Koala,
Thank you very much for your response. Please, feel free to ask, as the Dr. answered it is a little hard from the other side. Fortunatly me and my partner are very open about it and I think I know when to insist. May be we can help each other. Understanding you will help me understand my partner and giving you my response might help you realize that first you are not alone and second I'm not the only willing to share my life with someone in similar situation like yours.
May I sugest you to take a look at a book titled "The Way to Love". I read it and my lover also. Koala, life is here and you have to accept yourself with all the good things and the bad things. We all have them. Look inside you, I'm sure there is a lot of beautiful things. It seems poetic but the truth is we forget to look inside us, stay in touch with life itself. Let me know if you are willing to communicate by email and I will write you. I preffer not to post minein here.
Thank you and do not forget to see the sunshine.
Black Cloud
You are right it does not matter that you are a man also. This is a common problem in all relationships but in this case it seems to be more severe and pronounced.
If you want to continue in this relationship you will have to persevere in your attempts to help your friend but it will require a great deal of effort on your part. You will have to be very flexible and use your intuition to decide when to push closer and when to back off. Over a period of time this can work. You should tell your partner in advance that this is what you are going to do and ask him to cooperate since it is in his best interest also.
Both you and your partner may get some help from a program I developed called the love repair kit to. You can find it on ***@****.
Read my post, my conditions have cost me many relationships in my life, sometimes partners can't deal with it,
I don't believe sexual orientation has a thing in the world to do with a person "feeling" like being alone to deal... many times I want to just crawl in a dark corner and wish everything away.
K.