Babies come when they come. The only information that tells you anything about the conception date is the information from the measurements at the front end of the pregnancy. A person could get pregnant on January 1 and get into a stress situation of some kind and have the baby two months premature; this does not mean that history is rewritten and she no longer conceived on January 1.
I'm sorrry to bother you but I have preeclampsia and they want to induce me at 39 and a half weeks. If the hookup was the dad my due date would have been April 22, 2014. I'm only 1.5 cm dilated. Is it safe the say I can rule him out?
I cannot stop thinking about it. As my due date approaches I get such bad anxiety. We live together and things are finally going good. His nursery is beautiful and I will just be devastated if the outcome is not what I wanted. It just freaks me out that they go by you're last period because I'm almost thirty three weeks and thirty three weeks ago was when we had sex. I know the add two weeks bc of your period but it's just a scary thought. I pray it was my period
Well, you won't stop being stressed until you see the test, and the test will not indicate the hookup is the dad, so for heaven's sake, don't be foolish and let yourself stew, do the test. (ps -- keep in mind that sometimes the home tests get results that turn out to be flaky. If so, go to a lab certified by the courts. Or, just start with a lab certified by the courts that is certified to handle paternity cases; the cost is not that much more than the home tests and you can rely on the results.) Point is, the other guy was way too early to have anything to do with anything. But if you can't get over the guilt, at least take the test and get that thread of worry off your mind. Then, work on how to get rid of the guilt. Best way there is to pledge to make your boyfriend the happiest dad in the world for the rest of his life. That's how you get over the guilt and he gets something good out of something you feel bad about.
Thank you. I just feel so awful. I love my baby but it's so stressful
Take the test, honey. Your hookup had nothing to do with the pregnancy.