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Please keep your sarcasm and negative remarks to yourself. My boyfriend and I have sex consistently without a condom he says that he doesn't *** in me but I think he just pulls out on majority of it. My last period started on June 19,2013 my boyfriend and I had sex on the 19,20,23,30 of June and in July we had sex on the 4,5,7,8 . I slipped up and made a big mistake and slept with my ex on July 6th we used protection it wasn't slipped off it was the entire time. I bought a pregnancy test for a dollar and took it on July 14,2013 and received my 1st positive? Who is likely to be the father I am worried sick!!!
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I'm sooooooo stressed somebody please help me please
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Hi, October.  Don't worry, there is no sarcasm and negative remarking in the DNA/Paternity community, just the intent to help people understand their dates.

If you haven't had an ultrasound yet, definitely consider doing so.  If your last period began on June 19, you would be considered today (August 10) to be 7 weeks 3 days pregnant, counted the medical way (which begins on the first day of your last period, not at conception).  7w3d is a perfect time to have an ultrasound that will be a big help to you in confirming your dates.  Get one next week; it will help you a lot.

Counting things out the old-fashioned way, the assumption would be that you ovulated on about day 14 of your cycle that began June 19.  This would be July 3.  This does not help you much if your menstrual cycles are irregular, or unusually long or short.  But if they are like clockwork and 28 days long, your ovulation date would be close to or on July 3.  This would put conception at or around July 3 or July 4.  In other words, in an ideal world, your boyfriend's sperm got in there before your ex's by about two days and you were already pregnant on July 6.  But the margin is too slim to be happy about, especially if your cycles are not like clockwork.

If you get an ultrasound now or in the next week, it can be relied on to be only one or two days off (if it is not spot on) for the purposes of dating conception.  But don't wait.  Babies begin at the same size but can grow at different rates.  I had a 7w1d ultrasound that was exact to the date [a date I knew because I had done IVF].  I've heard doctors say "give or take a couple of days" about 7th week ultrasounds.  You don't want the margin for error to be any larger than that due to the closeness together of your dates.

The fact that you got a positive on July 14, unfortunately only says your baby implanted before July 10th or so.  It doesn't absolutely push things back to before the date of sex with your ex.

I can't guarantee an ultrasound will answer your question, but it is a lot better than speculating based on cycle lengths and how soon the pregnancy appeared on a pregnancy test.  

When you get your ultrasound, they will give you a GA (gestational age, that is, the length of the pregnancy from start of your last cycle to where you are that day, written in x weeks x days).  They will also give you an estimated due date (EDD) based on the size of the embryo and other indicators of development.  And obviously there will be a calendar date on the report.  You'll therefore be able to say, "On August 12th, I was 7 w 5 d and my due date was _____."  This will help you as much as anything can, because the EDD can be used to count back 266 days and find the estimated date of conception.  If it tosses everything back to June 30, for example, you are in good shape.  If it gives you a date of July 5, I am sorry but you would then need to have a talk with one or both of the men about DNA testing in 7 or 8 months.
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Hi my periods are usually regular ranging from 25 to 27 days I usually stay on 3 to 4 days
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This is a tough way to try to parse this out, but if your period began June 19, it would then go something like this:  

In a month that was going to be 25 days long before the next period began, your follicular phase would be 11 days long and your luteal phase would be 14 days long, putting ovulation on July 1.

In a month that was going to be 27 days long before the next period began, your follicular phase would be 13 days long and your luteal phase would be 14 days long, putting ovulation on July 3.

(In other words, you don't take the number of days and divide in half, you always allow 14 days from ovulation to the next period.)

By your stress level, I assume your boyfriend does not know there is any other possible candidate for dad.  Please take my word for it, nothing about this will get easier unless you get an ultrasound.  The old-fashioned methods of counting things out don't give the level of certainty you need to split the difference between June 30, July 4 and July 6.  I am not saying an ultrasound will guarantee anything, but if you really did ovulate on (for example) July 1, that might be enough of a difference that the ultrasound can pick it up.
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I appreciate u and no he doesn't we plan on getting married but this one slip up could ruin things I'm emotionally distraught and don't know what to do I couldn't live with myself if it was the other guys and we broke up because of it. I would most definitely be a single mommy then.
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My ultrasound is Wednesday the 14th I will keep you posted hoping for the best!!!
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Do keep me posted.  Remember that your GA (the week-and-days number) will refer back to the assumed day of your last period, not your actual first day.  In other words, don't freak out if, on the 14th, they tell you a gestational age that does not line up exactly with 8 weeks 0 days as you might expect from the actual first day of your last period.  The key number that you will need to know from them is your estimated due date.  You can then plug it into a conception calculator online.
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I'm not trying to be the bearer of bad news but conception dates are not an exact science. Due dates are not an exact science only 1:20 women deliver of their due date. My baby is due according to dating ultrasound on December 31. That makes my conception date April 9th,well my husband and i had sex 5 days before this date and again abt 5 days after but none that day(my husband works abt 70 hours a week and its a very physical job).And its no doubt that my husband is our childs father.Sperm can survive for 7 days in some cases and it takes anywhere between a week and 3 weeks to implant. So guy "A" cld have fertilized the egg and it implanted after your period. A lot of women have a period the first month that they are pregnant. My mom did with all three of her pregnancies. The guess work will get u into trouble(it happened to my friend, she assumed it was the last guy also but it wasnt. she had ,had a period in between also).Get a DNA test from Walmart when ur baby is born. the guys dont have to know. U get the results privately .Secretly collect the DNA from one and if its not his then its the other guys. That way you will know 100% without a doubt. My friend thought that the wrong guy was her child's dad for 5 years! That child had a relationship with him and his family. It was a horrible situation for the child. So forget the guess work,addition and subtraction, get a test! No judgement but for ur child's sake you need to be 100% positive.
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Oh wow! Just curious... Are the things that Lucy are stating true?
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Yes they are. Look it up. I try my best to state facts. Guess work has messed up a lot of lives. Do some research. The facts state that theses dates are only best guess calculations. For example if you have sex with Ed on march 2nd then have sex with Moe on march 10 after you have had a 5 day period you or no doctor can tell you with 100% accuracy if it is Ed or Moe's baby when you miss your next period. Like I said it is Noway that I got pregnant on the date that the u/s said that I did. We did not have sex for days before or after that date but I can say with 100% accuracy who the father is BC I have only had sex with my husband for the last 11 years. Think about it all the women that are wrong did not have malicious intent. It was a honest mistake. I'm not being ugly or mean but Annie will tell you that those dates are only predictions and pregnancy dates are only best guess. Go to a dr with the Ed/Moe scenario and see what the professional tells you. Sperm can survive day and it can take a fertilized eggs more than a week to implant.
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Hi @AnnieBrooke I went for my ultrasound on August 21,2013 I was measuring 9 weeks and 1 day the ultrasound tech didn't know my lmp which was June 19, 2013 and the EDD she came up with was March 26,2014. As I have stated before my cycle was 25 days and also I remember I had a doc appt on July 1, on that day and June 30 I was having what is believed to be ovulation pain in my right side the next day which was the 2nd of July I went to work but was experiencing severe trapped gas that I have never experienced before so on the 3rd of July the pain was gone . I can believe I ovulated on the 1-3 and the ultrasound even pin points that!
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Between how you felt on the 1st, the ultrasound dates, the fact that you used protection on the 6th, and the fact that your boyfriend and you had unprotected sex all throughout that time, it does sound very promising that the baby is from your boyfriend.  In your shoes, I might consider a quiet DNA test with the ex after the baby is born, but it would be enough to do one of those from Walgreen's, it doesn't sound serious enough to need to go to the court-certufied lab or anything.  If you really resist doing that, you could also look at baby pix of your boyfriend and compare them to baby pix of the child (compare photos to photos), as infants often greatly resemble their fathers and it particularly is clear in photographs.  I would tend to want closure on the question, but other women in your position have taken all their positive news and accepted that it is probably enough certainty, and moved forward without looking back.  I'm glad you got the ultrasound and am glad it was good news.

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Thank you for responding you were a help to me
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