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who is the father
I am 9 weeks 1day today. Based off my ultrasound I am due july 3rd 2014 and if it helps i have irregular periods. So 9 weeks and 1 day ago goes back to October 3rd which is the day me and my fiance had broken up. I had got with my ex and one thing led to another. .. but I am wondering if my ex could be the father or was I already pregnant by my fiance?
COMMUNITY LEADER
Do you have any ultrasound results, preferably early in the pregnancy? An estimated due date given to you from the ultrasound?
Hello !!! I had sex with two guys during May !!! I know sounds pretty slutty !! But after that I stop I got my period June around the ends of it !! Than in June I started seeing my ex again but than July 12th around the time I got my period and in July 27th we did it again !! And in August I never got my period again who's the dad ?
COMMUNITY LEADER
Not that wrong. An app does not look at the actual embryo on the screen and measure its crown-to-rump measurement. If you have irregular periods, you ovulated right when the measurements of the actual baby say you did, not when the app says you did.
See that's why I'm confused. The first day of my last period was September 17th. When I use conception calculators they tell me I conceived around September 30 th and that my due date is June 24th. But the sonagrapher told me i was due july 3rd. Is there any chance she could be wrong
all i know is the doctor ask me when my period was
it was september 25th for 6 days a normal period
every tuesday i hit a week
and wenesday is a week and one day
she said conception date was the 9th
the baby measured exactly 8 weeks on november 26th
today i am 9 weeks and 5 days
the doctor gave me an exact calendar based on how big the baby was.
thats al i know and what she told me.
it was september 25th for 6 days a normal period
every tuesday i hit a week
and wenesday is a week and one day
she said conception date was the 9th
the baby measured exactly 8 weeks on november 26th
today i am 9 weeks and 5 days
the doctor gave me an exact calendar based on how big the baby was.
thats al i know and what she told me.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Are you clear on the difference between the length of a pregnancy as a doctor counts it, versus the length of a pregnancy if dated from the moment of conception? If not:
The medical way of counting pregnancy --
First day of the period is Day 1. (Bleeding stops around Day 4, 5, or 6.) Conception is assumed to happen on approximately Day 14, 15 or 16. (For example, if a doctor says a woman is in her 22nd week, or "22 weeks pregnant," the doctor is saying it has been about 20 weeks from conception.)
The way most women (and men) think of pregnancy --
Somewhere around two weeks after the period comes, she ovulates. If she gets pregnant, it happens that day or possibly the day after. She might then begin her pregnancy count that day, figuring (logically enough) that pregnancy begins with conception.
The medical way of dating pregnancy gives a 40-week pregnancy, when in fact pregnancy from conception to birth is 266 days long. The extra two weeks are in there to take the count back to the assumed first day of the last period.
This day and age of early detection of pregnancy, a count that begins on Day 1 of the period (the first day of bleeding) seems hard to understand. But back when doctors began to apply science to measuring pregnancy, the bleeding at the first day of the last period was a big, obvious signal, and in fact the ONLY thing they had to go on for a start point for listing norms of growth at different stages of pregnancy. There were no early tests, and no ultrasound. So, all the medical books were calibrated to the first day of the last period, and all medical practice was too. All medical schools taught that norm, and all doctors, ultrasound techs, nurses and labs still use that kind of count in this day and age. They KNOW that day 1, there is no egg or baby, there is just still a period. But they have to begin the count somewhere definite. All medical writing and all measurement uses that count.
Often, someone will merely say "How far 'along' am I?" and the doctor will automatically answer medically, without remembering that perhaps the person was asking when they conceived. Or the person doesn't ask, and just goes home with a wrong notion.
You keep asking here if the first day of your pregnancy count in weeks is not the day you would have had to had sex. No, you would have to have sex about two weeks after that point. If the doc says to you, for example, that you are 8 weeks 3 days pregnant, he means you were about 6 weeks 3 days from conception.
This is why people keep answering you that your conception date would have been around the 10th of October.
The medical way of counting pregnancy --
First day of the period is Day 1. (Bleeding stops around Day 4, 5, or 6.) Conception is assumed to happen on approximately Day 14, 15 or 16. (For example, if a doctor says a woman is in her 22nd week, or "22 weeks pregnant," the doctor is saying it has been about 20 weeks from conception.)
The way most women (and men) think of pregnancy --
Somewhere around two weeks after the period comes, she ovulates. If she gets pregnant, it happens that day or possibly the day after. She might then begin her pregnancy count that day, figuring (logically enough) that pregnancy begins with conception.
The medical way of dating pregnancy gives a 40-week pregnancy, when in fact pregnancy from conception to birth is 266 days long. The extra two weeks are in there to take the count back to the assumed first day of the last period.
This day and age of early detection of pregnancy, a count that begins on Day 1 of the period (the first day of bleeding) seems hard to understand. But back when doctors began to apply science to measuring pregnancy, the bleeding at the first day of the last period was a big, obvious signal, and in fact the ONLY thing they had to go on for a start point for listing norms of growth at different stages of pregnancy. There were no early tests, and no ultrasound. So, all the medical books were calibrated to the first day of the last period, and all medical practice was too. All medical schools taught that norm, and all doctors, ultrasound techs, nurses and labs still use that kind of count in this day and age. They KNOW that day 1, there is no egg or baby, there is just still a period. But they have to begin the count somewhere definite. All medical writing and all measurement uses that count.
Often, someone will merely say "How far 'along' am I?" and the doctor will automatically answer medically, without remembering that perhaps the person was asking when they conceived. Or the person doesn't ask, and just goes home with a wrong notion.
You keep asking here if the first day of your pregnancy count in weeks is not the day you would have had to had sex. No, you would have to have sex about two weeks after that point. If the doc says to you, for example, that you are 8 weeks 3 days pregnant, he means you were about 6 weeks 3 days from conception.
This is why people keep answering you that your conception date would have been around the 10th of October.
No you didn't get pregnant in sept. You got pregnant around the 10th of October. Either guy can be the dad and a DNA test is the ONLY way to know who the dad is. The doctors don't date a pregnancy by the day you conceived they date it to your last period. Sorry but none of us can tell you, doctors can't tell you. Only a DNA test.
I'm just really confused because today I'm nine weeks three days and nine weeks three days ago was September twenty sixth so wouldn't I have had sex back in September to be pregnant?
There's no way that the sex for creating the baby was at the end of September?
So what are the odds looking like. I had sex with my fiance all the time up until the second of October and then the 3rd through the 9 th with my ex and on the 11 with my fiance again.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh, and I see you went to the hospital on or about the day you had sex that caused you to conceive. No pregnancy test will come up positive then. It has to be a couple of weeks later.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Urine pregnancy tests aren't the greatest if you did not use first-morning (concentrated) urine.
Thank you and to add one more thing in if it helps. I went to the hospital on the 11 of October and when I told them all the things that were wrong with me they gave me a urine pregnancy test and it was negative.
COMMUNITY LEADER
If the sex with your ex on the 9th was unprotected, and the sex on the 11th with your fiance was unprotected, you have an even chance of the baby being either guy's. Here is what the conception calculator says for a due date of July 3:
Probable date of ovulation: October 10
Possible dates of conception: October 6 to 14
Due Date: July 3 (40 weeks)
When you say "going back 9 weeks 1 day ago ..." and who you slept with then, you aren't using the kind of count a doctor uses. When he or she says a number of weeks, he or she is NOT counting back to the day that you presumably conceived. They are counting back to a (presumed) first day of your last period. Since your periods are irregular, your actual first day of your last period doesn't match that day, but it doesn't matter -- they saw the embryo by ultrasound, and measured it, and counted forward to your estimated due date based on its size. Count back 266 days from the due date they gave you, and that gives you an assumed date of conception. Unfortunately for you, you were sleeping with one guy one day before that and the other guy one day after that, and there is no way to be precise enough to parse that out ... all ultrasounds have at least a one-day margin for error, and the sperm of the guy from the 9th would still be alive and well in your reproductive tract on the 11th.
There is a DNA test you can take before the baby is born, but it costs $2,000 and you will need blood draws from either both guys or at least one guy. I don't know where you are on revealing to both guys that you are in this dilemma, but if you are not trying to keep it a secret from your fiance, and if you have an extra two grand, this could be something to consider. Otherwise, you will have to do a DNA test once the baby is born (then it is a tenth the cost).
Probable date of ovulation: October 10
Possible dates of conception: October 6 to 14
Due Date: July 3 (40 weeks)
When you say "going back 9 weeks 1 day ago ..." and who you slept with then, you aren't using the kind of count a doctor uses. When he or she says a number of weeks, he or she is NOT counting back to the day that you presumably conceived. They are counting back to a (presumed) first day of your last period. Since your periods are irregular, your actual first day of your last period doesn't match that day, but it doesn't matter -- they saw the embryo by ultrasound, and measured it, and counted forward to your estimated due date based on its size. Count back 266 days from the due date they gave you, and that gives you an assumed date of conception. Unfortunately for you, you were sleeping with one guy one day before that and the other guy one day after that, and there is no way to be precise enough to parse that out ... all ultrasounds have at least a one-day margin for error, and the sperm of the guy from the 9th would still be alive and well in your reproductive tract on the 11th.
There is a DNA test you can take before the baby is born, but it costs $2,000 and you will need blood draws from either both guys or at least one guy. I don't know where you are on revealing to both guys that you are in this dilemma, but if you are not trying to keep it a secret from your fiance, and if you have an extra two grand, this could be something to consider. Otherwise, you will have to do a DNA test once the baby is born (then it is a tenth the cost).
So my ultrasound a few days ago put me at 8 weeks 5 days. Today I am 9 weeks 1 day. Going back 9 weeks 1 day ago I believe is oct. 3rd. I was with my fiance and we had sex all the time broke up then got with my ex on the 3rd of oct. And we had sex everyday until the 9th. I got back with my fiance on the 11 th and we had sex. Can you tell me who is the father.. and I don't have regular periods.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Expecting, you said you "got back with your fiance" on October 11, do you mean you had sex with your fiance on October 11? How close to October 10 did you last have sex with the guy who is not your fiance?
If it helps. My last period started on the 17th of September and I did not have sex on the 10 th of October. Also please explain more about the paternity test
A paternity test is the only way to find out and if you have irregular pds and ur Dr knows ur pds are irregular ur conception date is a lil more accurate and not based on the 2wks extra from the time of ur pd .. Depending on how irregular u are
Paternity test is the only way you'll know. I guess you will have learned some sort of lesson. Hope it all works out.
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