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Who could I be Pregnant by?
My ovulation dates according to period tracker was May 2-12, with ovulation day being May 7. I had sex with guy one May 5 (didn’t pull out) and guy two May 6-8 (pulled out each time). I went back and had sex with guy one May 11,13, 15, 17, and 22 (didn’t pull out neither times). My period was suppose to come May 24 but hasn’t come yet. I’m nervous that I may be pregnant but even more nervous who I could be pregnant by. I really want to be pregnant by guy number one. Help please!
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(And as to the fact that the guy pulled out, we hear all the time on this site from women who are pregnant and the guy never ejaculated in their body. Pre-ejaculate can contain sperm.)
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So I calculated that I got Pregnant on May 6 (same day I had Sex with guy 2) but is it possible that sperm from the day before carries over into the next day to be pregnant by guy one?
If you were expecting your period on May 24, you should have ovulated on or around May 10. What makes you think you got pregnant on May 6?
Sperm can live 5-6 days in your reproductive tract, though some research suggests it is not strong enough by day 6 to penetrate the egg.
Sperm can live 5-6 days in your reproductive tract, though some research suggests it is not strong enough by day 6 to penetrate the egg.
I put in the pregnancy tracker how far along I was And it suggest I conceived on May 6. And the doctor said I may Have conceived between May 1 - 10.. considering the situation I was Just hoping the baby would be by guy one.
I understand what you are hoping. But given that your tracker is an online computation based on averages, I don't know why you are putting so much faith in it.
If you expected your period to come on the 24th, you count back 14 days from that date, to get an estimated conception date. Either guy could be the dad, since sperm lives up to 5-6 days in your body. The only way you are going to know for sure is by a DNA test.
If you do a prenatal DNA test, use Ravgen or the DDC. It is about ten times as costly as doing a test after the baby comes, but (if you test with both men) you will know for sure while still pregnant. Or, you can do a test after the baby comes, for a much cheaper cost. Don't use a drugstore test, they are not admissible in court. Use a lab recommended by the family courts, and go with both men when they go, so you can be sure of who is giving the sample.
If you expected your period to come on the 24th, you count back 14 days from that date, to get an estimated conception date. Either guy could be the dad, since sperm lives up to 5-6 days in your body. The only way you are going to know for sure is by a DNA test.
If you do a prenatal DNA test, use Ravgen or the DDC. It is about ten times as costly as doing a test after the baby comes, but (if you test with both men) you will know for sure while still pregnant. Or, you can do a test after the baby comes, for a much cheaper cost. Don't use a drugstore test, they are not admissible in court. Use a lab recommended by the family courts, and go with both men when they go, so you can be sure of who is giving the sample.
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I guess I'm wondering what the tracker is tracking. If you expected your period to come on the 24th, two weeks back from that is not May 7 but May 10, and especially if your last period came April 26, this suggests your cycles are a regular 28-day cycle. So what data is the tracker tracking that tells it something different? This obviously matters if you want the guy from the 5th to be the dad. The 10th is about the worst possible day in this cluster of sexual encounters for it to be the first guy, his sperm from the 5th might be goners and his sperm from the 11th would not have arrived on the scene yet, leaving only the pulling-out guy as a candidate.
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That’s what I was Thinking as well. I’ve been using this tracker for about 3 years now so I’m sure it can be a little off. My stupid mistake. And I’m suppose to be getting married soon.. one night we got into a heated argument and I made a mistake. As much as I want it to be guy one.. I know It’s almost impossible.
Well, it's not "almost impossible" for guy one, after all, you don't really know when you did ovulate, and sperm can live a while in the woman's body. But we don't know how long your boyfriend's sperm would have had to last for it to be him because we can't trust the tracker and we can't just do this from a calendar. The questions that can't be answered are, is your tracker right or wrong? How long did your boyfriend's sperm live in your body? And are your cycles so regular (the periods would have to be like clockwork every 28 days) for you to be certain that the next one would have come on the 24th? None of this is know-able.
You could get an early ultrasound and see if it confirms or suggests a particular date. Go to the doctor 4 1/2 to 5 weeks from when you think you conceived, or 6-7 weeks from the first day of your last period. Don't tell them the first day of your last period (or, say your cycles are so irregular that you don't want it used, or just say you don't remember). Arrange to have an ultrasound at that appointment -- if you have to, pay out of pocket, because later ultrasounds will not help you with this. Get an estimated due date from the doctor (a calendar date for the baby's birth, not just a "weeks pregnant" figure) that is based only on the measurements of the baby and its developmental markers as seen in the ultrasound. Don't do this any later than 7 weeks, or it will be useless for the kind of precision you need. Take the e.d.d. from the ultrasound home and put it into an online conception calculator (or count back manually on a calendar 266 days), and that's your estimated date of conception. It might help, if you are super lucky, it would indicate a time period not associated with the sex with the guy in between the sex with your boyfriend. Even if it clearly indicated him, though, that is more information than you have right now.
You can also get a pre-natal DNA test done to determine paternity. It is very expensive, partly because only the best labs can do it with assurance. (There are some cheapie so-called "labs" out there who will gladly take your money and give you unreliable results. Don't go to them.) If you cannot bring yourself to tell your boyfriend, one of the top labs even offers something called "discreet" testing, of a swab of the edge of your boyfriend's drinking glass or his toothbrush. If you go this costly route, test with both guys. The positive for one guy confirms the negative for the other. If you can bring yourself to tell your boyfriend what happened, and if you have a good relationship with the other guy, maybe you could split the cost three ways, since all three of you have a vested interest in knowing what the reality is.
If you can't get an ultrasound in your 6th or 7th week, or if it gives you a date that doesn't rule anyone out, and if you can't do a DNA test before the baby comes, then you are left with the unpalatable choice of an abortion never knowing who the dad was, or simply having the baby no matter who the dad is, and getting DNA tests done then. I'm sorry.
You could get an early ultrasound and see if it confirms or suggests a particular date. Go to the doctor 4 1/2 to 5 weeks from when you think you conceived, or 6-7 weeks from the first day of your last period. Don't tell them the first day of your last period (or, say your cycles are so irregular that you don't want it used, or just say you don't remember). Arrange to have an ultrasound at that appointment -- if you have to, pay out of pocket, because later ultrasounds will not help you with this. Get an estimated due date from the doctor (a calendar date for the baby's birth, not just a "weeks pregnant" figure) that is based only on the measurements of the baby and its developmental markers as seen in the ultrasound. Don't do this any later than 7 weeks, or it will be useless for the kind of precision you need. Take the e.d.d. from the ultrasound home and put it into an online conception calculator (or count back manually on a calendar 266 days), and that's your estimated date of conception. It might help, if you are super lucky, it would indicate a time period not associated with the sex with the guy in between the sex with your boyfriend. Even if it clearly indicated him, though, that is more information than you have right now.
You can also get a pre-natal DNA test done to determine paternity. It is very expensive, partly because only the best labs can do it with assurance. (There are some cheapie so-called "labs" out there who will gladly take your money and give you unreliable results. Don't go to them.) If you cannot bring yourself to tell your boyfriend, one of the top labs even offers something called "discreet" testing, of a swab of the edge of your boyfriend's drinking glass or his toothbrush. If you go this costly route, test with both guys. The positive for one guy confirms the negative for the other. If you can bring yourself to tell your boyfriend what happened, and if you have a good relationship with the other guy, maybe you could split the cost three ways, since all three of you have a vested interest in knowing what the reality is.
If you can't get an ultrasound in your 6th or 7th week, or if it gives you a date that doesn't rule anyone out, and if you can't do a DNA test before the baby comes, then you are left with the unpalatable choice of an abortion never knowing who the dad was, or simply having the baby no matter who the dad is, and getting DNA tests done then. I'm sorry.
If I’m 5 weeks and 3 days how do I determind Who I got Pregnant by? Guy one or two?
So I calculated that I got Pregnant on May 6 (same day I had Sex with guy 2) but is it possible that sperm from the day before carries over into the next day to be pregnant but guy one?
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When did your last period begin, April 23?
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My last period began April 26 and ended May 1
And your tracker told you that your ovulation should have been on May 7? It seems like, if your cycles are exactly 28 days, it would have told you that your ovulation was on May 10.
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Why don't you take a pregnancy test? The ones from Dollar Store are surprisingly good and not costly. I probably don't have to tell you that pulling out is ineffective as a method of birth control.
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I took a test and of course I’m pregnant but I dont know but which guy. Guy one never pulled out which I’m ok with but guy two did.
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