Is she really pregnant? Help

[Buddyloved]

Okay so I been dating this guy for a year and he cheated on me with this girl, he told me he got her pregnant but wanted To be with me but the whole time he was with her too doing everything we did. I broke all ties off with him when I found out and then three months passed the girl messaged me on Instagram (June 14) (this year) asking questions about him he called me three times saying it wasn't the same with her but I never told anyone that bc I was done we put the whole story together and she went to her home town after she had a miscarriage ( June 13) and I found out later on she was w her ex fiancé she's been with for 3 years  but they both deny they did anything with each other. In this time my ex was at boot camp for the week while she contacted me and when he comes back she told him about the miscarriage that happened like 3 days before he came back (June17)and he wanted to try for another so they did put in like three weeks he came back they tested it came back negative. He finds out about her seeing her ex and she was cheating so they broke up (July 18) and everything he contacted me (July 20 or 21)again we talked and he blocked her on everything and the next day she says she's pregnant and shows a picture of the tests but she took like 4 of them in didn't shots? His been trying to go to appointments with her but she had to reschedule and she had to go to the emergency room one time and got "pictures" she showed us the pictures Friday they weren't the same size from one time going to the doctor and the were printed no name or doctors name it was like zoomed in. Then she had an appointment but told him he wasn't welcomed and the next day she apologized and said she shouldn't have done that so he told her if he doesn't go to the next appointment he was taking her to court to get her to and she said ok I'll get the address when I get home the next day she said she wanted an abortion. Yesterday she told his parents and they freaked but said she was 9 weeks pregnant? Bc his mom looked at the pictures and she works at a women's clinic but said they are real. They are going to his moms doctors to figure it out in separate cars and I see her today she looks the same size to me her stomach doesn't have no arch to it or I'm just blind.

[AnnieBrooke]

If she's pregnant, "9 weeks" now means she got pregnant around July 2. So, it could be.  But it kind of sounds like she is not trustworthy in this story. The "weeks" count starts on the first day of the last period, not at conception.

If they do actually get to a doctor, your ex should ask the doctor if she has had any ultrasounds. She might have been fobbing off someone else's ultrasounds as hers. Your ex should ask the doctor when she might have conceived (not just "how far along is she?" because he will then just be given a weeks count, which doesn't measure from when the person conceived).  He needs to use the c-word, conceived. And he should ask the doctor for the estimated due date, calculated from an ultrasound, not counted from the first day of her last period.

Be sure he knows not to leave the doctor without seeing any ultrasounds in her file or having the doctor read them, and getting an estimated due date and/or a doctor's estimate of when conception was.

There is a really expensive DNA test that can be done before the baby is born, it uses a blood draw from the mother's arm and a swab from (I hope both) guys. If she's really pregnant and if she intends to keep the baby, he could offer to pay for it. (Though on the kind of money he's making in boot camp, maybe it's out of reach financially.) Since she might have been sleeping with someone else at the same time as him, a DNA test is going to be needed sooner or later anyway, and if he could afford the costly test he could know in a few weeks from now rather than waiting. (Post-natal DNA tests are much cheaper.)

A lawyer is not going to be able to force the woman to let him go to appointments with her, BTW. But a lawyer might be able to help him get access to her real ultrasound scans (not copies that were sent by her).

In the meantime, get your act together about this guy. He is a cheater and cheaters always cheat. He lied to you also. Forget him for you personally.

Good luck.