You and your mom have boundary issues. You need to think about yourself and your baby right now. Ask yourself, if you are not able to deal with this level of chaos, are you comfortable exposing your baby to it?
You have a big problem and you need some real help...Have you tried talking with your father or some other relative. There is no question that you should not be supporting your mother. Instead of giving in to what she wants, have you ever set her down and confronted her in a serious way, to set the proper limites. Do you have a church or religious counselor who can intervene...or is there a clinic or social welfare organization that can arrange counseling support for you...do you have siblings or support for your upcoming birth? Just some ideas to get you started....
Take care of you and your baby!! That is the most important thing...live your own life! It is hard to believe your own Mother would do these things to you. My Mom is not as bad as yours but she is does not act Motherly sometimes either. I am sorry for all of your pain but for the sake of your child move on and live your own life. Let her deal with all of that other ****! Your child should be # 1. Good Luck!
M
You should worry about yourself and your baby.
Whose house is it? Yours or your mothers? You say you moved in with your mother yet it is also 'your' ("my") house.
If it is your house either set limits or boot her out. If it is her house then leave.
Your mother shows a lack of good judgment. It sounds like she may have underlying issues.
Good luck with surgery and the baby.
J