Should I be worried?

    My boyfriend's was diagnosed with schizophrenia at 14. Over the years, the diagnoses would change, but it seems they stuck with schizophrenia in the end. He'd also been diagnosed with bipolar. Until a year ago, he'd been in and out of mental health facilities every couple months; the longest time he'd spent at one was almost two years. About ten months ago, he stopped taking his meds.
I can't tell if he's getting worse or not... I would like to know what to expect. From what his family told me, he used to be prone to violence. He's never been violent towards me though (I've known him for 4 years). Is there a probable chance that violence could develop later?

-A while ago he mentioned a voice in his head that tells him what to do. It told him I needed a hug. He listened to it, and mentioned how he usually does what it tells him because it has good instincts (like telling him when I need a hug...so on. Funny thing, I did need a hug). He never mentioned the voice again.
*Is it most probable that he still hears this voice, and that it won't just stop?
I am worried that it may tell him to do things other than "hug her", and that he might listen to it. Is this probable?

-He mentioned that he feels he's lost the ability to cry. (Is this a symptom?) He said that he still feels strong emotions, he just can't let it out. He feels his ex-girlfriend took it out of him, because he could not cry anymore after they broke up, but he could before. I noticed that that was around the time he stopped taking his meds though.

-Every so often, he mentions feeling superhuman. He always talks about how he is much stronger than he looks, how he doesn't know his own strength. He also considers his reflexes superhuman.
At one point, (I am not sure if he truly believed this or not) he played with the idea that we were more than human.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

You must love him a great deal to know about this much psychopathology and still hang in there....I can't advise you about what to do, but I can tell you that yes, when a person hears voices, it is possible for the voices to change, and for there to be danger...this is especially true is he is off medications, under stress or is worried about losing you.   You should be talking this through regularly with a mental health professional in order to protect your own safety.

[TwilightPang]

-He gets irritated very easily, and he's very prone to aggression. (Is this a symptom or not?)
He also seems paranoid of people. I think he's even paranoid/suspicious of my intent sometimes. Would you consider this paranoia? (It also ties into the irritation and aggression.) For instance:
Once he planned to meet me somewhere. He called to tell me he was on his way and would be there in no more than a half hour. Then, about an hour later, he told me he got held up and would be there shortly. Half an hour after that, I called to ask him what was taking so long.    
Him- "What the h* is your problem? I told you I got held up!"
Me- "I know, I'm sorry, I was just wondering why it's taking so long. You said you'd be here almost two hours ago."
Him- "WHY ARE YOU INTERROGATING ME? God, you make me feel like I'm doing something wrong when I'M NOT! I'M SORRY! I'M JUST RUNNING LATE!"
Me- "Yeah I know. I was just wondering what held you up. After all, I was expecting you almost 2 hours ago."
Him- "GOD, YOU'RE SO F****** SUSPICIOUS ALL THE TIME.
etc.

I've learned either to keep my mouth shut, or to really sugarcoat my words as to try to not offend him.
              * If this is related to his illness, how do I deal with him in certain daily situations without getting him angry?

Any information on the topic will be greatly appreciated.

[DalaE]

Why on earth do you choose to be with this guy.  He is literally crazy. He will hurt you.  Again, what is the attraction here? Are you in a healthy state of mind? You cannot have a "real" relationship with someone like this. It is impossible and very danagerous. How old is he? and how old are you. Why are you punishing yourself being with this kind of guy. Stop and take a look at yourself.  Learn to keep your mouth shut?????WHY? Sugarcoat your words? Why? This is not a normal relationship.And your wanting to get along with this guy for what.  PLEASE BE CAREFUL>

[TwilightPang]

To RGould,MD-
We're going to go to couples therapy. He's not going to therapy to deal with his disorder, (we're going to deal with issues between us) but can couples therapy help as well with his mental disorder?
(I noticed as he filled out some paperwork, to one question that asked if he heard voices he'd replied "no".)

To DalaE-
I fell in love with him despite his problems. I can't help it. He's 21. I'm 18. And I am hoping that therapy will make things so that I don't have to keep my mouth shut or sugarcoat anything.

[kethrie]

No, couples therapy cannot help a couple where one partner is has paranoid schizophrenia. No. The only thing that can help your boyfriend is medication compliance. It isn't your job to make sure he's medication compliant. You can't build a healthy relationship when there is an imbalance that one person has to monitor in the other person.

Yes, you are in danger. Most people with schizophrenia are not dangerous, but there are a few cases when there is a very real danger. This is one of those situations.

Please stop deluding yourself about this relationship. Your boyfriend's family needs to get involved and help him. You need to get out, away from where he can find you, but you cannot let him know that you are leaving. You have to make a clean, complete break and prevent him from being able to find you. Leave your things behind if you have to, and let his family knows he needs immediate intervention.  You need to take this warning seriously, and understand what can happen if you convince yourself that "talking" can help things. Talking cannot help anything. There is a very real possibility that he will kill you.

[Riisa]

I work with a man that is bipolar and seems to me he has terets too! .. he is so rude and blows up @ you with one little question.. i feel sorry for his girlfriend  he cusses her out everytime she calls and that poor lady just takes it ...i always tell him .. if i was your girlfriend i would be sleeping with the mailman !! i be dammed if a man talked to me that way ...anyway my point is woman these days just do not know their own self worth ..i was taught @ a young age that when i meet a man to look into his family background etc .. 9 times out 10 u will learn exactly what type of person he is . it is just  too stressful to take on somebody elses medical problems ..and you should not have too .. ur 18 yrs old   ..u need to look @ the whole picture .. is this the way you want to live ur life in "fear" of what ur boyfriends voices in head tell him to do ?? hellllllllll no ! it does not mean you do not love him if you leave ..it means you love urself more !  be strong and put urself first ....
Riisa 34
Houston, Tx