PA Therapist

I know this is sort of an odd question, but during the most recent session with my therapist, whom I've been seeing for 2 years, he admitted to being passive-aggressive. I didn't ask--he just told! Looking back, I can think of times when I experienced his behavior as being punitive and distant, like when I did things he didn't approve of. He also seems to get angry when there's a conflict between us if I assert my opinion strongly, or if I talk about anything my psychiatrist has said that runs counter to my therapist's opinion. Usually we're can't talk thru the problem until our next session because he "doesn't like conflict." *sigh*

I really don't want to terminate therapy because he's been so helpful, I've grown a lot, we click, I still have issues to work on, and I don't expect him to be perfect... but I'm not sure how to handle his confession. I get a sense what he said was inappropriate--but maybe there's some kind of therapeutic reason for telling that???????

I know it's not my responsibility to take care of him, but I wonder if there are any strategies for handling passive-aggressive behavior if it comes up again in therapy, and how I can tell the difference between that and my own transference stuff (especially since my mother and husband have the same trait)? Please don't say to talk with my psychiatrist--he's in charge of treatment and I think that would make the situation worse.

Please help me think of a way to work through this without creating more problems. Thanks.

Codependently yours,
Kali

[HFHS.MD-AJ]

It is difficult to offer specific advice, without knowing under what exact context the conversation with your therapist took place. You may find it helpful to share your concerns with your therapist. If this does not provide the resolution you desire, you may then talk to the appropriate authorities (such as your psychiatrist.

[Cutter]

I have this problem , where at times, i feel i cannot experince emotions.  I stare blankly for no reason, and often repeat myself twice.  I get into states of mind where it gets so weird not to be able to feel a emotion that i take knives and cut myself all over my body, just to make sure that i am still alive.  Dont get me wrong i am not depressed, but i lack something, and i dont know wehat it is, it was like i was born without all my emotions, i'll be fine one, minute the next, i am blankly staring at my own reflection or at a wall.  I also often talk to myself.  I have been to embrassaed to ask my doctor about it cause i dont think they really is anything wrong with me mentally really.  But what i was wondering is can you be born with out inner emtions?  i have been like this for going on 5 years now.    I just feel invisable sometimes.  But i am not sad or upset or angry, so i am not depreesed right, casue i just am.....See thats where i get stuck i dont know what i am., what iam feeling if anything, i dont think it has a name, i think i may have invented some kind of new emtion, that people dont know about yet.  But if anyone can help me please reply.

cutter

[To cutter]

You need to post your question at the top of the list in order to get a response from a doctor.  There have been a number of questions posted here about cutting.  You can do a search on the site to see what other people have asked and see the doctors' responses.  I'm not a doctor, but what you descirbe is not unique to you.  Other people have/had the same way you do and also cut themselves.  I would strongly recommend you speak to your doctor about it for a referral to a psychiatrist/psychologist.  There is help out there for you and you can feel better.