Help

My biological mother has been verbally physically and mentally abusive since as far back as I can remember. I was a foster child for yrs due to her abuse.Three months ago my mom had a severe fall and I was asked to step in and help(I literally had to handle everything) she came to stay w/ me and my spouse for a month to recover(Iwas the only one who cared or had the medical training). I used all my theraputic tools I learned since 12 w/ her. I tried to give her the best care my medical training taught me but she'd refuse treatments baths etc. Now she's at home (after my spouse and I spent 1,300 on her care) and apparently badmouthing me to my spouse and her friends and famliy. The whole situation has my body systems reacting to stress majorally psorisis, nerves, depression. I've even asked her not to call me for help as I can't do much long distance. What do you advice? I feel guilty but I can't allow the abuse any longer.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

There is a fine line between being an understanding empathic person on one hand ( which you are) and  allowing yourself to remain a victim of an abusive person who misuses your kindness. Without knowing any more, I would say that protecting yourself and drawing boundaries like you have, and confronting, which you probably have not done, are what you need to do to get your voice and self respect back, and end your stress.