MyWrongDecisions):

[JumpingTummy]

My wrong decisions have me worried and so anxious to know who is the father or my son. I have a 4yr old & I'm 27w pregnant with a baby who yet everyone believes is a certain guy. When I moved in with him after a week I came back to my mothers house for a party, I went out with my sons father-after 7 months o separation we were intimate(April5)  I went back with my partner and not long after that I found out I was pregnant, me and him were not very intimate & I think he have a problem with conceiving because I went 4 months w/o birth control & never had a sign of pregnancy. Either way he turned out to be a psycho man and I left him. I came back to my home city after sooo long me and my first husband got back together I'm the happies woman on earth I love him and he accepts my pregnancy (yet don't know whose baby is it) I'm very scared beanies everyone believes this baby father is they guy I was with before. I'm scared to have a DNA test & terrified of what people will say once I break my silence if the baby isn't his. I've never told anyone about this I feel I lifted a weight off my shoulders. :( any advice?

[AnnieBrooke]

DNA is not tested "then and there when the baby is born," you have to request the lab to draw blood or do swabs.  There is a charge.

[AnnieBrooke]

Jumping, it's kind of hard to understand all  the characters in your story.  There is the psycho-man ex, who apparently some people think is the father of your baby.  There is the father of your son.  Then there is the first husband.  Are these three guys, or is the father of your son also your first husband?  If so, and it sounds like you are saying the man you are with now knows there is a paternity question, who is it distressing you to be silent about things with?  Are you afraid of someone knowing that you and the man you are now with had a fling, when you weren't together?  It does not sound like this is a secret from your reconciled ex husband who is now your boyfriend.

[JumpingTummy]

Sorry about my typos ladies I was so anxious to share it with u guys and vent :(.. But thanks I was wondering if DNA is tested right then and there when the baby is born? I will take all type of judgement from my family and others but the silence has been killing me all my pregnancy.

[LadyBeeley]

If you feel a dna test is necessary then do one. But really, why would you publicize your personal business to everyone anyway? Its not their concern who the sperm donor is. If you and your husband are happy and willing to work through it regardless, do not worry about othet people. Tell them if they need that drama theres a tv show called paternity court where people happily dish out theur private business but you certainly wont. If your hubby is happy and you two are moving on either way, then there is no reason to worry momma. I certainly would never feel I had to explain the father of my daughter to anyone, ever. Bc its not their business.

[specialmom]

Yes, I agree.  It's hard when you are finally happy to think about what can happen if your partner knows.  I totally get that and feel for you.  I'm not sure you can live with the secret though.  That might end up festering and causing you to derail the relationship any way.  I'm sorry this is a hard time for you hon.  good luck

[Jessika20]

If you go on the website for this app they have a spot that can determine date of conception which would be best for now but I would get a DNA test when the baby is born. They sell them in Walgreen's an take about a week to get results. I wish you the best of luck hun.

[misswest91]

Really all you can do is pray for the outcome u want and take a test when the babies born. Good luck