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Should I question if I'm the father!
Help!!!! I am 22yrs old my girlfriend is 20yrs. She and I have been dating for nearly 3 years. As I will attempt to make this very long story short, I will first say that I am in NO NEED of a lecture because my parents have that part covered. However, I found out my girlfriend was pregnant on March 8, 2014 via urine sample. Her initial due date was November 24th. Followed by an updated due date of November 18th(2014).
March 8th was on a Saturday and the following Monday, March 10th she and I went to the doctor and they did a blood test which was also positive.
Therefore in order for the November 18th date to be accurate, conception would've occurred in the month of February. I can remember the month of February like the back of my hand. My family was faced with a true crisis so it made it even easier for me to recall the surrounded events.
That being said, she and I had unprotected sex on February 7th and February 27th ONLY. However, according to the conception calculator, in order for the most recent due date to be true accurate which is November 18th, conception was more likely to have taken place between February 21-March 1. Mind you,she already had a positive pregnancy test result on March 8th. Should I have concerns that I possibly may NOT be the father. Please help!!!!!!!
March 8th was on a Saturday and the following Monday, March 10th she and I went to the doctor and they did a blood test which was also positive.
Therefore in order for the November 18th date to be accurate, conception would've occurred in the month of February. I can remember the month of February like the back of my hand. My family was faced with a true crisis so it made it even easier for me to recall the surrounded events.
That being said, she and I had unprotected sex on February 7th and February 27th ONLY. However, according to the conception calculator, in order for the most recent due date to be true accurate which is November 18th, conception was more likely to have taken place between February 21-March 1. Mind you,she already had a positive pregnancy test result on March 8th. Should I have concerns that I possibly may NOT be the father. Please help!!!!!!!
No those were the only times in February and I'm absolutely sure of that. I've asked her and she simply ignores the question as if she wants to keep me in suspense. Childish behavior to say the least.
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I mean, it doesn't really make sense that four times she would say "that is why this is not your child," and then cry if you ask for a DNA test. If she has said such a thing, it would be logical for you to expect a DNA test. So, what is going on? Ask her, gently and directly, about specifically why she has said this.
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And, no other times in February when you didn't take pictures? Also, when she makes the comment about you not being the father, have you ever just asked her directly what she means, or why she has said it? For the situation it seems pretty indirect just to wait for her to reassure you or demand a DNA test. Just ask her.
I had pictures that were date specific so I'm sure about those dates Feb 7th and Feb 27th. By the fourth time she made the comments of me not the father I told her I was going to be having a DNA. She started crying asking how could I say something like that. She also told me that it would be a waste of money. However, never reassuring me that I had nothing to worry about..
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And how sure are you about the dates of the 7th and the 27th? Any chance of error there? Over time, memories change, and we often do ourselves a favor to review all the dates by reading things from the doctor and by looking at calendars, Visa bills, etc.
What does your girlfriend say when you ask her what she meant by her remark "that's why this is not your child"? Is she saying directly to you that she had sex with someone else, or does she say she just said that because she was angry?
What does your girlfriend say when you ask her what she meant by her remark "that's why this is not your child"? Is she saying directly to you that she had sex with someone else, or does she say she just said that because she was angry?
CORRECTION!!! She just informed me that her first ultrasound was at 8 weeks and 20 weeks. My mistake!!!! So the 8 week one is the scan that rendered November 24 th for a due date.
CORRECTION!!! She just informed me that her first ultrasound was at 8 weeks and 20 weeks. My mistake!!!! So the 8 week one is the scan that rendered November 24 th for a due date.
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Uncertain, you really can't rule out any possibility. Some doctors will even say an ultrasound in the 17th week has a margin for error of +/- 14 days. It's too bad she didn't have an ultrasound in her 7th week. All you can do now is the DNA test when the time comes.
AnnieBrooke, it didn't help when I read this article, just saying!
When Does the Urine Home Pregnancy Test Become Positive
A urine home pregnancy test HPT usually becomes positive within a week or so after implantation, or around the time of your expected menstrual period. It becomes positive about 12-14 days days after ovulation and fertilization.
Typical pregnancy symptoms usually do not show up until after the blood hCG has reached significant enough levels.
An hCG level below 5 mIU/ml is considered negative, and a level above 25 mIU/ml is positive. You can't be sure that a blood hCG level between 5 and 25 mIU means it's a positive test because an hCG level between 5 and 25 mIU is considered 'equivocal,' which means we don't know if it's negative or positive.
At a blood hCG level between 5 and 25, most doctors probably repeat the test 2-3 days later. A rise above 25 mIU means that you are pregnant.
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By: em3On: Sep 23, 2011 5:29PM
I took a home pregnancy test 3 days after sex and it was positive is it possible for hcG levels to be high enough at that point? or did I conceive earlier in the month?
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When Does the Urine Home Pregnancy Test Become Positive
A urine home pregnancy test HPT usually becomes positive within a week or so after implantation, or around the time of your expected menstrual period. It becomes positive about 12-14 days days after ovulation and fertilization.
Typical pregnancy symptoms usually do not show up until after the blood hCG has reached significant enough levels.
An hCG level below 5 mIU/ml is considered negative, and a level above 25 mIU/ml is positive. You can't be sure that a blood hCG level between 5 and 25 mIU means it's a positive test because an hCG level between 5 and 25 mIU is considered 'equivocal,' which means we don't know if it's negative or positive.
At a blood hCG level between 5 and 25, most doctors probably repeat the test 2-3 days later. A rise above 25 mIU means that you are pregnant.
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By: em3On: Sep 23, 2011 5:29PM
I took a home pregnancy test 3 days after sex and it was positive is it possible for hcG levels to be high enough at that point? or did I conceive earlier in the month?
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For whatever reason my friend's girlfriends have worn up and down that the first ultrasound is the most accurate and not the second one. Don't get me wrong, I want the baby more than anything in this world. That's why I refuse to abandon her during this time. I take her mouthing off like a man and do what I have to do. If she is just saying mean things to me and I bell out, I'll never get another chance to be there for her during this pregnancy again.
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In fact, given that the first ultrasound was as late as the 17th week, it could even be that the sex on the 7th produced the baby.
Long and short of it, don't fight with her, any words you say in anger might have to be eaten later when you have the DNA test. But do get the DNA test. If she meant what she said about you possibly not being the dad, everyone (you, the baby, she, and the possible other guy) deserves to know the truth.
Long and short of it, don't fight with her, any words you say in anger might have to be eaten later when you have the DNA test. But do get the DNA test. If she meant what she said about you possibly not being the dad, everyone (you, the baby, she, and the possible other guy) deserves to know the truth.
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Ah, I see our posts crossed in the ether. OK, then you are definitely on the hook to be the dad, since even a 17th week ultrasound is going to have a plus or minus in terms of accuracy of more than a week either way.
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Uncertain, according to all you have said so far, you are in the right time frame to be the father. Please answer, however, the question of whether she has had ultrasounds to help with the certainty of the dating. Yes, a pregnancy test on the 8th could come up positive from sex on the 27th. (I have had one come up positive in only 7 days, though that would be considered a bit early; I had twins and perhaps that is why.)
If your girlfriend had a sexual encounter with someone other than yourself in the same time frame, she might not herself know who is the father. Or she might just have said that because she was mad at you, or she might have been saying "This baby is going to be SO not yours," as in she intended to keep it away from you even though she knew you were the dad. It is also quite possible that she might not know how pregnancy is counted; i.e., from the first day of the last period, and the doctor saying she is x weeks along might have led her to a false conclusion.
I wish you would answer the question about how she got her first and second due dates, and when.
Annie
If your girlfriend had a sexual encounter with someone other than yourself in the same time frame, she might not herself know who is the father. Or she might just have said that because she was mad at you, or she might have been saying "This baby is going to be SO not yours," as in she intended to keep it away from you even though she knew you were the dad. It is also quite possible that she might not know how pregnancy is counted; i.e., from the first day of the last period, and the doctor saying she is x weeks along might have led her to a false conclusion.
I wish you would answer the question about how she got her first and second due dates, and when.
Annie
First due date was at approximately 17 weeks via ultrasound (abdominal) and it did take long. It seemed like a very quick look. The second ultrasound was at 21 weeks via ab/vaginal. The second one that rendered November 18th took about 45 mins and was very detailed unlike the first one.
Again I was trying to make a long story short. I guess it would've helped to include in this post that anytime she and I had a disagreement the first thing that comes out of her mouth is," that's why this is NOT your child"! However, because my parents didn't raise some punk that's going to leave a woman high and dry, I still have some doubt simply because she has in RECENT time planted those seeds. I take care of her to the fullest even with the comments she's made over and over again as I try to dismiss it as being hormonal issues. I don't think I'm sounding crazy. I was simply asking a question. I guess I'm wondering if there could possibly be a positive urine test within a 8 day period? Seems how February only has 28 days. So if it's sperm that was hanging around 3 more days then I'm really concern. At any rate I'm riding this out until I know for sure. Meaning I'm giving her %100 support.
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Hi, Uncertain,
How did she get her first due date of November 24, and how early in the pregnancy was it that she was given that due date? Was it from an ultrasound?
How did she get the second due date of November 18, and same questions. Was it from an ultrasound, and how early in the pregnancy?
The dates of the positive pregnancy tests and the dates she has been given certainly do not rule you out as the dad. But it would help to know how early her estimated due dates were given and how she got them.
How did she get her first due date of November 24, and how early in the pregnancy was it that she was given that due date? Was it from an ultrasound?
How did she get the second due date of November 18, and same questions. Was it from an ultrasound, and how early in the pregnancy?
The dates of the positive pregnancy tests and the dates she has been given certainly do not rule you out as the dad. But it would help to know how early her estimated due dates were given and how she got them.
@sammy1219 did u say the day of conception is actually the day you are 2 weeks??
Your possible dates for conception are between feb.21st & march 1st you had sex with her between that time there is a good chance your the father
You're probably fine. You don't always get pregnant the exact day you have sex. Your semen can live inside for 3-5 days. And the 27 was right in the window it should have been. And due dates aren't always exact, they are estimates. Don't let distrust come between you now. Enjoy this time together
the only thing i feel comfortable saying is if you have any doubts, take the paternity test. in fact i think all men should do it...if she has a problem with it then she better get over it...
Even if you had protected sex it could still happen. And also due dates can be up to 2 weeks early or 2 weeks late. They can't always give you a definite date of when the baby was conceived :) no worries I would say!! It kind of makes you sound crazy for going back through dates to check that though. 3 years is a long time. If you couldn't trust her enough to trust its your baby maybe you shouldn't have unprotected sex.
You said it yourself already. Her conceptions dates include the day that you had sex.
If you had sex feb. 27th then thats in between the contraception date, so that fits with you being the dad but ask her if your concerned..
Well have once she had conceived she was already 2 weeks pregnant. I kno it sounds crazy but that's how it works the same day she got pregnant is the same day of being 2 weeks pregnant. You also have to consider that sperm lays in the uterus for up to 3 after ovulation and 3 days before ovulation
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