Alright, I'm new to this website but I need some opinions from anyone who feels like commenting. I recently found out that I am pregnant, I find out in two days how far along I am.. but here's the catch, my last period was Feb 1st-6th, 2012. I have sex with my boyfriend every single day, unprotected, sometimes more than once. I had sex ONE time with my ex-boyfriend on Feb 11, 2012, unprotected. I missed my period that was supposed to come on Mar 1st, 2012. I have good cycles almost exactly 28 days. I'm scared that maybe it's his?! Everyone makes mistakes but I really hope the baby is my boyfriends. So I'm wondering if anyone has opinions on the chances of the baby being my ex-boyfriends baby?? HELP, please :/ I could really use some good opinions!
So you've had sex with your boyfriend every day since your last period? And you had sex with an ex boyfriend on Feb 11th as well?
Going by your last period (that's how the date you in early pregnancy) you would be around 5 weeks. Just in case you wanted to know.
To be honest, the dates are way to close to one another, in fact they actually over lap so it's 50/50 which one would be the father. The only thing you can is wait until the baby is born and have a DNA test done to determine who the father is. Unfortunately that;s your only option here.
Yeah, we have sex all the time. and I was also thinking I'm about 5 weeks. From here I guess all I can do is pray! Hopefully the chances are extremely slim! Thank you for writing. Talking about it makes me feel somewhat better!
I pray the baby is your boyfriend's but at this point there's no way of knowing, sorry:( I wanna say that because you had sex with your ex 5 days after your period it won't be his. Usually the week after your period is safe. the way it happened for me was I had unprotected sex with my huaband when I had my period symptoms and thought I would probably get it the next day or something like that. However
after having the same symptoms for a week and a half and no period but a few spots I got a home test and it was positive. Good luck with everything:)
I would say its your boyfriend's. If you always have your period every 28 days you ovulate 14 days after your period. So you would have ovulated on or around the 20th. I believe sperm can only live for about 5 days. After an ultra sound you can count back weeks or maybe your doc can tell you when you may have conceived.
Im kindof in the same boat. I had sex with a guy October 12th and started my period like i normally do at the end of October. I don't remember the exact date but i think it was around the 24th or the 27th when i started. I have also had sex with my boyfriend every other day or so since then too. I took a pregnancy test on November 24th and it was negative. Come December 1st no sign of my period. I took another pregnancy test and it came out positive. I have a doctors appt. At the end of this month, but i need peace of mind who's baby it is.... Im praying its my boyfriends. Also my periods are always regular. Please help with positive info.
Hi, Cassandra, if you had sex with the guy October 12 and then not again, and then had a regular period at the end of October, and then had a negative pregnancy test on November 24, it is hard to see how it could be the October 12 guy. The period at the end of October would not have come if you had been pregnant.
If you're honest with your doctor and ask for an ultrasound to find conception date they will order it for you. It is most accurate weeks 5-8 because the baby is rapidly growing and follows a specific timeline of growth during that time; ie, a 5 week ultrasound and a 6 week ultrasound look completely different. However if you wait until your second trimester they measure based on the babys size and weight which can vary drastically so I would advise you to get the ultrasound asap! Won't be 100% like the dna test but should be able to help. If I were you I would write down on a calendar every day you had sex so you don't forget and then you can compare to the ultrasound dating. Good luck!
I need help I made a stupid mistake on the 1st october had heavy period on the 9th lasted about 10 days then had sex with my boyfriend everyday I'm 23 weeks pregnant is there any way it could be the mistake??
So I had my period on the 17 or 18 of sept. My cycle is normally 7days but I had sex on day 5 of my period which was the 23 & the day after with an old friend while my boyfriend & i were separated. My cycle is 30days, but I can't remember the exact day I had sex with my boyfriend. The doc says I'm 24wks, but I didn't have sex the day I supposedly conceived which is oct 2. I had sex with my boyfriend a day or two after that. I'm sooo scared because my boyfriend & I already have two kids together and are planning to get married. If the baby isn't his, it will ruin my life. Help!!!
Hi can anyone help me? I can't enjoy my pregnancy because this is hanging over me. I had my period on may 13th and it ended on the 18th, my periods usually last 4-5 days and are always late. Most are 32-35day cycle. Me and my boyfriend were rocky at the time and I made a massive mistake and had unprotected sex on the 18th with a one night stand, the same week I was having unprotected sex with my boyfriend. I'm now 12 weeks and 1 day pregnant. Today is (15/08/13). .. This means that I conceived about the 22nd which is only 4 days after the one night stand . I really need to know what the chances of it being the one night stand are? I'm so so worried and I know it's only myself to blame but my boyfriend is now so excited of being daddy cause he doesn't know about the one night stand and CAN'T find out or it would over. Please help!!!
Hi im wondering if anyone can help me im 18 weeks pregnant today and my last period was 9/9/13 which lasted 3 days I have regular unprotected sex with my long term partner everyday more than 1 times in a days. However on the 13th of september me and my partner had a huge fallout as I found out he cheated at the beginning of our relationship so I slept with someone else which just is not me problem is I was so drunk I dont know if this man used protection as I dont take any contreception basically this guy took advantage and I hardly remember a thing only his name ive never met him before hes much older than me im sure im so disgusted with myself. I had sex with my partner the following day & everday after unprotected so im wondering when I concieved as im due on the 18/6/2014 any advice or help would be great thankyou.
I had sex on Oct.27 and 28th with who now is my ex boyfriend. On Nov. 1st I had sex with an old friend; the condom broke but right after I took Plan-B. Nov. 17th I found out that I am pregnant. Who would be the father? (my GYN told me that Oct. 24th to 30th was my fertile week)
Hi, first_time, have you had an ultrasound yet, and if so, were you given a due date for the baby based not on the first day of your last period, but on the measurements of the embryo? If not, see what you can do to get one. Tell them that you prefer the estimated due date to be based only on the measurements of the embryo and its developmental markers, not on the first day of your last period. Then write back and we'll see if it is possible to tell which of those two guys seems most likely.
There are a couple of reliable labs who will provide that service, and a lot of charlatans. You might want to read this link, about the good ones. Keep in mind that it is ten times as costly to do it before the baby is born than it is to do it after the baby is born.
i had an intercourse with guy A on the 4th November 2014 and if i remember well i got my periods the next the day on the 5th November and i had an intercourse with guy B on the 8th,11th,13th,16th, 18th november until december 3rd 2014 where i got my spotting. with guy A we used a condom but you will never know and with Guy B we using a pull out method. my estimated due date is on the 12th and 14th August 2015 so i just want to find out of when did i conceive and who is the father of my child between Guy A and Guy B.
i consulted two different gynacologist while i was abt 6 weeks the estimated due date was 12 August 2015 from both gyna. then after eight weeks i went another gyna he did it manual based on my lmp and it gave him 12 August 2015 and he did a scan again which gave him 14 August 2015.
Well, it all lines up. The conception calculator I use gives the following
First day of last menstrual period: November 5
Probable date of ovulation: November 19
Possible dates of conception: November 15 to 23
Due date: August 12 (40 weeks)
Not only do the dates rule out the first guy, but also, you had a period after having sex with him. That would not have happened if he had gotten you pregnant. Besides, one day before a period (that in fact came, not just one that was expected) is not when ovulation happens.
Please help. My last period was Nov 17th-Nov 21th. My cycles last 30/31 days. I had sex with guy#1 on Nov 22nd one time and guy #2 Nov 24-present. My due date is Aug 25th. Who stands a better chance of being the father, everyone makes mistakes. I just want to talk to people that won't judge.
Well, there is no judgement in the DNA/Paternity forum. By simply counting out the numbers, the baby would be from your present guy.
Have you had an ultrasound yet? If you did, the doc should have given you a weeks count (which in your case would begin about three days later than the first day of your last period) and an estimated due date. If you do have the estimated due date that you got from an ultrasound, you can plug it into an online calculator and come up with an estimated conception date that would be reliable.
This method is not so reliable if the due date came from the doctor looking at a calendar or little wheel, and is also less reliable the further along you get in pregnancy, so if you have not had an ultrasound yet, see if you can get one very soon.
My last period was on 14 or 15 Dec 2014 to 21 Dec 2014,my cycle is 28 days.I had sex with my husband from 24 Dec to 3rd Jan 2015, the same day on 3rd Jan 2015 i had sex with a friend.On 21/02/15 dr said i'm 9 wks 3 days with due date 20/09/15,2nd dr on 14/03/15 it said 12 wks due date 21/09/15 then i went bck on 2nd dr on 9/05/15 he said 19 wks 3 days. Who might be the father of my unborn child, please help i'm confuse
Yes i did find the estimated due date 4rm first ultrasound while i was 9 weeks 3 days preg. I don't knw how this happened but i will never ever repeat what i have done cause i was so desperate to find out my fertile days.
Thank you so much Annie for your respond, thank you! thank you! thank you!!!
December 28 is the assumed conception date for a September 20 due date. The question then becomes how much of a margin for error to assume, since the ultrasound was not in the very earliest time frame. You had another ultrasound in your 12th week and it didn't diverge much from the date given to you at your first ultrasound. That suggests the baby is developing at the average rate, not faster or slower than average. This suggests both ultrasounds are reliable to use for dating conception, and your conception date is around the 28th.
The guy who came along on the 3rd is ruled out by this, though not by very many days. I would get a DNA test done with him after the baby is born just to be certain and never have to wonder, but it does sound like you were about a week pregnant when you had sex with the other guy.
I hope my unborn child will be my husband, I have been with him for a long tym. To tell him about what i've done behind his bck it will ruin everything and on top of that the Guy i had sex with him on 3rd Jan he want to be a part of that child even knowing that i'm married.
The most terrified thing is that i'm a black woman,my husband is a coloured the third man is an Indian man. DNA is the only solution but what will i say to my husband. I try so many times to terminate the pregnancy without both not knowing that i'm pregnant but it's failed.
Thanks a lot for advice you have given me it will make me to rethink about everything.
I appreciates a lot
It sounds like the guy from January 3 is the one to do the DNA test with, then. It sounds like he will keep the secret. I tend to counsel honesty in these situations, but if you are in a culture where nothing will be forgiven even if you never make another mistake again, and the test shows that the baby is from your husband, I would simply test with the January 3 guy and then (given that the test shows the baby is from your husband) let it all go. Use a reliable lab, not a drugstore test.
hi I need your help guys iam pregnant and confused about who might be my baby's father. I had my periods on the 7th to 9 of January and had unprotected sex with my husband on the 11th January and also had unprotected sex with my boyfriend on the 19,22 up to the month end and now iam pregnant and the doctor said my due date is 12 October 2015 who stand a chance of being my baby daddy. please help guys and thank you in advance
If the last time you had sex with your husband was the 11th, just going by first day of last period and by your due date given by the doctor with no further information, your boyfriend has a better chance of being the baby's dad.
But a lot hinges on how the doctor came to the conclusion that your due date is October 12. If he just counted from your last period or looked on a little wheel, it is a less reliable number than if he told you from an ultrasound, and an ultrasound after about the 10th or 11th week is not going to be helpful to try to split the dates because it is pretty late for the kind of precision you need. Did you by any chance get your due date from an ultrasound in your sixth or seventh week?
yes he told me from the ultrasound . he also told me that I was 5 months n 1 week by the time I went to him and that was on the 5th of June 2015 when I went to see him. Thank you very much for your response Anne.
Either guy could be the dad, then. 21 or 22 weeks is too late in pregnancy for an ultrasound to be helpful to determine the difference between sex on the 11th and sex on the 19th producing the baby, By that point there would be a margin for error of 10 days or more in terms of using the ultrasound to date the pregnancy, which is wide enough to include either guy. If you and your husband are no longer together, it would be a simple enough matter to get a DNA test with both men once the baby is born.
me and my husband we broke up and since I had last sex with him on the 11th we never had sex again.Iam currently with my boyfriend since from the first day 19 January up to date he's the only one I'm having sex with. I've tried to calculate the day I conceived by using the due date the doctor gave me and using internet conception calculator and it gave me 15 to 23 January where the most possible dates I got pregnant on. Thank you Annie and I pray it is my boyfriend's!!!
Yes, as I said before, if your dates from the doctor and ultrasound had come early in the pregnancy, your boyfriend has a better chance of being the baby's dad. It is a shame you don't have that information.
At least you are not in the difficult position of some of the ladies on the site, who are trying to hide from one guy that another guy has a chance to be the dad. You can do a DNA test with both guys, and they will both want to know, too. Be sure to go to a DNA lab approved by the family courts in your jurisdiction, don't do a drugstore test (too many errors). This is especially true if you will need the test for child-support purposes, the courts will require that only a certified lab do tests for determining paternity.
Incidentally, in many states (most, I think) a child born to a married woman is legally assumed to be her husband's child. If you are still married, legally, why not get a divorce before the baby is born, so you won't have to do any extra steps later? Check with a lawyer or legal-aid office about this.
I need help on this matter, everything does not add up. I had lastly saw my LMP on 16 December 2014 and my cycle is 28 days . I had sex with Guy A on 31 Dec 2014 -1 Jan 2015 then i had sex with Guy B on 3 -4 Jan 2015 now i'm pregnant but i don't know who might have a better chance of being a father.I went to see a Doctor on 2 Feb 2015 and he said i'm 4 weeks pregnant, then i went to see another Doctor on 13 February and he said i'm 8 weeks pregnant again i went to see a 2nd Doctor on 26 June and he said i'm 27 weeks. Can a first Doctor be wrong cause he didn't tell me the due date but the second Dr at first he said due date is 19 Sep 2015 then last week he said 21 Sep 2015. So i'm confused an advice will help me how to determine the father of my unborn child?
A Dr was looking at the cardboard wheel and he even use an ultrasound and when i ask him how many weeks am i he said 4 weeks pregnant.He even ask me when was my last period then i said 16 Dec 2014 it was on Tuesday and my cycle for sure is 28-29 days not more than 29 days.
So, you mention three doctors, "a Doctor" on February 2, "another Doctor" on February 13, and "a 2nd Doctor" on June 26. (I assume that is three different ones despite that you said the third one was "a second doctor?")
The first doctor, even though you were only 4 weeks pregnant, did an ultrasound? That is a little unusual, because if he thought you were only 4 weeks, he would have known nothing could be seen on an ultrasound. You're sure that you had an ultrasound done on February 2? Do you have the report? It might say on it an estimated due date (look for the abbreviation EDD). But it would kind of surprise me if you did have an ultrasound from that doctor, since he would have been unlikely to waste your time with one if he truly believed you were only in your fourth week.
Anyway, then you went to a doctor eleven days later, and that doctor did? or did not? do an ultrasound? (This is the one that told you that you were in your eighth week.)
Which doctor is the one that said the due date was either September 19 or September 21?
The reason I am asking this is because I am wondering if your doctor who examined you in your 8th week did an ultrasound and gave you an estimated due date at that point. In other words, did the September 19 due date come from the eighth-week appointment?
Yes i'm sure i went to see a first Dr on 2 Feb 2015 he even gave me the pic but he didn't tell me how far i am with my pregnancy. I'm the one who ask him about howfar am i.
Then i went to see a second Dr he said i am 8 weeks, my mistake on Due Date so i double check the date on the pic that he gave me. So the1st EDD was 22 Sep 2015 and i went back to the 2nd Dr on on 26 June 2015 he said 27 weeks with EDD of 25 Sep 2015.
I remember when i had sex,it was with Guy A on 23 Dec 2014, 31 Dec -1 Jan then with Guy B on 3rd Jan -4th Jan 2015
sex with guy A -- December 23
sex with guy A -- December 31
sex with guy B -- January 3
first appt. with doctor -- February 2, were told "4 weeks"
second appt. with doctor -- February 13, EDD September 22
third appt. with doctor -- June 26, EDD September 25
From your second appointment, your most probable date of ovulation was December 30, with a possible conception range of December 26 to January 3. The margin for error in your eighth week (when using an ultrasound to try to determine conception) is maybe a couple of days. December 30 also aligns as a conception day with the first day of your last period. This is not enough certainty to rule out the guy on January 3, though. You will definitely need to get a DNA test when the baby is born. The margin between January 31 and January 3 is just too slim an amount of time to be able to guess. (I'm assuming the sex was all unprotected?)
Are you sure the first doctor said you were in your 4th week? What does the ultrasound picture show on it from that first visit? If there is anything in it besides just an empty uterus, you probably weren't in your 4th week, nothing appears in an ultrasound photo from week 4.
The ultrasound picture shows a little dark thing, A Doctor zoom that little thing and says your pregnant. All i see it was something like a seed. On Jan 31 i did a home pregnancy test and it was positive so i wanted to confirm if i'm really pregnant then on Feb 2 i went to see a Doctor and he confirm it.
I'm confuse cause my LMP was on Dec 16 and i was suppose to see my next period on Jan 13, so i ask him my fertile days and he said from Jan 1 to Jan 7 2015.The reason i ask him is because i told him that i had sex with 2 guys, the first guy on 23 Dec, 31 Dec & 1 Jan, 2guy on 3 Jan and then he said on 23 Dec it was to early for me to conceived but on Jan 1 -Jan 7 was my fertile days and both 2 guys will never know who impregnate.
If my Ovulation day was on Dec 30, can i get pregnant after Ovulation day or 2 days after Ovulation Day. To be stressed is not good for a child but talking to someone it helps and even though i'm not sure who might have a better chance of being a father but it help. You helps me Annie and i appreciate that.
You could have gotten pregnant on December 31 even if you ovulated on December 30. Unfortunately, this is all not an exact enough science to be absolute about it, and your dates are very close together. There are prenatal DNA tests for determining paternity, but they are very costly, and you can get a DNA test done after the baby is born for about a tenth of the cost of a prenatal test. In your shoes, during the pregnancy I would assume the pregnancy from the sex on the 31st, but I would also test for sure, once the baby is born.
Thanks Annie for all information that you have given me, last question is that if have sex regularly with anyone before the December 31 it will be possible to find out who is the father.Example: If i had sex with one of that guys from 26,27,28,29,30,31 Dec will i know whose the father because i thought maybe the last person you had sex with he got 80% chance of being a father.
Thanks Annie for all information that you have given me, last question is that if have sex regularly with anyone before the December 31 it will be possible to find out who is the father.Example: If i had sex with one of that guys on 28,29,30,31 Dec will i know whose the father because i thought maybe the last person you had sex with he got 80% chance of being a father.
Originally you said you had sex on the 23rd, 31st, and January 3. Are you now saying you had sex every day between the 23rd and 31st? And was it all with the same guy? And then you had sex on the 3rd with the other guy?
Is just the question that i'm asking myself about if i knew i was suppose to stick with 1 guy(maybe the 1 i suppose to have sex with him regularly) before the Dec 31 i will be sure that who is the father but just because it was only Dec 23 & 31 (1guy) and Jan 3 (2guy) is difficult to figure out. If it is possible i will turn back those days but because it's impossible i have to live with this fear.
Hey ms Annie , im jamell i am 21 years old! And i am reallly STRESSING about this situation i am in ! Ok so i had sex with my best friend who i love dearly we had drunken unprotected sex on feb 7 2015 and other times in jan and feb, and this dude who i met i was a pot head and was jus trying to smoke so he wanted me to come over and i told him numerous of times before i even left the house i didnt want to have sex or anything i jus wanted to smoke ! So we smoke then he starts gettin stupid basically takes advantage of me he didnt ejaculate in me i think he was jus putting his penis up to my vagina and moving it up and down and i think he did 2 strokes in and out but did not ejaculate , that was on Feb 15 2015 , my last period was in jan i cant remember but i think it was early jan i had wat was light spotting on Feb 1 2015 , my periods are 28 days so i didnt take tht as a period cuz it only lasted a day 1/2 or less ! I had my first ultra sound 4/13/15 i was supposedly 8 weeks , due date tht was given 11/22/15 but i found out they gave me that due date because the nurse thought i told her my lmp was 2/15/15 but i didnt so i went to the hospital 7/13/15 got an ultrasound she said i was 18 weeks 2 days and she told me my due date is 11/11/15-11/13/15 and told me it was a girl ! A week later i went to my obgyn they told me i was 16 weeks 2 days im very confused as to who the father is PLEASEEE HELPPP
Hi, mommielovee, you said "i found out they gave me that due date because the nurse thought i told her my lmp was 2/15/15." How did you find this out, did you go back and talk to the nurse and go over it all and get it confirmed?
I'm going to assume your ob-gyn was looking at the ultrasound, and the ultrasound said your last period began on 2/15. If you didn't tell the nurse that, it means the ultrasound computed it. This is pretty common, that an ultrasound tech would measure the embryo, and the machine would plug in a first day of last period based on the size of the embryo. I would assume your doctor just saw that date and thought you had given it.
Did you have sex with anyone in March? Also, what does " i went to the hospital 7/13/15 got an ultrasound" mean? 7/13 is tomorrow.
And nope they keep saying the due date is the same ! And i told them i spotted on feb 1 Nd she said that was still considered a period and i dnt see how thts possible when my periods are regular 28 day cycles ! Then i considered maybe implantation because before i met dude b alot of my family members kept telling my i was pregnant im just confused i really dnt want it ti be guy b because he is such an ******* saying im ruining his family and tht we didnt have sex ughh i try to be happy but then i get depressed and sad
Yes i had sex with my best friend in march and i meant 6/13 in june thats when she gave me an ultra sound due to cramping and she said its a girl and your due date is bewtween 11/11/15 which is my 2 year olds birthday and 11/13/15 other than that ******* my best friend was the only one i was having sex with i went to ny in nov came back jan we had sex 01/09/15 unprotected the night of my party i remember that and we also had sex in march before his bday which was 3/8/15 and after
And when i went on 6/13 and got tge us i told the tech well im confused because my obgyn gave me a due date of 11/22/15 and she looked at me like really thats crazy because that would make u ar least 16 weeks and 2 days which is definately not correct which is funny because when i went to the obgyn a week or 2 later they said i was 16 weeks which is confusing asf
Well, Mommie, what happens is that people write in, usually on their phones where they can't see what they have written very easily so it runs on, with a combination of what they were told, what they think, what the doctor assumed (that they don't know if the doctor assumed it or had a medical reason to say it) and what they remember, plus typos or errors and information that doesn't relate. (This is how we get to "I had an ultrasound on July 13" when July 13 has not actually come yet.) Sometimes because of having heard a lot of these stories, I can make educated guesses about what part the doctor actually said and what the person thought the doctor said (which is where I get the idea that a period date must have been written on your ultrasound, and that the doctor just assumed you had told the nurse when your period was).
Next time you are with the doctor in person (don't do this on the phone), explain that you never did tell the nurse when your last period was, and that you are sure you missed your period in the month the records are saying you had your last one, and that you want to be sure of something. Then ask if the software related to the ultrasound would have computed the date of your last period based on the size of the embryo at that time. I would bet that is what happened. If all the date was, is something assigned based on the embryo's size, then it is reliable for the size of the embryo at that time and it means you would have conceived around March 1 whether or not you had a period in February. (Women do miss their periods for other reasons than pregnancy.)
Here is what would help me be sure when I say that I think you got pregnant in early March. A clearly laid out list from you:
Sex with wrong guy (date)
Sex with better guy (ALL dates in February and March that you know)
Ultrasound 1: date # of weeks pregnant estimated due date
Ultrasound 2: date # of weeks pregnant estimated due date
Ultrasound 3: date # of weeks pregnant estimated due date
It would help if you would give actual calendar dates for each ultrasound instead of "and then one week later I had another ultrasound" kind of dates. I am taking it from what you are saying that of the three ultrasounds you had, you think one of them (the second one?) is not lining up with the others, or that possibly both of the later ones are not lining up with the first, but I am not sure because of the long paragraphs in what you wrote.
Regarding the two ultrasounds that came after your eighth week, later ultrasounds are really not as useful as early ones for identifying conception dates. Embryos develop at different rates, so often later ones don't line up with earlier ones. But we might be able to come up with some answers for you if I can understand your questions.
Ok i understand
Sex with better guy was :
2/7/15 ... 2/27/15....3/2/15...3/5/15....3/21/15
Sex with ******* 2/15/15 (but remember he didnt ejaculate but i do kno precum can get u preggo
-4/13/15 OBGYN supposedly (8 weeks) due date tht was given that day 11/22/15
-4/28/15 HOSPITAL supposedly (10/11 weeks) i forgot which due date she gave me
-6/13/15 HOSPITAL Supposedly (18 weeks 2 days) due date that was given she said between 11/11/15-11/13/15
And i was also wanting to kno if i did conceive in early march could i possibly still be 22 weeks ? The baby moves alot between 12am-5am and i am able to see her kicking and her kicks are hard ! But my brother says he still cant feel them ...... And also if i did conceive early march was she still able to determine im having a girl on 6/13/15
And you have something written down from the hospital that says you were 18 weeks 2 days by their figuring at that time (June 13)? Have you checked these numbers and dates on the original report you were given?
In answer to the question of you being 22 weeks, it's 21 weeks gestational age today if counted from an assumed conception date of March 1, and even by your 12th week, doctors will say +/- 7 days if they are asked to tell a person a conception date by looking at the ultrasound of the embryo. Please read and re-read when I talk about later ultrasounds not being that reliable for determining conception dates.
Well according to my app i have to diffrent pregnancy calander apps one says im 22 weeks 5 days and the other says im 21 weeks today so i guess ill go with that one wow thank you so much and i also found out i was preggo 3/26 if tht helps any also but i sound accurate thank you
You said, "A week later i went to my obgyn they told me i was 16 weeks 2 days," when was that? In other words, what day on the calendar (month, day, and year) was it when you went to your ob-gyn and they told you that you were 16 weeks 2 days? I'm curious to see if it lines up with when your ob-gyn told you that you were 8 weeks.
At your first ultrasound, they told you that your due date is November 22, is that correct? Here is what the calculator says for a November 22 due date. Now please keep in mind that I have asked you to double-check all of this, people tell me dates from memory all the time and then come back later after having checked the record they got from their doctor, and lo and behold their date was not what they remembered. But *if* you got an ultrasound in your eighth week from your ob-gyn and if they told you based on your ultrasound that your due date was November 22, the calculator I use says
Probable date of ovulation: March 1
Possible dates of conception: February 25 to March 5
I take it that the only way you disagree with this is that if you ovulated around March 1, one would have expected (as did your doctor) that your previous period began on February 15. And you are pretty sure you saw no period then. However, I do trust a doctor with an ultrasound over when someone's last period was, because women can be irregular in their periods or skip them. My thought is that you got pregnant in the time frame named above (2/25-3/5) and that it was most likely closer to March 1, plus or minus a day or two, because that is what your doctor with an ultrasound said, and it was early in the pregnancy.
I am still curious, since you never answered my question, what day on the calendar (month, day, and year) it was when you went to your ob-gyn and they told you that you were 16 weeks 2 days. I'm asking to try to reconfirm the dates I just gave you. Two pieces of data are more useful than just one.
Ohh im sorry lol 6/29/15 because i have another appt on the 20th which was suppose to be scheduled 4 weeks after the 29th so yes it was on 6/29/15 and i brought it up to my obgyn about my encounter at the hospital on 6/13/15 i told him the ultrasound tech said u was 18 weeks 2 days and he said they are still goin by my first ultrasound which i had on 4/13/15 which was showing 8 weeks
And im also curious if i didnt have a period i could still get pregnant ? What do you think the spotting was 2/1/15 that i had ?
And so if i didnt have any signs of a period 2/15/15 , i still could have ovulated ?
Another thing i jus remembered i had a doctors appt on 4/9/15 and thts when the nurse pulled out the calender wheel and said well ur lmp was 2/15/15 and ur due date is 11/22/15 and that it made me 6 weeks so when the mid wife came i told her i wasnt sure of paternity and i needed to see how far along i was and i needed to kno incase i wanted to get an abortion so thats when she scheduled me for the ultrasound the following monday which was 4/13/15 which then i actually found i was 8 weeks
(Sorry for loss information) im jus trying to be as accurate before i breathe that sigh of releif )
But i think he was still going off of him thinkn i said my lmp was 2/15/15 ..... Because 6/22/15 i jus went in for a ob panel no Ultrasound was performed , he jus said he looked at my hospital records and etc and said it didnt matter wat the hospital said they always go by the first ultrasound which was wen he told me it made me 16 weeks 2 days on 6/22/15
Did he say 16 weeks 2 days from conception? or 16 weeks 2 days gestational age (which is counted from the assumed first day of the last period)? I could understand this conversation if by then the two of you were talking about when conception was. That's just not the way pregnancy is usually counted.
I really dont remember wat he said ! I think he said gestational but jus in case u can calculate both conception and gestational im really just trying to see who would more likely be my babys father so i can stopped bein depressed and resentful :(
I think the bleeding was one of those things women's bodies sometimes do. Sometimes there is no particular explanation. It could have been your cervix, irritated by bonking when having sex. It could have been a chemical pregnancy (which is an early miscarriage). It could have been a broken blood vessel.
While it sounds to me like your doctor told you from an ultrasound that you did conceive on or around March 1, and I trust that, it is never a bad idea in these circumstances to do a DNA test once the baby is born, just to put the whole question to rest. Sex with the undesired guy was far enough from when your ultrasound indicates you conceived that it is not a big worry, but it has been my experience that after the baby is born, the woman looks and wonders. So I do recommend doing the test.
Ok thank you so much ! And we are der gettin one i told my best friend before i got pregnant about the incident he was pissed wanted to kill the guy , then i found out i was preggo and told him so then he had his doubt saying its the other dudes because he supposedly used condoms whhich he did one time the others were not but now its jus a waiting game ! Now i feel more relieved i just pray its still a little girl in here i bought alot of girl clothes ;) THANK YOU ANNIE
Take care, and if I were you, I'd take this relatively close call as a prompt to do a bit of soul-searching about the pattern of getting impaired and then having sex or being in a sexually compromised situation. You're a role model to your children now, and you don't want them to copy you or really even see you like that. (Kids do what we do, not what we tell them to do.) And of course, you want to be in charge of your life, not a victim out of control, which being stoned or drunk does. Sorry about the unsolicited advice. I hope you do well this pregnancy.
Thank you very much i take that to the heart , that also let me knows that what your saying is very accurate (idk if ur relegious or not) but i did ask god that if what your saying is correct to please show me a sign and there it goes ! And i think u for the unsolicited advice it is very much needed !
I have a nother question lookin back at this paper i wrote when i found out ii was pregnant and i was trying ti figure out at the time who it could be and i calculated the 2 diff due dates which is wat the hospital and my obgyn came up with ,,,,,,, my due date 11/22/15 which is wat my first ultrasound says and thats the undesirable guy which is the due date my obgyn also gave me , how would this be possible if i conceived around march 1
And i calcualted 11/13/14 from my best friend which is the one the ultrasound tech gave me at the hospital
Now im really confused what am i adding wrong or could i jus have them switched ?
All the "weeks" counts given to you by a doctor, nurse, ultrasound tech, medical textbook, printout from the ultrasound, etc. (anything medical) begin with day 1 of the count on the first day of your last period, or a calculated first day of your last period if you don't know when yours was. Your due date of 11/22 gives the following:
Calculated first day of last menstrual period (based on embryo size): February 15
I dnt want to keep bugging u and getting on ur nerves , but its like everytime i get releived some doesnt add up But im still confused because if u count from 2/15 which is the time me and undesirable had sex and u count all the way to 4/13 tht added up to 8 weeks , 3/1 to 4/13 doesnt
All the "weeks" counts given to you by a doctor, nurse, ultrasound tech, medical textbook, printout from the ultrasound, etc. begin with day 1 of the count on the first day of your last period, or a calculated first day of your last period if you don't know when yours was. They don't think you are pregnant on that day, but that is when the clock starts ticking. (They think you got pregnant when you ovulated, which is not the same day as the first day of your last period. But they use the first day of the last period to start the count.)
Ask your doctor to explain the meaning of "gestational age" versus the date of conception. I think you conceived around March 1. That's what the doctor's information strongly suggests. Best I can do.
Hi, Can you help me? As my due date approaches I am getting more nervous about the potential father of my baby. Breakdown: I had sex with Guy #1 from Dec 31st until Jan 4th. Had what I thought was a normal period on Jan 9th. (cycle is usually 28/29 days). I had sex with guy #2 (my bf) on Jan 21st. I took a HPT on Jan 23rd cause I had mild cramps but it came back negative, I missed my expected period on Feb. 7th/8th and took an HPT on Feb 10th, that came back positive, First ultrasound over a week later said about 6weeks which was 5weeks & 4days from my LMP. Any idea on which guy? Thanks in advance
You took an hpt on February 10 that came back positive, and then your first ultrasound "over a week later" said about 6 weeks ... what does "over a week later" mean? 8 days later (i.e., February 18?) or 15 days later, or what?
Hi, I have another question. Don't know why I can't let this go, just pure agony waiting until the baby gets here to do a test. Anyways, what are the chances that my period on Jan. 9th wasn't actually a period? Because also when I went to my first visit on Feb. 18th (5weeks 4days) I had a sub-chorionic hemorrhage , and maybe the bleeding I had on Jan 9th-12th came from that. I am asking this because I am not totally sure of when I started my cycle in December. I know for sure that it was after Dec 7th and before Dec 16th. But not knowing for sure opened up (in my mind) a lot more possibility that it could be Guy # 1 (Dec. 31st- Jan 4th).
I know that this all could just be me being disappointed for allowing myself to be in a situation like this, cause before then in December/January I had never slept with 2 men nearly months close and the first time I do, I become pregnant. Just crazy odds. I know this feeling probably won't go away until my baby boy is here but it does help me getting outside look from someone who doesn't judge so excuse me as this is my last time annoying you lol...
What are your thoughts from my above situation, please? Thanks.
I'm just repeating your data because it's so many posts back:
Guy 1 Dec 31 - Jan 4
Period Jan 9 -- "or bleeding that wasn't a period"
Guy #2 Jan 21
Negative hpt Jan 23
Positive hpt Feb 10
Ultrasound on February 18 said "about 6 weeks"
You first said the ultrasound February 18 was at about 6 weeks. Then you said it was at 5 weeks 4 days. Did you get this exact count from the doctor, or did you count it yourself based on when your last period was? Also, when you got the ultrasound on February 18, did they tell you your due date based on it? If not, when was the first time you were given a due date, and was it from an ultrasound? Has your due date stayed consistent over the pregnancy every time you had an ultrasound?
The above data is correct. On Feb. 18th when I went to the doctor, The nurse asked when my last period was I told her Jan. 9th, then a lab technician did my ultra sound she said looks like we at are about six weeks, my doctor read the results from that day and gave me a due date of Oct 16th ( that's where I got that I was 5weeks and 4 days from).
For the most part my ultrasounds have been consistent, When I went for my anatomy scan at 22 weeks my OB informed me there's a possibility that we would move the due date a week (Oct. 9th) However, she still hasn't changed it. All my measurements have seemed to be on target with my due date. I did notice on my last ultrasound at 32 weeks 3 days my baby's head was measuring at 34 weeks 3 days while the rest of his body ( arms, legs etc.) measured at 32weeks 1 day. My dude date has yet to alter, but I have a appointment next week where I can confirm with my OB that everything is on target.
Feb 20th was my first ultrasound 8 weeks on feb 22 I went to the emergency room because I wasn't feeling good I have the Hosp paper that says 8 weeks 2 days March 24 I was dated at 12 weeks 2 days may 18th 20 weeks 1 day I begged my midwife to send me for a dating scan on sept 8th 36 weeks & 2 days I asked the tech to look back at my first sono papers she said everything matches up with dec 28th being my last period is it safe to say this pregnacy isn't from late nov early to mid dec ????? If I were to give birth now does this change my date of conception or my due date PLEASE HELP I feel like I'm putting my body through extra stress because of my thoughts I feel labor is near and im scared for my life
The pregnancy could not have been from early or mid-December if you had a scan February 20 that told you 7 weeks 6 days and a note from two days later that says 8 weeks 2 days. It sounds like you conceived around January 10 or 11.
Regarding the question of whether giving birth now changes your conception date, it does not. Say a woman gets pregnant on January 1 and she gets in a car accident and it triggers labor on August 30. Does this reach back and change the reality that she got pregnant on January 1? No, it just means the baby came early. You had an early ultrasound, and it saw and measured the actual baby. Try to trust your doctors and their many years of medical school and many more years of practice. They know what they see on the scan.
Hey im backk with an update ! U can see my previous thread up above from july ! Ok so heres the thing me and the person who u said was the father, according to the IDENTIGENE store bought home dna kit says diff im confused
First ultrasound 4/13/15 ( 8 weeks 1 day)
Had my beautiful daughter 10/21/15 due to low blood platelet count ( 35 weeks&& 4 days) was induced! Your guesstimate was conceptionn around 3/1-3/2 ! With ny The website said 2/25-3/5 ! We took the identigene store bought test he was excluded im confused
Now that the baby is born, go to a lab certified by the courts in your area of jurisdiction for a DNA test. Don't use a drugstore test, the courts would not accept it anyway (because they are not reliable).
Call the family courts in your area. Ask them for a list of labs approved to do DNA testing to determine paternity. (If they don't have a list, ask them how to proceed.) Any judge who handles rulings involving paternity will have a clerk who knows how to direct you to a lab the courts have approved. The labs have to be certified by the courts for doing DNA testing for paternity, or the test is not admissible as evidence.
I need help My period was 11/8/15-11/13/15. My fertile period was on the 11/15/15-11/21/15 my ovulation date was on 11/20/2015. I had sex with my BoyA on the 11/18/2015 and BoyB on 11/22/2015. Who is most likely to be the father Smh! Help please I really believe it's BoyA baby.
Hi Annie, I really hope you're still active on this site. I've been stressing out about this my whole pregnancy and this is the first time I'm coming out about it.
My last period was June 9 - 14
Before that in April & May period was from 4 - 9
I had sex with a friend June 17, protected
& Had sex w/ my husband June 19 & 21, unprotected and he came inside me both times
My expected due date is March 15, so it's coming up soon which I'm excited about but still stressed out. I know I had sex between the 2 men pretty close but I am hoping you know how to do a possible process of elimination on my situation?
I guess the first thing I would do is ask my doctor to look at my first ultrasound record and see if there is a crown-to-rump measurement that you could use to try to determine when you conceived. Do you go to the doctor without your husband?
If you had to try to figure this out without your doctor's input, if you had a standard 28-day menstrual cycle (which you don't), you would have ovulated on June 23. What you would do is compare your cycles (which obviously vary) and try to extrapolate. A person ovulates about 14 days before her next period. So on the cycles you have mentioned, your ovulation dates were March 21, April 20, and May 26, and your cycle lengths were 30, 31, and 35 days. If you compute a 31-day cycle from June 9, you would expect to have a period on July 8, and counting back 14 days from that gives you June 24.
The problem with all of this is that your cycles are too irregular to be sure that using a 31-day cycle length to do the computing makes any sense. If you have a record from all the last year and every single cycle was a certain length except these three, perhaps you could safely extrapolate. But I'd be inclined to think your doctor could help you more by looking up your earliest ultrasound to try to see if there is any computation of a due date on the record.
It depends on the doctor. A due date of March 15, if it came from a magic all-knowing crystal ball that totally knows, says that conception would have been June 23. This would be about one day after the last of the sperm from sex on June 17 would no longer be viable. Unfortunately, one day is not enough of a margin to be sure of anything, and also, you do not know how accurate the March 15 date is in the first place. Some doctors won't bother to change the due date unless the ultrasound says something totally different. You might ask your doctor if he ever analyzed whether the ultrasound measurements and developmental markers (by themselves) line up with the e.d.d. computed from the first day of your last period. If he has not ever compared these, you could ask him to.
The other possibility, though I don't think you need to go this far because the baby will be here so soon, is to get a prenatal DNA test through Ravgen or the DDC. It costs a whole lot of money, but then you would know.
Please help me, my lmp was february 15 lasted 6 days, had protected sex with boyfriend no.2 on february 25, then had unprotected sex with boyfriend no.1, ejaculated inside on february 29 (which shows my ovulation day as per my calendar. Missed my period this month which supposed to come on 15th march. I believe im pregnant and not sure who the father may be.please give me your thoughts.
To know for sure that you did ovulate on February 29, your periods would have to be absolutely like clockwork every 28 or 29 days with never any variation. If sometimes the cycle is longer than that (or shorter), there is no certain information to be gained from counting forward from the first day of a period. Also, though using protection is helpful, it's not guaranteed either. Condoms without foam are considered to be about 80% effective because of user variation in method of use. (Putting them on before the guy has an erection is supposed to be the best way.) If any pre-ejaculate had sperm in it, or if there was contact after ejaculation, you could get pregnant by the partner who used protection. (Sperm can last 5 or 6 days in your system.) In short, if you are pregnant, nothing absolutely rules out the guy on the 25th. Because the sex with the earlier guy was protected, it makes the odds for the second guy better, but you'd have to do a DNA test in the end to be sure.
Hi annie, can you share with me your thoughts as i am really worried now and scared. My pt result is positive and im totally confused. As i have mentioned that we did not have a contact after he ejaculated and the guy pulled out with condom on when he ejaculated. Is it still possible that he will be the father of my baby? I honestly doesnt want him to be the babys father as i love the other guy more than him. Please let mebknow what u think?
The odds are that it is the second guy. But there is no guarantee, since these were so close together. All you can do is take a DNA test. You can spend around $1,700 - 2,000 to get a prenatal test from Ravgen or the DDC, or you can spend about a tenth of that and get a test after the baby is born. Sorry but there is no other way to know for sure.
Thanks annie. But i think and praying that it is the second guy. I feel so lost now and dont know how to tell him. I love him dearly and he knows that i am pregnant with him. I dont want to make his world turn up side down. He will surely hate me. And i hate myself now for allowing this things to happen. I feel like im the most stupid person in the world. :(
I had my period on January 21,2016 I had sex with my ex on January 29 and 30 I had sex with my current boyfriend on January 31 I went to the doctor on March 17,2016 and was told I was 8 weeks and 4 days which puts me ovulating on the 30th who is the father
Hi, Mommy2b8889, if you really did ovulate on January 30, the dad could be either guy. You would have had sperm from your ex within your reproductive tract, and since an egg can last 24-36 hours, you would then also have sperm from your current boyfriend in your system within that time. A lot depends on how the doctor got to the conclusion that you were at 8 weeks 4 days. Was it by an ultrasound?
The doctor gave me the due date from measuring the baby on a ultrasound. I went back to the doctor at 16 weeks and was told that my baby measured with a due date of October 22, 2016 instead of the 23rd