Two things that I can gather from your experience and discomfort. I do not specialize in TMJ dysfunction. First you must understand that some TMJ problems are associated with stress and anxiety. I do not know if that is a factor in your case.If the pain and discomfort are as bad as you say then my suggestion is that you see a doctor that only specializes in TMJ dysfunction. You probably can get a referral from either your general dentist, your local dental society or a dental school if there is one in your area.