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So my best friend cheated on her boyfriend a while back with her ex. She swears that it didn't even last 2 seconds before she pushed him off and left and that he didn't finish and that they were in the shower. It had also been months since they had done anything together. She ended up getting pregnant and wants it so bad to be her boyfriends but is scared that it could still be her ex's. I looked up all the research I could on pre come causing women to get pregnant to help ease her mind but she is still freaking out and I don't want her stressing anymore. Its not healthy for her and the baby. So could you ladies maybe provide some more help? She also says that her and her current had sex the same day she had sex with her ex but did it multiple times. And every day before and after that. If that helps at all.
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Thing to do, then, is to google the question and to read only reputable medical sources like Mayo Clinic or the Centers for Disease Control or scholarly articles.  On MedHelp, in the patient-to-patient advice forums, all you will get is a bunch of people without medical training giving you their opinions.  What I have read on the topic is that pre-ejaculate can sometimes but not always contain sperm, since all it does is come down the urethra, which may or may not contain sperm.  You might google "Cowpers Gland" for the function.  But it does not sound like you really have enough facts to even be sure this is the right question to be asking.  If a doctor said she was already pregnant when she had the unprotected sex with her ex, and she won't believe her doctor, I don't know why she will be convinced by anything you (who presumably are not a doctor) tell her.  
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I'm trying to see if someone else has done research on the probability of pre ejaculation cause pregnancy because yes her doctor is telling her she would have already been pregnant at the time this happened but if you take the last conception date her doctor gave her and take 2 weeks off of it it puts it directly on august 1st which is either the day of or the day before the incident with her ex. She heard somewhere that doctors can be off by two weeks in either direction with conception dates but I told her that since her doctor had already given her a 2 week time period (from the start of July to mid July) that she had to have already been pregnant at the time. I'm just trying to help ease her mind cause there's not much we can so till the baby is born. So I just wanted to know if anyone has done any other research on the topic.
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I can't tell what you are looking up.  The way you are telling the story, one time your friend had sex with two guys really close together, and the first guy did not ejaculate.  But her doctor is saying that at the time this happened, she would have already been pregnant.  So, what question would you be trying to answer, and what research are you hoping to find someone who has done?
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She doesn't. And the timing is also weird. I don't remember her exact due date but I do remember that she said the incident with her ex happened either august 1st or second. And that every doctor she has had said she conceived either early or mid July. But she read that they can be off by two weeks either direction and so she won't calm down about it. She has been freaking out for months. I've told her the odds that he is the father are really low but I don't know I figured maybe someone else has done some research on this and can help me cause I looked at over 30 websites that all said the same things. There has to be something out there that says SOMETHING different. I felt like I kept reading the same page over and over again practically
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From the way you tell the story, there is no way to know if the sex on that particular day even had a chance to produce a pregnancy.  How does she know that is when she ovulated?
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Anyone know anything on the subject??
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I just mean like any statistics or any other kinds of research. Cause she swears that all he did was put it in. (Sorry if its TMI) she freaked out pushed him off and left. Didn't even finish her shower. (Honestly on a completely unrelated topic I told her she should have filed charges cause she was showering at his place because she had to stay there while she was working cause her car broke down and she was friends with his roommates as well and he wasn't supposed to be there. He had supposedly come home early from work and saw she was there and just claimed in the shower with her.) She is afraid to tell her boyfriend about it cause she thinks he won't see it like I do so I just want to see if anyone else has dine any other research on this that I didn't find myself cause EVERYTHING that I found said yes its possible but extremely unlikely unless the male had finished in the past 24 hours.
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Its still a chance that it could be his when I got pregnant with my daughter it was not from him getting off because it didn't last that long. When I asked my doctor she told me that alot of women get pregnant from pre ***
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Honestly, there's no way any of us will know. She'll have to get a DNA test.
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