I really have to Stop MASTURBATION

[muzicbreaker]

Hi Sir how are you now im going to ask you a really important questions   "  HOW DO I STOP MASTURBATION"  i really got sick of it ....first of all my face became oily and ruined second i get tired easily and when i wake up my bones are not strong and many more problems I faced im 15 years old and now im masturbating for 2 years and those where hell ......yes masturbating is fun and u feel nice but  it has bad conclusions on me.

I tried to stop but maximum i stop for 3 days and carry on the same thing. Whenever I see a hot/ Sexy   picture    I DO IT immediatly  I really want to stop    Please  I beg u   Please  Help me .......

Regards.

[justinL]

I was the same as you when I was your age (in my teens). I would do it then feel a mixture of fear of impending damnation, and shame and guilt over it, followed by resolves not to do it again. I only ever managed to achieve two weeks of abstinence throughout my childhood, having started when I was 8. Because of it, which I now know as both sin and an addiction to lust (I am a 40 year old male), I broke so many laws, such as break and enter's throughout my teen life in order to act out. In fact, despite my best efforts, in fact the harder I tried, often it would get worse, not better. It has only been in the last 3 years, through a paradoxical relationship between extreme humility and dependence on Christ, and through seriously hard work, that I even today have some glimpse, day to day, of a life heading towards daily capability in Christ of being able to overcome lust. At your age, I couldn't comment whether you are heading for the lifelong battles I face, or whether it is transitional. I know some move through it, its dominion over them being mostly transitional. But it is a battle, that every man that ever walked this planet has to face to some degree or other. Yes it is normal, meaning it is common. But alcoholism and tobacco use is relatively common too, by that same brush stroke. It is good you are seeking help. In my humble experience, the only thing that has helped a problem that nearly killed me is Christianity/God. If you can, find someone who believes, who is near your age, and with whom you feel safe with. God is a God of grace. He still loves me even though I was a slave to lust for most of my life. If you can, find a youth group within a church. Your honesty is a good thing. You are not alone in this battle. What is rare are those who will speak up about this, and also speak about the only solution.
Justin

[Sheralyn]

Doctor Gould is CORRECT...masturbation is a normal act (well, as long as you're not doing it in front of your mother-in-law or publicly doing it during a church service -- a little humor here).  RELIGION has made it sound "bad" or "dirty".  If it were sinful, God would not have instilled the very strong urge in each and every one of us to do it.  It is how we get to know ourselves sexually and for when we don't have a partner.  I believe constant suppression of this very natural act could be emotionally damaging...what's your take on that, Doctor, if I may ask?

[Bregar]

Someone has imposed the belief that masturbation is bad or dirty or unhealthy and we are inspired to feel guilty for masturbating. As the doctor has indicated masturbation is normal and part of a healthy sex life. So the question then is why stop? Appreciate your body and explore your thoughts. Do it in private of course however don't feel guilty or deceptive. Like those posting here who are concerned I too started masturbating during puberty and experienced all of the same thoughts of guilt. It was what we were led to believe. I am a well adjusted, healthy and successful man and have, in addition to sexual relations when in meaningful committed relationships, where I practiced safe sex, have continued to masturbate into my adult life. If I look back I guess that has been over 30 years now so don't worry so much about it. I have no hair growing on the palms of my hands. I have not gone insane. It has had no adverse effect on my sex life and many years ago I got over the guilt and enjoy the experience. I hope this helps to settle your concerns.

[yungboi17]

I am a 16 year old boy and have been masterbating for about 4 years now.  I have tried to stop so many times, but it is so hard to.  The last time I tried to stop was a week ago when I went for 2 days without masterbating.  Then I thought about how good it felt and did it right away.  It really is becoming a problem for me because I feel like every time I think about something sexual I need to do it.  I have even masterbated in the school and restaurant bathrooms.  Yes, it does feel great once you get going and it is addicting.  I guess it's just something natural that you should just deal with and maybe one day the thought will go away.  

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Your face breaking out, being tired, and bones aching  are also the side effects of rapid growth and hormone change, not caused by masturbation.

[Jdog55]

I am turning 13 and I just started masturbating and I feel horrible I just want to stop but I can't this needs to stop I can't live with it any solutions???? Please???? I regret everything and I even stopes for a week and only do it once a week or not even but I still have that urge I can't even look at my mom without wanting to cut my penis of and throw it away....eww.... but seriOusly I need help!!!

[Needtotellsomeone]

Hey everyone.  I am a 17 year old boy and have been doing "it" for close to 6 years now, and this is the first time I have ever gotten it off my chest.  To Bregar: nobody has ever said to me that masturbation was a bad and horrible thing to do.  In fact it has been almost the complete opposite with people saying "it is completely normal" and "everybody does it."   However, deep inside me i feel and somehow know that this is a bad thing, don't ask me why or how... the feeling is just there.  I am starting to believe that all of us are supernaturally "wired" to be very attracted to sexual pleasures while at the same time having the knowledge that commiting sexual acts that aren't with a women (or if you are a woman a man) whom we are completely and truely in love with(not a lustful love) is wrong.  

Now with that out of the way... I too have tried many times in vain to quit this addiction-- and it is an addiction because it negatively effects my ability to communicate with women.  But, seeing this forum and the one located at
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/MentalHealth/messages/32506.html

Has given me hope that I can overcome my addiction : there is strength in numbers.  In addition just typing out and admitting my problem, while it is uncomfortable even over the internet, feels like such a huge burden is being lifted off of my sholders.  I will pray for you all as well as myself that we may overcome this mountain together.

-Mark

[plisken]

Well chances are u will never be able to stop it forever. just  try to do it less nd less frequently. its ok. doing it everyday might be bad but if every other 2 days could be ok or even less if thats what u want.

[lalaland331]

ya im a 13 year old girl and i started masterbation back when i was 10.....i do it like every other day.....is this normal? and what can i do to stop?!!???!?!?!?

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Your face breaking out, being tired, and bones aching  are also the side effects of rapid growth and hormone change, not caused by masturbation.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

Masturbation is normal, and a response to strong sexual impulses that are not otherwise satisfied, which is always a problem during adolescence when the hormones influence your brain in just the way you described. You are in the middle of a hormonal storm, and you may want to cut down some but you should not be so guilty about what you are doing, its a natural  transition in life, all men before you have gone through it, so keep your perspective.

[Riisa]

Maybe you should try getting a girlfriend ...masterbating cant get boring @ times  .. if you do start having sex DO NOT FORGET!!!!!!!! to use condoms ... trust no woman that she is clean or std free ..most teenage girls have stds and do not even know it !!! seriously .. it only takes one time to catch something horrribllleee ..i have a 15 yr old nephew that has  the "clap" look it up .. it is not a joke and he only slept with her once .come to think about it maybe u are better off masterbating ..it is normal .. i still do it and im 34 ..its fast easy and safe lol .. Good Luck !!
Riisa
34 Houston,tx