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BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

I WAS JUST TOLD THAT I HAVE BPD. I DON'T REALLY KNOW WHAT IT MEANS AND IF IT FITS ME. CAN YOU HELP ME? BECAUSE THE THINGS I READ ABOUT IT DIDN'T MAKE VERY MUCH SINCE.
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Dear Stacy

Borderline personality disorder is a condition in which there is instability of interpersonal relationships, unstable self image, mood swings, marked impulsivity. This condition usually begins by early adulthood. These individuals usually have intense fear of abandonment leading to impulsive behavior such as self mutilating/ suicidal behaviors. They have dramatic shifts in their view of others.  The most common problem faced by these people is chronic feeling of emptiness. Sometimes, they may have paranoid idealations. A combination of medications and ongoing psychotherapy would be helpful in the treatment of this condition.
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BPD is a disorder of personality trais.  It's how we think and react to situations.  The best definition i have found is in the DSMIV.  It talks about our tendencies to always feel like we are being abandoned and our need to always be in a relationship and how we feel like everyone is against us.  You can find a description At apa.org under the public informtion section.

I would be happy to talk with you more juliana
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The fear of real or imagined abandonment.  Black and white thinking.  Mood swings.  History of unstable relationships. Self-Injury. It really sux.  I have read where some therapists will not even take a client with BPD.  I have it.  It is not fun at all.
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I think that everyone has a BPD.
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I second that!!
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I have also read that some psychologists will not take on someone who has BPD.  I have it, and I hurt so much all the time.  Marylin Monroe also had it, maybe you could read about her life and how you might relate.
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I have it too.  Its awful, the mood swings are horrific...I cant believe some of the things I say sometimes when I am irritated and "mad at the world".  My poor husband, sometimes I wonder how he can stay with me...Im sure it is hard for him to live with me sometimes.
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Hi, I am doing a presentation on BPD in my Psychology class.  I would like some information of how life is like for someone who is diagnosed with this disorder in a day-to-day life.  I want to teach my fellow classmates something more than they read in the textbook becauase I think there is a lot more to be said about what it is actually like to live with it.
I would really appreciate your time.
thankyou,
And, why don't phsychiatrists take patients who have been diagnosed with BPD?
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Corinna,
I would be happy to tell you about my life with BPD.  Email me at ***@****.  Beth

As for the rest of the responses...you have all hit the nail on the head.  I hope it helps the original writer with figuring out her symptoms.
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My husband has BPD.  I understand some of his moods but not others.  We have 3 kids and he was just recently diagnosed with this.  I understand about the psychologists not taking patients with BPD.  We have been through 3 therapists already and can't seem to find one that works for us.  Is there any support groups for the families who have to live with this?  I am the only one working and it is getting really hard to deal with this.  On top of that, my son (he's 5) is starting to show the same symptoms.  How are your spouses/families dealing with your BPD?
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you can email me too
my email is ***@****

i would be happy to help you out with info...
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Corinna,

Hi... I would really like to help you with your project.. You can email me at ***@****... I am pretty much the poster child for BPD.. I almost feel like they wrote the text book explanations after observing me. Let me know if you would like my help.
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Does the doctor or anyone know of an appropriate high school setting for a girl (14) with BPD? We are located in the deep south, and have heard of a possiblity of places near Atlanta? Any information would be appreciated. ***@****
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I am also doing a reasearch project on BPD. Any information that you would be willing to give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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Dear Stacy,

I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and I tell you that anyone who's suffering of this illness have moments of good mood and bad mood.I like to be around people but in the same time I feel I cannot stand them.I feel overwhelmed about everything.I feeel the neccesity of seeing blood most of the time and in order not to cut myself I polish my fingernails with red polish.A great instability dominates me I mean I do not know if I like a thing or not if I love my parents or not.I hardly decide what to buy and after I bought something I start to regret that.I feel I hate myself so deeply when I have a fight with my folks or strangers that I would like to die that moment instead of saying an obscene thing or a foolish one.I do not believe what I tell to myself or to the others, I mean I give my word and I cannot keep it.I have sometimes displays of temper and impulsivity in spending money or eating which drive me crazy sometimes 'cause I gained weigh.
With all this dreadful diagnosis we do not have to despair 'cause God is on our side and He will help us to go through this illness and to win.
I take Zoloft for my depression, Klonopin for my panick atacks and Zyprexa for Psychoyic Symptoms.Besides that I drink one litter of tea daily made from Valerian,St. JohnsWort,Primrose and Hops and I feel much better the day I drink this tea.Try to stay away from chocolate,coffeine, cacao, cola.
If you are interested to follow the treatment with the tea you can find these herbs at the health food stores or at the polish stores.I mix in a bowl 5 tablespoons with primrose,1tablespoon with St.John's Wort, 1 tablespoon with Hops and 1/2 tablespoon with valerian.After I made this mixture I take a teaspoon from this mixture and I pour it into a cup with boiling water then I cover the cup with a plate and I let it covered for five minutes.After this I strain the tea and I drink it when it is tolerable warm.Remember you have to put a teaspoon with this mixture to 250 ml boling water and you have to repeat the operation because you have to drink three cups per day.The scientific names of these herbs are:Primula Oficcinalis for Primrose, Hypericum Perforatum for St.JohnsWort,Valeriana Officinalis for Valerian and Humulus lupulus for Hops.Above all these do not forget to pray, short prayers but with all your heart like this:Oh, Lord Jesus Christ,Son of God , have mercy on me the sinner and He will surely help you.

God and Virgin Mary bless you with health and happiness!

     with holy love for all who are suffering from this illness,
                                                               Victoria Ducane
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Psychiatrists see things like 'personality disorders' (or so it seems to me) as not a mental illness, and therefore not their remit.  They pass these cases on to psychotherapists (when they can be bothered) or refer you back to your physician any amount of times as they struggle to evade taking any responsibility whatsoever for us poor buggers.
It seems clear to me that psychiatrists are pretty clueless, which is self-evident inasmuch as we never seem to see anyone 'cured'.  Paranoid people, schizophrenic people, probably aren't able to discern that psychiatrists are 'bullshitting' them but they know that we with personality disorders, whilst debilitied by our symptoms will see through the **** they spout, and thus they are running scared for their exorbitant saleries.
Take heart that we do have our uses after all :-)

Ray
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i have never been diagnosed with bpd however the bpd deffinition describes me exactly!  i have been struggling since 12 and am now 24 and finally on a good combination of medications.  i would be happy to share anything with any one i can help.  you can email me ***@****
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In answer to Raymond Gray I'm a psychiatric nurse. I do my job because it works and helps people everyday. Incidentally my salary is far from exorbitant.

Many therapists do take BPDs but just like any other branch of medicine clinicians often specialise and so may be more skilled in some areas than in others. For a list of therapists who do specialise in BPD visit the BPDSanctuary and also the Mental Health Sanctuary (mhsanctuary.com).

In the meantime I'd like to point out that many people are successfully treated via the mental health system and ask you to be less offensive to us.

Regards

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Dear Tigger.
            Luv you to bits, it's not you people on the 'shop floor' that I have any problems with, or indeed have had any problems with.  In this country (the UK) consultants are considered by many (including themselves) to be God.  they are well behind the times with their training (still use leeches almost) they screw us about and take the money set aside for our treatment.  I will not go into it here but I've been trying to get them to notice my plight since 1996 and they've all passed the buck, finally I've had stress breakdown and my autonomic system is playing up as a result.
A four hour interview showing all the signs of a major depressive episode, extreme anxiety and suicidal ideas gets a promise of 'leaflets in the mail'.  Perhaps now you see my point.
It's really not you but personally I'd like to take all the consultant psychiatrists from warley hospital, Brentwood, Essex in England and exercise a little behaviour modification by beating the living daylights out of them...A fate they richly and clearly deserve, they are worthless individuals, vultures living on the carcus of the misery of others...parasites.
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i have BPD. i don't have any issues with the bit about being worried about being abandoned - its not a problem for me, i kind of expect it even - i'm used to people leaving me on my own. everything else scares me though. sometimes i get so much hatred towards everyone and especially mysekf but my last self harm was so bad that i am afraid to cut again and so now i have ended up so frustrated that i beat on my partner - he's a 6ft 3 guy and i'm a 5ft tall girl, so i didn't hurt him but i hate my stupid head.
i got kicked out of therapy, it was the only thing that works for me, i'd been there 3 months but they kicked me out for not waiting to tell my key worker when i had to go home sick (if i'd waited to see her i wouldn't have made it home 'cause i was really ill). i don't have any help or any friends except my partner who is mentally ill too, and my pets.
BPD is damn lonely,

empathy,

morley

(***@****)
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I have been diagnosed with BPD.  I am in the health profession and truly feel that this diagnosis is probably an acurate diagnosis however I choose not to claim it.  I have times like many of you when I have no control and do and say things that I regret soon after it is done.  I have very little control at these times but I have found extreme comfort recently after controlling my angry impulsivity.  I think this disorder is something much like other disorders.  One must be willing to put major effort into the solution.  More than your spouse, family, or friends do. I am still worried about being abandoned.  I know that in most of my agruements I get into with my spouse are because of this issue.  He is aware of it but does not remember it most of the time we are arguing.  It is up to me, for me.  So for all out there stand up, take a big breath, and kick *** (your own).  Start enjoying life today!!!!
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