Hi Annie,
Thank you for replying. I should definitely try prenatal DNA test.
Sperm can live up to 5 or 6 days in your reproductive tract, which means you had living sperm from both guys in your system at the time you probably ovulated, given that your ovulation was expected around the 16th. It would then just be a matter of which sperm met the egg. It isn't possible to parse out April 13, 14 and 17 and say one day is more likely than another, if you feel you would have ovulated at mid-cycle in a regular way. I'm sorry. If you want to do a prenatal DNA test, try Ravgen or the DDC. It is expensive but if you are really worried and extremely anxious as you say, it might be worth it.