please take me out of all these

[Nanota78]

I had sex with my ex on 23rd November 2012 and my partner on 26th November and regularly after that.my baby had born on 11th September 2013. despite of knowing that dates are not suggested to worry, i took a DNA test of my son with my ex, when he was 1 yrs old. my ex was excluded in the result. i thanked God A lot but as the time passed, my worry becomes grow. my son looks more like my ex. than my partner. i often recall my ex when i see my son.
I noticed many features in my son which we (me & my partner) doesn't have but my ex has. for example.
1. Head shape
2. eye shape
3. chin cleft.
4. ear lobes
5  toes type
6 cheeks dimple
Are these features really has something to worry?
it is an endless frightened feelings.

[AnnieBrooke]

One other way to try to calm yourself is to compare a photo of your baby to a photo of your partner at exactly the same age.  It doesn't work to look at a photo of the partner and try to compare it directly to your baby, but if you get a photo of each person taken at around the same time of life (such as, at 2 months old or 5 months old or a year old) often the resemblance that is not necessarily clear  in person, is there on the photographs.  

[Nanota78]

Yes i went with him to the lab and blood of both (he and my child)taken for sample in front of me.
i can not go to the doctors to see my reports. it will surely create a doubt in their mind and i am not in the situaion to take this risk.
don't you think, i have the reason to not go for another test just because of the dates of intercourse?
may be the result is due to a lab error.
may be my ex played a hanky panky.
may be my period was just spotting.
but dates? i thinks its enough to believe that who is the father and i believe.
actually i was thinking any other scientific theory or effect of emotional feelings  on embryo etc. but now I think i should take the features & resemblance as a punishment of GOD whatever i did.
anyways thanks Annie for your kind cooperation.

[AnnieBrooke]

I also think you could possibly ask your doctor for the information from your past records.  Look for your earliest ultrasound that gave you a due date.  It should show that there is nothing to worry about.

Incidentally, that article you found just explains a theory, it has been shown in some other animals but not in humans.  There is no proof that the theory applies to humans.  And besides, even if it were true, it does not mean your partner is not the dad, just that the baby resembles someone else.

I am curious about one thing, though.  If your ex was married and paranoid, why does this prove to you that there was no hanky-panky over the DNA test?  I can see that you having a period in between him and your partner is proof he is not the dad, but it is harder to understand your certainty that a DNA test coming up negative rules him out if you didn't test with your partner.  Unless, of course, you went with him to the lab and saw the swab be done.

[AnnieBrooke]

If everyone is still freaked out (your ex in particular) perhaps he would be willing to pay for another DNA test that uses your partner's swab.

[Nanota78]

ohh sorry, i didn't see your second reply and commented on previous reply.
now i m not in touch with my ex any more. but i don't know why you suggesting me another test when dates are not matched, baby was on time and DNA test in my favor.
I gone through an article on net which get me more discomfert.
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/02/baby-looks-like-ex-research
could it happen?

[AnnieBrooke]

I suggested another test because you are so nervous.  The only women who post on this site freaked out that a test might be wrong are the ones who did not test with both men.  It helps to get both a negative and a positive.  

[AnnieBrooke]

It doesn't sound like it.

[Nanota78]

thanks Annie, me too think so but still i am wonder, why it happened to my son. it could help me if you or anyone has a view point regarding this.

[AnnieBrooke]

If your baby was on time, he would have been conceived after the 15th of December.  Did you have any early ultrasounds?  If so, so you still have the information about what the baby's estimated due date was from an early ultrasound?

[Nanota78]

my all ultrasound report has been misplaced . but i have a discharge slip which shows 38 weeks baby.i can recall that i had  periods after my nightmare encounter. my Ex is a married guy and he hv been  much scared than me to be father of the child so there is no chance of any hanky panky in DNA test from his side.
All evidences in favor of my partner but my main concern are the features which i hv described.
i just want to know, are these features has worth to worry?