Is there a doctor for me?

I want to know if a cosmetic doctor who is just about to finish his training is willing to "practice" on me?  I am 5"5 and currently weigh 202 lbs. I am 40 years old, married with 3 children.  My entire life, I've been rail thin, even after the birth of my first son in 1992.  After his birth, I settle comfortably in a size 6.  My second son was born in 1999, first I ballooned to an 8 then a 10.  My daughter was born in 2003 and as I look at my shower photos, I've noticed that the areas I now complain about were smaller than after she was delivered by c-section. I have become so depressed that I'm not really interested in eating and if I do, it is one small meal.  I walk on my treadmill, or at the park.  I drink a lot of water. I have a psychiatrist who suggests that I go about my business and ignore what people may say or think.  I can't do that. I've always taken pride in my appearance but I'm far from obsessed or narcacistic.  I've stopped going to church or family gathering.  The only times I really leave home is to take the kids to school and pick them up.  I don't participate in their school activities or field trips, because I am so ashamed. What I want is: a tummy tuck, arm lift and inner thigh lift.  My doctor's won't give me a script for phentermine or other diet pills, even for a few months to see if they energize me and make a difference.  I just am told what I already know(I was a nurse) I control my food portions, drink lots of water and walk for at least an hour on my treadmill.  My depression about my weight is not something I can complain about to my family and friends, b/c they all just say, "Girl don't worry about it, it'll come off". I've learned to keep it all inside and suffer in silence.  I honestly am about to start trying an online pharmacy, but that scares me, and besides, it doesn't do anything for the flabby skin.  Can someone out there help me?  I live very close to Columbus, Georgia, Phenix City, Alabama, Opelika and Auburn, Alabama.  I'm only 1 1/2 hours from Atlanta and 2 hours from Birmingham.  I'm a good 45 minutes from Montgomery, Alabama.
My history is really not that negative: I lost the hearing in my left ear in 1996 (unexplained but will never return), this has led to Meniere's disease which basically turns me a little topsy turvy and sometimes when I have a flare up, I can't drive.  I also have fibromyalgia, and am on the protocol for its treatment.  You see?  Nothing is life threatening or totally debilitating.  I worry b/c my mom has had 2 heart attacks and she's 57.  She suffers from insulin dependent diabetes, high blood pressure and chronic heart failure.  So this isn't just isn't "aesthetic", I'm concerned about developing those things.  Everything for me right now is normal, except my weight.  I have absolutely no information on my father or his family....Help me please?

[ClaudiaJ]

Hi,

Sorry to hear about your depression.  I hate it as well to hear answers like "you can do it," "you'll get better," or "don't worry, it'll come off."  They actually don't help me to get any better.  Anyway, if you can't find a surgeon who would help you, you may try to consider going abroad.  Medical tourism is highly in-demand today.  You can try to get some free quotes first.  I hope it helps. :)