My wife was making more money than me when we got married. When we started having kids we made the choice for her to stay home and raise them. WE WERE POOR!!! She also Home Schooled them for the first few years (we have 3 very close in age). Times were tough and I remember all to well getting those “cut off notices” and scraping up enough to keep the utilities on. We don’t have any regrets over it. Each family has to do what they feel is right in raising their family, Some have no choice but to do what has to be done in order to keep those lights on and food on the table.
Lord knows, I won’t be writing any parenting books but I know we made the right decision for our family.
Excuse the typos. They are too numerous to list. This is when we could use an edit button. I've got SiX kids in my backyard at the moment and thinking clearly as Frisbees fly over my head is hard to do. What a gorgeous day and I'm off to go make the brownies (all good play dates have a fun snack involved, right?.)
It depends el. My husband is a family man and once we had kids, that became the priority. For us, giving up my income and job made sense so that I could be in more of a traditional role. I'm really happy in that role. And I do think my kids have benefited from it. We do with less so that I can be at home and that is what works for us. There are men, women, etc. that do enjoy a home in which there is a parent in charge of things there rather than splitting time between everything they have to do. I know that had I stayed in my career, we'd not have the family life we have. Really, there are just so many hours in the day. When I left my job, my boss said to me (who was this young, aggressive male ready to conquer the world but a dad . . . Do you know why Wonder Woman is a super hero? Because she doesn't exist in real life.
I've had plenty of working mom colleagues and friends who work and that is the right choice for them. The ogle at my life in a way that they are absolutely sure they wouldn't want to do what I'm doing and I ogle at their life absolutely sure it isn't what I want to be doing. I'm glad we have choices.
But there are plenty of educated, well traveled, intelligent women that do choose to give up their career to stay home. And a growing trend of men who do that so that their partner can earn the family's income.
Everyone has to pick what they want in life. For me, I didn't want to be spread to thin and felt the sacrifice was worth it to be at home. My husband still drives what we lovingly refer to as the jalopy and we don't own a flat screen tv. Now again, I realize that not all women have this choice and their income goes to food on the table and rent. We set ourselves up from the beginning to always live on one income--- when I worked, we lived on just one of our incomes to never get used to having more. From the beginning before we got married, we discussed my staying home if we have kids.
Okay, long winded and a bit personal but to answer your question el, while my husband may miss the money I made, he does like the benefits of my being home. So, some men do place value on other things than a woman having a great career.
And one more time, I am so pleased that women can choose to be at home or be at work and either is a GREAT choice!
What I want to know is, who the hell let her out of the kitchen?
I keed, I keed;-)
I was quite happy with my ex-wife making 2x more than I did. It wasn't always that way, and when we met, she made about 25% less than I did at the time. Over the years, she hit the bricks hard and secured new business (she was an outside salesperson and relied heavily on commissions), and her income steadily increased. We were both quite pleased with her additional income, as it allowed us to explore investment opportunities that we'd not previously had access to (ie: we became slum-lords and bought rental houses).
Women making as much, or more than men, is a sign of the times. A GOOD sign of the times, mind you. I'd be MORE than happy to be in a relationship with a woman that was more powerful than I. But then again, I'm attracted to highly intelligent, powerful, well-traveled, well-educated, women.
Is that unusual? I've always though me "normal" in that respect. Don't MOST men look for those attributes in partner, mate, spouse, wife, girlfriend, etc?
Yes, it does seem that we've found something that we all agree on.
I think my husband would have loved it if I'd made more than he did, because then he wouldn't have had to work so hard.
You are blessed to be able to stay home and be there for your kids all the time. I had the same privilege when my kids were very young, but when they got into school, things changed and I did have to go to work.
Many women don't have the option of staying home with their children and for those, I believe in wages that match those of a man doing the same job.
I agree that the bickering and digs at other does get old. Not every topic here in CE has to be a political (or any other) battle.
Mike is right, dems only make racial comments and don't get called out on them.
Seems everyone here agrees, silly notion by this woman..
I tell ya though, giving up my career to be at home with my kids has made me much more fulfilled than the job or money ever did.
I'm very blessed to be able to be a stay at home mom and read just this week that a good outcome to the slight bettering of the economy is that more women are able to either stay home or work part time to be with their children.
What is good in todays culture is that women have a choice about what they do--- they can be working moms because they either have to or want to or they can stay home and it is ALL good.
But it was nice to see the majority of the forum get along on this topic. All the silly fighting and digs at one another sure does get old. It's nice when people can put it aside to agree about something.
A democrat would never utter such unadulterated nonsense. Have you been listening?
If you really believe that all/most Republicans believe this cr@p, you haven't been listening (reading) what a lot of us have been posting lately, because you're still "labeling"...
Where do people like this come from, anyway?
What is so surprising?
She's a republican.........................after all.
“Phyllis Schlafly Claims Women Paid The Same As Men Won't Find Husbands”
I don’t know where she gets this from. My son is looking for one now, preferably one that makes a lot more than he does.
G R O A N.
My son is happy that his wife makes more than him.
Seems like she wants us to all to go back to spending our lives "barefoot and pregnant"... Where do people like this come from, anyway?
I feel like I have been transported back to the 50's. Is this what they call using the women to reach us women? Not gonna work! egads.
Women making money? making more then I do...yeah right. Get in that kitchen. LOL...Was just a joke at the article.
That is crazy talk. Today's man is accustomed to working women and seem to appreciate the income that their significant others bring in. I made MORE than my husband when we married. Frankly, many a day I am sure he wishes I still had that income!
Really? This is what women think? She must be dealing with a different type of woman than those I know...