Aa
prenatal dna test
Has anyone done a DNA test while still pregnant? It's kind of important we know before the baby gets here who the dad is due to certain circumstances...
COMMUNITY LEADER
It is not risky to do a paternity test before the baby is born.
If a woman is going to do an amniocentesis or chorionic villi sampling, a DNA test could also be done. Those are invasive procedures and are never done only for purposes of determining paternity. A doctor will simply not order the test if that is the only reason. (The woman can get the paternity test tacked onto the list of things done with the sample drawn, but the sample would only be drawn for more important medical reasons.) Perhaps that is why there is the assertion out there that doing a DNA test is dangerous. Those medical procedures carry risk and people think they are done to test paternity, so they parrot back the "it's dangerous" mantra.
However, in the last several years, DNA labs have developed methods to do paternity testing before the baby is born, from a simple blood draw from the mother (her arm) and swabs from the father(s). That (obviously) carries no risk to the baby. It's a great thing that these tests have been developed.
Those tests have only two drawbacks. One is that they are about ten times as costly as doing a DNA test after the baby is born. The other is that because of the high cost, a whole bunch of sketchy or downright charlatan 'labs' have sprung up offering to do prenatal DNA tests. I have heard a lot of horror stories on this forum of lost results, wrong results, dodgy methods, and downright cheats.
The two best DNA labs that do this kind of testing are Ravgen and the DDC. I would not go with any other if I needed a prenatal DNA test. I believe the tests cost in the ballpark of $1700 to $2000+. If you can handle the cost, there is nothing else to get in your way of doing the test. But don't go with one of the cheapie outfits advertising on the Internet, you will simply waste your money.
Good luck!!!
ps -- As someone who struggled with infertility for years, I am here to say that if you put your baby up for adoption, you will be blessed by the new mother every day of her life.
If a woman is going to do an amniocentesis or chorionic villi sampling, a DNA test could also be done. Those are invasive procedures and are never done only for purposes of determining paternity. A doctor will simply not order the test if that is the only reason. (The woman can get the paternity test tacked onto the list of things done with the sample drawn, but the sample would only be drawn for more important medical reasons.) Perhaps that is why there is the assertion out there that doing a DNA test is dangerous. Those medical procedures carry risk and people think they are done to test paternity, so they parrot back the "it's dangerous" mantra.
However, in the last several years, DNA labs have developed methods to do paternity testing before the baby is born, from a simple blood draw from the mother (her arm) and swabs from the father(s). That (obviously) carries no risk to the baby. It's a great thing that these tests have been developed.
Those tests have only two drawbacks. One is that they are about ten times as costly as doing a DNA test after the baby is born. The other is that because of the high cost, a whole bunch of sketchy or downright charlatan 'labs' have sprung up offering to do prenatal DNA tests. I have heard a lot of horror stories on this forum of lost results, wrong results, dodgy methods, and downright cheats.
The two best DNA labs that do this kind of testing are Ravgen and the DDC. I would not go with any other if I needed a prenatal DNA test. I believe the tests cost in the ballpark of $1700 to $2000+. If you can handle the cost, there is nothing else to get in your way of doing the test. But don't go with one of the cheapie outfits advertising on the Internet, you will simply waste your money.
Good luck!!!
ps -- As someone who struggled with infertility for years, I am here to say that if you put your baby up for adoption, you will be blessed by the new mother every day of her life.
But Yes I've heard it is very risky and that If you have it done it can't be till way later in pregnancy.
I don't think she is selfish or doesn't love her kid... I wish more women would actually give children a chance at life then abort them like most do.. not judging anyone who has one but I think adoption is a better alternative. And she even says she wants the baby to have opportunities and a loving home and she doesnt think the baby will have that. there is so many people out there who struggle with infertility and would take that baby on a heart beat.
i heard is bad when u do a dna wile preagnat it could cause a misscariage and plus i dont think they wouldnt do it until the baby is born because of high risk i am telling you by experience but good luck to you and i hope everithing c
Personally I think adoption is one of the most selfess things you can do. Giving up your child is hard, but by doing that you're giving your child a life you could never give him/her yourself, depending on the circumstances. Your baby will be with two loving parents who are stable and who desperately want a child. I don't see how that's selfish.. matter of opinion, I guess.
At least she is gifting the baby to someone who can't have children then murdering him/her in abortion. Sorry I can't help because I have no idea about DNA tests, I know my sister got one but I don't know how it works or the danger risks. I hope you are able to find out what you need. Thank you for being a brave mum and thinking of your child in this loving way. You're very strong mother and I wish you good luck in finding the perfect parents for your child if that be what happens.
I want to also give you a hand too and stay strong xo
Sorry for drama I allowed on this post I hate when people want to so quickly judge someone when they don't know the half of it or what's it like
Good luck and much love
Sorry for drama I allowed on this post I hate when people want to so quickly judge someone when they don't know the half of it or what's it like
Good luck and much love
I totally think it's nunderstandable and respectful to consider adoption but I hope you and this guy can talk about him long and helping this baby regardless if he isn't the biodd. I know that'll be harder with you two not together but whatever happens I hope the best for you and this baby. Open adoption is definitely better then a closed one too.
Adoption is NOT always a selfish choice yes sometimes it can be but not every time and it doesn't have to be "abandonment". Some women are faced with the hard reality that they cannot provide a healthy home for a baby and there are women out there who can't have babies and sometimes it is just best for baby to have a better chance. There are women out there who'd love to keep their baby but havebto choose to give it away because they simply cannot give it the home it needs. I think it's wrong for people man or woman to look down on someone who thinks there is a better life for their baby then what they can give and you have no clue how hard of a choice that can be.
@octmommy2015 we haven't discussed that yet. I think he wants to cross that bridge when it gets here.
I never once cheated. Her dad and I were not together when the sex happened. Hell we still aren't together. And I'm not abandoning him/her, it would be an open adoption. To two loving parents, oppose to one struggling mother and no dad. I would and do love this baby more than any of you understand but I'm trying to do what's best for him/her
I am not against you choosing adoption if that's what works for you but why not treat baby like it is the guy that will helps either way? Put him on certificate if he agrees you can still do that. Bio father doesn't have to determine whochooses to be dad. Will your daughters father care? Does he know it might be someone else's?
I think it's beautiful to adopt if need be, I would never do that no matter what because its still a part of me but blabla to anyone who wants to talk down on adoption there are woman out there who would love that baby and who can't conceive
And I would love the child enough to give it more than I can by giving it to a family who can actually care for it. And it's not that the other guy has money. It's that I have help caring for our daughter physically and emotionally.
Are you saying that adoption is not good ??!
If that is what she would like to do, theres nothing wrong with it... its a selfless thing to do..
If that is what she would like to do, theres nothing wrong with it... its a selfless thing to do..
If it's my daughter's dad's kid I plan on keeping it because he will be there to help financial and emotionally...if it's this other persons I would like to find it an adoptive family for it...the other guy said he wants nothing to do with it and he plans on moving across country in two months...I know you all might not understand my situation fully, and think I'm unfair but every child deserves two parents even if that means giving them to a family who wants then
That is something you would have to talk to the doc about by why so important to know before? What would it possibly change?
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the DNA / Paternity Community
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.
