My biological mother smoked through the pregnancy with me. I was born with undeveloped lungs and pneumonia. I spent the first month of my life in an oxygen tent and the first 11-12 year of my life with horrible asthma.
And you're right. Back in the day doctors never asked a pregnant woman to quit smoking. In some situations they told women to smoke in order for them to "relax".
Someone else I know smoked and pretty much partied through her pregnancy. Her son was born challenged in nearly every meaning of the word. He was born with both Achilles tendons too short, an eye turned in, and a seizure disorder. Surgeries eventually more or less fixed the physical aspects but he was on phenobarbital from birth until he was a teen. The kid has limited fine motor skills and something that resembles some kind of a detachment disorder. (The later could be caused after his birth because this mother looked at this child as a burden around friends but the light of her life around others.)
This kid has a heart the size of Texas and all he wants is to be accepted. He knows he's different but I don't think he knows why. And, I guess that's fine. He wanted more than anything to get into the armed forces when he graduates this year but he keeps failing physicals. (He looks like he is in shape but its all of the fine motor skill things that he can't do. He's 18 and can't open a bag of potato chips without throwing them all over the place.
Its really kind of sad. Maybe I am reading far much too much into this, but this kid has been set up to fail since birth. Perhaps he doesn't see it that way, and I hope he doesn't. (Oh, where's the father? He was very much involved until his wife/the kids mother divorced him, then he abused a little girl.... the pregnant girl I mentioned above.)
While smoking during pregnancy is now considered taboo, there are worse things she could be doing, so be thankful if that's the worst of it. I smoked while pregnant with both of mine because back then, it was perfectly okay and doctors didn't even "suggest" quitting during the pregnancy. My kids have medical issues, but I had other friends who smoked during pregnancy and their kids don't have issues, while some friends who did not smoke during pregnancy have kids who do have medical issues, so there are no guarantees on that one. We always just have to hope for the best, no matter what.
It's too bad your friend will end up doing most of the child raising, but because of that, maybe the child "will" stand a chance...
Yeah, pretty determined. I wish it weren't a true story. I just found out that this dumb kid is smoking cigarettes while she's pregnant because "being pregnant is stressful". Wait until she has a kid who has all kinds of medical issues because she was just dumb enough to keep smoking through the pregnancy.
Something that I thought was kind of funny in relation to this train wreck is, this girl is very, very bossy. Its her way or the highway. She got mad at her boyfriend about something and said, "If you don't like it, you can leave." He did.... Stayed gone for a couple of weeks and this dumb girl got all of the attention she wanted to get out of it.
This kid is in no shape to raise a baby. I'm guessing our friend will be the one doing the child raising. This baby really doesn't stand much of a chance.
That one's good Brice... determined, huh? LOL
I know someone who has a pregnant 17 year old daughter. Her parents felt bad for her boyfriend whose mother was a meth head, so they took him in. Some how, this girl got pregnant even though she was "taking the pill", "he was sterile" and they always slept with their clothes on".
Talk about Immaculate conception...
The concept is great but in reality it does not work for most.
Brice - are you kidding? We all know that abstinence is the best form of birth control...
And of course, we all know that no "normal" person is going to practice it, so the Bible thumpers might want to think about putting that money back into their HIV funds (or maybe bring back Planned Parenthood), since abstinence seems not to be working too well in their state anyway...
Sounds like Rep Spritzer and some of the other Texas Congress people need a LOT of sex education... I'm sure there's a reason he didn't have sex until he was 29 yrs old...
By the way, I think most free thinking Christians know that abstinence only is a joke.
Coming out of the bible belt? I expected something like that. If Christians can "pray away the gay", praying away a pregnancy ought not be that big of a deal.