anxiety ruining my pregnancy

[zooey_88]

So i had a scan that dated me at 7 weeks i think , i dont have scan on me now but the ultra sound went with a due date of 16 of september , my periods are extremely irregular but i ghink my last one was october? anyway my problem is i had unprotected sex near the end of november possibly early dec (i just cant seem as much as i try to recall dates) the guy didnt ejaculate in me , but my anxiety at this stage that it might not be my partners is killing me , can anybody help with this :(

[AnnieBrooke]

It sounds like your boyfriend's.  Again, here is what the calculator says for a due date of September 16:

     Probable date of ovulation:  December 24
     Possible dates of conception:  December 20 to 28
     Due date:  September 16 (40 weeks)

[zooey_88]

Really quick recap , edd of 16th September ,baby measuring 8 weeks on the 2nd of february , ive been racking my brain bk to when the unprotected sex could have been and i have managed to trace it bk that it was no later than 10th of December , do you think i could still be ok? Ive thought of nothing since its honestly taking over and starting to show :( some of the conception calculators have put me at a time frame of 17-23rd dec and that's only if there scan was accurate :(

[AnnieBrooke]

I think you can relax, and when the baby is born, to reconfirm everything, get a DNA test.  But you sound OK.

[zooey_88]

Also i could have lost track and thought i was 24 weeks by mistake :\

[zooey_88]

So i checked my scan and the 6th was the edd based on lmp but i told my doc i didn't remember exactly wen that was and ge said he just had to put a date down anyway so that's not reliable but , anyway , my edd based on aua was 15th sep and 17th sep so i guess she picked the middle one and got 16th and the scan said i was measuring 8 weeks , when i went for my 24 week scan she said i was 23 weeks but my due date wasn't changed? Anyway do u guys think I can relax about this now and put it out of my head? I don't want the last few weeks to be like this :(

[RippedonScotch]

you should be fine.  the 6th may just be that is what you are measuring to, as in measuring early but if they did a dating scan at 7 wks that is the most accurate that you are going to get.   I know for me right now I'm 18 wks but my last scan at 12 weeks baby was measuring at least a week early.

[zooey_88]

I have no way of contacting the guy , that's the worst thing of it , me and my boyfriend had gone through such a bad time , in due in 7 weeks and i cried yesterday because he's finally being so kind and caring and it just finally felt like we were in the right place and now this is hanging over me , my boyfriend and i never practised safe sex so the probability of it being his is huge but its just that one occasion because i cant exactly pinpoint when it was, the guy didn't ejaculate in me , i cant jog my memory , it was sometime between late November and early December . Do u think i need to worry or am i being over anxious?

[AnnieBrooke]

Ask your doctor, I couldn't tell you what they meant by what they wrote on your scan.  Even if you conceived on December 14, it does not implicate the guy in November.  If you don't have any memory of exactly when the sex was in late November, can you ask the guy if he knows?

[zooey_88]

Also another weird thing i noticed and im hoping u can explain it to me :( on that particular scan they had different dates down ,they had the 6th of September ,15th and 16th sept , but they have told me my due date is the 16th? Shud i be thinking that its possibly the 6th either?

[zooey_88]

Do you think its accurate?

[AnnieBrooke]

It sounds like your boyfriend's, not the guy from late November or early December.  Here is what the calculator says for a due date of September 16:

     Probable date of ovulation:  December 24
     Possible dates of conception:  December 20 to 28
     Due date:  September 16 (40 weeks)

[zooey_88]

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