Been pushed into doubts..Advice PLEASE

[Diddy2811]

I'm pretty certain I know who the father of my unborn twins are, but I have been having doubts lately because of how set he is set that they are not his.... He is claiming he ha been told by a doctor he is sterile.. I will be doing a DNA test after the twins are born but I would like some kind of advice ATM...

My periods are all out of whack I'm pretty sure that I had a period from the 5th till the 10th on January but for the sake of my periods being so irregular an the possibility of bleeding during pregnancy I would like some advice based off the following dates, not my periods...

I was told my due date by ultrasound is the 14th of November 2013, but the twins are mesuring about 5-6 days bigger..
The first time I slept with the man I belive to be the father was the 15th of February and weeks after that... The last time I had slept with anyone before him was around the 23rd January..

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, it doesn't sound like he is going to willingly step up, if he's giving you the old "I can't have kids" line.  Of course you need to be strong for yourself and your children; in order to do so you have to brush off the romantic-daydream notions and get to setting some plans.

Take care, you didn't get pregnant January 23, go from there.

[Diddy2811]

Thankyou heaps :)
Strange thing about mr claims to be sterile he has a son, who is nearly 4. I am sad more because there is no communication, and we were friends for about 3 years, even tho I secretly liked him the whole time lol. But ATM I have a 3 year old as well who needs me to be strong so im trying to be :)

I will be Definitly getting the court ordered DNA test because I want to make sure it get done all legit, I don't want any chance of him false testing. Thankyou heaps for your advice and support and helping reassure me of what I had thought was true :)

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, it's not the first time on this forum that we hear about a guy freaking out at fatherhood.  I'm sorry.  It is not impossible to go it alone, but first you have the right to grieve the end of what seemed like a nice, romantic dream.  After that, you have plans to make, but right now you're allowed a few moments to be indignant and sad.

Anyway, use the 8th-week ultrasound for estimating conception, not the 12th or 15th week.  As the sonographer says, babies grow at different rates.  After a while in the pregnancy, using ultrasound for dating it is unreliable.  But at 8 weeks, you're pretty much spot on within a very small range (like maybe 1 or 2 days off at most).

Conception calculator gives the following:

Probable date of ovulation:  February 21
Possible dates of conception:  February 17 to 25

Due date:  November 14 (40 weeks)

As you can see, Mr. January 23 would have nothing to do with it.  And since there was nobody else besides Mr. Claims To Be Sterile, he's on the hot seat.  Tell him that frankly there is nobody else who could be the dad, and ask him if he's ever gotten a sperm count done.  And of course, get that DNA test when the baby is born, in conjunction with your child-support filings.  Be sure to use a lab certified by the courts for determining paternity.  

[Diddy2811]

I was told at about 8 weeks my due date was 14th of November, but my 12 week scan n another scan at about 15 weeks they were bigger, the sonographer said they aren't changing my due date, they believe that the twins are just growing fast.

The guy who is claiming sterile, will not speak to me at all, when I first found out I was pregnant he was over the moon, wanted to get our own house etc, even though we were early in our realationship. He then just randomly said they are not his he is sterile, got his housemate to come collect all his clothes n belongings from my house sent me a message that we are over then the only time he has replied to any of my messages was when I asked him if he will do a DNA test and he said yes after they are born

[AnnieBrooke]

ps - The guy who claims his doctor told him that he is sterile, should get another sperm test done.  (You should ask him for a note from that doctor, also.)

[AnnieBrooke]

You say "I was told my due date by ultrasound is the 14th of November 2013, but the twins are mesuring about 5-6 days bigger."  Did someone else say the twins are measuring 5-6 days bigger?  I can't imagine an ultrasonographer saying "here is your due date but it is wrong because the babies are measuring bigger."  He or she would simply have used the twins' measurements to determine a due date.

How early in your pregnancy did you have the ultrasound that said you're due November 14?