Quick question

[Greenandblue2013]

Does anyone on here have the same dates as me and what were the results if you have a paternity test?
Guy 1 sex 2 December
Period 19 December
Guy 2 sex from 24 December and for the rest of dec and January
First ultrasound done at 9+6 days and then 13 +1 days for the NTT scan, then another done at 15weeks all have given the EDD of September 25th except for the one done at 20 weeks which changed to October 1st

[Greenandblue2013]

And the 13+2 measured 76.05mm
Is that right for those gestations??

[Greenandblue2013]

The 9+6 days measured 3.14?

[AnnieBrooke]

There is not a chance;  all your dates and ultrasounds are adding up to a month after the sex you are telling yourself might have produced the baby.  In pregnancy a month apart is a long time, the ultrasound tech and doctor would not have mistaken it.  

Women find their way to this little forum for one of several reasons.  Some genuinely don't know but once they hear that their dates point to a particular guy, they figure it out and get on with their lives.  Some have dates too close to call -- such as, they had sex with one guy on Thursday and another on Saturday.  There are also some (a surprising number, actually) whose numbers truly don't add up to a reason to worry, but they are freaked out and obsessive over the possibility anyway.   The theory about that group is that they are letting their fears settle on obsessing over whether it's Mr. Wrong's baby because it's easier to be stressed over that than it is to be stressed over something that is more serious to them in the situation.  It's not always guilt over having slept with the wrong guy, either.  Sometimes it's simply existential stress -- "how am I possibly going to be able to take care of a child" stress.  Sometimes it's that the guy who is obviously the father is not the one they want to be the father, or that they really, really don't want to be hooked to the father for the life of their child.  Sometimes it's fear of childbirth, other times it is other things.  I do know that once they identify what is actually at the base of their worry, their obsession over the possibility that the wrong guy is the dad fades away.  If your psychologist hasn't helped you identify what is bothering you, try a different psychologist.  Working on proving that the first guy is not the dad is fine and good, but if something else is really at the root of your problem, doing so won't solve it.

[Greenandblue2013]

But would there still be a chance? I know nothing about my numbers suggest it, I don't feel guilty about it because I wasn't with my partner at the time but that feeling will not go away so it's not guilt?
I've spoken to a psychologist and nothing has helped.
And that tells me that even if I get a paternity test I will still say but what if it's wrong.
I can't help but think I wish I terminated my pregnancy

[AnnieBrooke]

Hi, Green, I don't think the people who write in to this site regularly have prenatal paternity tests, you probably aren't going to be able to calm your fears that way.  

Please remember that nothing about your numbers suggest the pregnancy resulted from the first guy.

Here is what the conception calculator says for the due date of September 25:

     First day of last menstrual period:  December 19
     Probable date of ovulation:  January 2
     Possible dates of conception:  December 29 to January 6
     Due date:  September 25 (40 weeks)