Still obsessing just need clarification

[Lucylou66]

guy 1 no protection 24th March morning after pill (plan b) taken morning after
guy 2 sex not protected 7th April and 13th April
Period between these two guys round 1-2nd April
I did a text 13th may positive and scan on 20th June said I was 12weeks 3 days
This was all back in 2012 due for DNA but I'm stressing out so much guy 2 is my ex and I have said all along its his but now doubting myself due to a terrible mistake with guy 1

[Lucylou66]

i totally understand I think that I have read myself into an obsession thinking was my period implantation bleeding or what if because I had to have my baby early due to risk of infection was that the due date! Or girls who think they know who the father is are totally proven wrong. I am ashamed over the sleeping of a random person but if I never took the morning after pill or plan b he wouldn't be here today as it changed my cycle to conceive!

I just think I will take your advice and will keep you all posted on the results and appreciate your help so much

[AnnieBrooke]

It is common in the DNA/Paternity community to hear from women with two kinds of issues:  those who really have something to worry about (two guys within 3 days, no period in between) and those who have a lot less to worry about but who worry a lot more.  As CL of the community, I used to get puzzled by women who had had a period and some time in between men, but were still freaking out and wouldn't listen to reason.  Now I think it has to do with the power of guilt or shame, and also the tendency to catastrophize in advance of something actually happening.  Don't let your worries drive your actions or drive you nuts either.  Life goes on no matter what.  If you would find it helpful, here is what I posted to bubbles, who is having the same kind of issue, just yesterday about the same point:
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Having fears is not a sign that you know that something is a certain way.  Your fears are independent of what is real.  

In this forum, we often see  "What if the --(lab, technician, doctor, DNA test) -- is WRONG???"  This is a question of general anxiety, not a question of rational fact.  

The answer is, if the (whatever) is wrong, you will work out what to do, and will go on with your life, and your life will be just as happy as it might have been.  

But, interestingly, almost nobody who ever asks this question goes on to learn that the test or doc or lab was actually wrong.  Please try to relax and trust your tests and your dates.

[AnnieBrooke]

Read through your earlier post on this forum, where we talked about the dates.  Doubts based on guilt, are not the same thing as doubts based on logic.

[Lucylou66]

Thank you I think it's a lot of guilt, me and my
Ex separated when baby was little
So I have filed for child support and we arranged a dna test over 2 years ago
But he never turned up and now requested one! I don't mind doing the test but I didn't know if a 3 week window was long enough
To determine it.  I just don't want to have lied to my
Ex and his family for all this time really I do
Feel
Awful

[AnnieBrooke]

It's probably just your guilt preying on your mind.  The details don't implicate the guy in March, and you had a period after sleeping with him.

Get your test with the April 7 / 13 guy with your head held high.  Don't forget to use a certified lab (one the family courts in your jurisdiction have approved to determine paternity legally).  You don't want to have to do another DNA test later if you file for child support.