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child support/ dna... freaking out. help?
Hi im 29 weeks pregnant and im due to have my baby at 38 weeks... all this time i've assumed guy A is the father of my child but im still not sure me and him are in really bad terms and theres no way i can get him to dna test without putting him on child support.. i would not want to show up there and have them tell me hes not the father, i cant talk to either one of the other guys cause guy B has a gf and shes pregnant and Guy C is in tampa... my lmp was october 12, 2014, had unprotected sex with guy A on october 26, 2014 and he finished inside me. we broke up and 3 days later on october 29-30 i had protected sex with guy b, we used a condom and it did not break.. on november 4 , 2014 i had sex with guy c (best guy friend) he did not use a condom on me. (i was drunk). on november 8 2014 i got a faint positive then the next day a positive digital test. i was given a due date of july 19 2015. baby is a girl and has always measured right on time... please tell me what you think.. thanks.
Thank you.. I'm just going to take him to court and do the test. If it comes up that he's not the father (which I doubt that will happen cause im sure he is now) then I will test with the second guy..
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Here is what I wrote before, have any of the facts changed?
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I'd say your (first) ex-boyfriend has the biggest chance.
Not the third guy at all, you had sex with him only 4 days before a positive on a home test, which is simply too soon to come up + from sex 4 days prior.
Probably not the second guy. The difference between the 26th and 29th is not very compelling, but when you add it to all the other info including correct condom use, the odds are stronger for the first guy.
In your shoes I would assume the (first) ex is the dad during the pregnancy, and then do a DNA test at the time of the baby's birth. If you would need it for child-support purposes, go to a lab certified by the courts. If not, do a drugstore test with both your first ex and your second ex.
I'll add, if you prefer to not embarrass yourself by saying the first guy is the dad and then finding out by the DNA test that he is not, ask the second guy to do a drugstore test as soon as the baby is born, and send it in, and if the results rule him out (and keep in mind that drugstore tests are not 100% all the time) then you could pretty safely (given all the other evidence) do a DNA test with the first guy.
In other words, if you have to force the test by naming the first guy as the father in a child-support action, and don't want to do so and then have him come up not the father, you could test with the second guy yourself, first. But for the reasons I laid out above, I think it is pretty likely the first guy is the dad, so if you don't want to waste the money on a drugstore test or put the second guy on the spot, I think you're pretty safe to just force the test with the first guy.
I don't think you are going to get further guarantees than this from anyone until you do test. Very sorry you and the probable baby daddy are on such bad terms.
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I'd say your (first) ex-boyfriend has the biggest chance.
Not the third guy at all, you had sex with him only 4 days before a positive on a home test, which is simply too soon to come up + from sex 4 days prior.
Probably not the second guy. The difference between the 26th and 29th is not very compelling, but when you add it to all the other info including correct condom use, the odds are stronger for the first guy.
In your shoes I would assume the (first) ex is the dad during the pregnancy, and then do a DNA test at the time of the baby's birth. If you would need it for child-support purposes, go to a lab certified by the courts. If not, do a drugstore test with both your first ex and your second ex.
I'll add, if you prefer to not embarrass yourself by saying the first guy is the dad and then finding out by the DNA test that he is not, ask the second guy to do a drugstore test as soon as the baby is born, and send it in, and if the results rule him out (and keep in mind that drugstore tests are not 100% all the time) then you could pretty safely (given all the other evidence) do a DNA test with the first guy.
In other words, if you have to force the test by naming the first guy as the father in a child-support action, and don't want to do so and then have him come up not the father, you could test with the second guy yourself, first. But for the reasons I laid out above, I think it is pretty likely the first guy is the dad, so if you don't want to waste the money on a drugstore test or put the second guy on the spot, I think you're pretty safe to just force the test with the first guy.
I don't think you are going to get further guarantees than this from anyone until you do test. Very sorry you and the probable baby daddy are on such bad terms.
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