounce ideas back at me. I expected at least a dr to reply since it says they do on this forum. But thank you soooo much, bc your reply means a lot to me!! :)
If it helps, I don't drink caffeine. I might have a cup of coffee but that is usually like once ever couple of months.
Thank you so much for your input. I just really wanted someone to bounce ideas back at me. I expected at least a dr to reply since it says they do on this forum. But thank you soooo much, bc your reply means a lot to me!! :)
One thought I had was, "Are you depressed?" I just thought I'd put that out there.
Anxiety sometimes plays a part in keeping us awake. For me that entails thinking about a million different things while I'm trying to go to sleep. Of course sleep seems to elude me. Sometimes I am also even too anxious to go to bed and sleep. When this happens I avoid by reading or using the computer or by watching tv or eating.
You say you wrap up your day by unwinding but are you truly relaxed? I would expect that if you were relaxed that you would fall asleep.
Why do you feel the need to call people? What is that about?
Is it possible that you feel fearful about being alone? Perhaps this makes it difficult for you to relax at night (?and during the day)? I sometimes go through periods where I feel extremely insecure which can affect my ability to sleep.
It sounds like you're extremely structured. Maybe slight deviations from plans leave you feeling unsettled??
Besides the lack of sleep are you happy with life and everything in general? If you're unhappy of feel unfulfilled these can be nagging at you and affect your ability to sleep.
Another thing that happened for me was I lost four family members all within one month and that didn't compel me to want to sleep. Somehow, subconsciously I thought that if I went to sleep I might die. That made me feel powerless because I like to feel in control.
I would try and implement some good sleep hygiene habits plus decrease caffeine intake (if that is high, especially in the afternoon/ evening).
I would limit alcohol intake if you're drinking while you're out in the evening. Activity in the evening also isn't that conducive to sleep.
(Is it the work demands or social demands that are getting you down? It sounds like it could be one or both. It sounds like there could be excessive demands or expectations placed on you from some area).
I don't really know what's going on but if it continues you should see a doctor. My GP said less than six hours sleep a night was a concern.
It's possible that a short course of sleeping pills or anti-anxiety medication could help you get back into a normal sleep pattern/ routine.
I hope that helps.
J
Anxiety sometimes plays a part in keeping us awake. For me that entails thinking about a million different things while I'm trying to go to sleep. Of course sleep seems to elude me. Sometimes I am also even too anxious to go to bed and sleep. When this happens I avoid by reading or using the computer or by watching tv or eating.
You say you wrap up your day by unwinding but are you truly relaxed? I would expect that if you were relaxed that you would fall asleep.
Why do you feel the need to call people? What is that about?
Is it possible that you feel fearful about being alone? Perhaps this makes it difficult for you to relax at night (?and during the day)? I sometimes go through periods where I feel extremely insecure which can affect my ability to sleep.
It sounds like you're extremely structured. Maybe slight deviations from plans leave you feeling unsettled??
Besides the lack of sleep are you happy with life and everything in general? If you're unhappy of feel unfulfilled these can be nagging at you and affect your ability to sleep.
Another thing that happened for me was I lost four family members all within one month and that didn't compel me to want to sleep. Somehow, subconsciously I thought that if I went to sleep I might die. That made me feel powerless because I like to feel in control.
I would try and implement some good sleep hygiene habits plus decrease caffeine intake (if that is high, especially in the afternoon/ evening).
I would limit alcohol intake if you're drinking while you're out in the evening. Activity in the evening also isn't that conducive to sleep.
(Is it the work demands or social demands that are getting you down? It sounds like it could be one or both. It sounds like there could be excessive demands or expectations placed on you from some area).
I don't really know what's going on but if it continues you should see a doctor. My GP said less than six hours sleep a night was a concern.
It's possible that a short course of sleeping pills or anti-anxiety medication could help you get back into a normal sleep pattern/ routine.
I hope that helps.
J
I wish someone would reply.
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