torn apart,

[lostgirl99]

me & my boyfriend separated on the 7-8th and I made a mistake by seeing my ex,
my LMP was AUG.29th but my bleeding was very light ....
my ex didn't *** inside of me he pulled out and grabbed a t-shirt and used that ,(I knw the pull out method doesn't wrk)
& I cant keep my mind at ease I just found out 3 weeks ago that I was pregnant
my period was suppose to start on sept 29 and I didn't start so I figured it was stress
on OCT 1st I took a test and it was negative - so I  was somewhat relieved
on OCT 6th I took 2 pregnancy test and they both had a faint positive so I called a free clinic and explained to them the situation and the test was a faint line as well so they did a u/s and a vaginal u/s and couldn't see anything they told me to come back in 3 weeks to see if they can see anything , they said I was not to far, and they kind of had my mind at ease to where I believed it was my bfs,
they told me I was probably 4 weeks and when I come back I would be 7 weeks,
well MONDAY I went to a different location to do a ultrasound and did the measurements and the baby was at 6 weeks 5 days, so its kind of the same estimate as the first location I went to , I just want to be sure who the father is, I  know I made a mistake......and I don't want to fall into depression with this pregnancy which I already know I am starting to,
please I don't want to feel worse then what I feel now I just need someone to talk to......

[AnnieBrooke]

I really don't think this is a case for an abortion.  I'm pro-choice so am not saying this from a philosophical or religious objection.  I just think you are being a little reactionary.  If you can't think this over without going crazy, please talk to a counselor or therapist.

[lostgirl99]

Yesss,!thats what im hoping for,....

[AnnieBrooke]

I think you conceived around the 20 - 22.  It seems like this is the time frame you want it to be, correct?

[lostgirl99]

Im really debating a abor**** even tho tat hurts but my mind is going crazy w this :-( & i dont think i can ever come at ease w this ,i knw my depression will take a toll over me....& d bby will suffer more & i dont want that

[AnnieBrooke]

I think that when someone is bothered by guilt over an infidelity, she will never be at ease, no matter how many times someone (even someone as authoritative as a doctor) explains the dates.

[lostgirl99]

hey sorry to bother ,
but IDK I thought I could stay at ease with this but I seem to not
my sister in law keeps saying stuff that makes me second guess
but is this true if your with someone pregnancy symptoms don't really mean anything , my boyfriend is craving all kinds of sweets and it just breaks my heart going thru this.....

[lostgirl99]

Thanks,Im a little relieved,I will update you on my next dr visit!!!!

[AnnieBrooke]

I think you conceived around the 20-22.  That means, no ex.

[lostgirl99]

Do you think there would be a possibility it could be my ex or what can the posibilities be

[AnnieBrooke]

I think your ex had nothing to do with your pregnancy.  It sounds like you conceived somewhere around the 20th, 21st or 22nd.

[lostgirl99]

& my cycles been irregular for couple months now

[lostgirl99]

Sorry & yes oct 27th this monday i went to get a ultrasound done & i was 6wks 5days ! & yes i had intercourse with my ex on September 8th only and he pulled out and came on a shirt, sorry i didnt make it more clear

[AnnieBrooke]

Also, do you sometimes have long cycles?  If I can understand your story, things add up to you having gotten pregnant sometime around the 22nd of September (if I'm guessing right about your ultrasound being on Monday October 27).  If you conceived on September 22, you will not be pregnant by your ex.

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm actually having a little trouble following the story since you haven't said calendar dates, only things like "the 8th" which I assume you mean September 8, and "well MONDAY I went to a different location to do a ultrasound and did the measurements and the baby was at 6 weeks 5 days," which I can't in fact tell if that is Monday, October 27, or Monday, October 21?

[AnnieBrooke]

So, when you said, "me & my boyfriend separated on the 7-8th and I made a mistake by seeing my ex," you were saying that the date of the sex with your ex was the 7th or 8th?

[lostgirl99]

On d 8th ,we were temporarily apart,but me & i has sex w my bf on the 10&13 and days after that

[AnnieBrooke]

You began by saying you and your boyfriend "separated" the 7-8th.  Does this mean you broke up, or just that you were temporarily apart?  When did you have sex with your ex?  And when was the last time you had sex with your boyfriend?

[lostgirl99]

btw I didn't mention my due date
from my period it says I would be due JUNE 5,2015
from the 1st ultrasound I got JUNE 15,2015
and from MONDAYS I got JUNE 17 2015