DNA Test

[evangeline92]

I'm 30 weeks and 4 days
The father of my baby him and his parents want a DNA test done..i dont want one done since i know he's truly the father..i feel horrible that they have requested this..he never showed any signs of this baby not being his until now..even tho he and i aren't together..i was curious if anyone else has had or gone through this situation and if anyone can give me some advice on how to handle the situation..

[JaiBobb]

If you are no not married (these days even if you are) welcome the DNA test. You know you are the mom, and he shouldnt have to just trust your word to know he is the father. If he trust your word great. But if he doesn't don't hold it against him.

There are men who pay child support and build relationship with children only to find out that they are not the father years later.

Nothing wrong with him wanting to be 100% sure just as you are.

As for being prepared to be a single mom... it is not easy. A responsible mother welcomes any help, because at the end of the day you have to answer to your child, no one else. And if you can tell your child that you have always extended that olive branch you did your part. If he takes the DNA test and then decides not to be a father thats on him.

We are emotional pregnant, just try to make sure you are taking all things into consideration and not reacting off emotions.

[AnnieBrooke]

As I said, be cheerful and say "Sure."  You have nothing to hide.  Remember that this is a world-changer obviously for you, but also for him.  Also, you never know what the future holds.  You don't need him (or his parents) today, but maybe something will change in the end, or this set of grandparents will step up and love the child.  Don't shut the door, do make sure everything is clear, affirmed, and done right.  If they want to be disinterested after that (or if you want them to), their loss.  But if you seem to have something to hide, it sets things off wrong.

[evangeline92]

I'm not asking him or his family for anything..I'm ready to be a single mom and do it on my own..i just told him because i felt he had the right to know he had a child in this world..and i know he's the father because i hadn't been with anyone else but him..

[AnnieBrooke]

Honey, walk in with your head held high and your baby on your arm and do the test.  You don't want one because you "know he's truly the father"?  Do you realize that to them, saying you don't want one (for whatever reason) opens the door to them worrying that you had sex with someone else and want to cover it up?  It's OK to glare as you go in for the test, but just test.  

To make this perhaps less personally insulting that they don't all take your word for it, please consider.  A guy being hit up for child support is looking at at least 18 years of sizeable monthly payments, not to mention lots more years of emotional commitment.  He has a right to be certain, especially since you are not together any more.

Be cheerful and say "Sure."  You're the Christian with four aces here, you have nothing to hide.  Your attitude is that he's being a jerk, but you're a grownup, and if that is what he needs, that is what he needs.

Good luck.