Ways to overcome depreession

[paranoid12]

help im am at my wits end and have no idea what to do about life in general.

[Marty]

Just to add on to my last post, all we do is fight and all she tells me is that she just wants to die. I don't want to call the police, but at the same time, she is in major depression and wants no part of talking to anyone about it. She says that she is fine with her life and all she is waiting to do is die. That kills me inside, and I really have no idea what to do, who to talk to, where to go. She has totally alienated her family, saying that she wants nothing to do with them anymore. She has no friends and doesnt want any. I'm completely confused. Can someone help guide me here? I would greatly appreciate it. Thank you.

[Marty]

Hi
My name is Marty, and I have been dating my girlfriend for over 2 years now. Over the past 6 months, she has been showing signs of depression. I read the depression quiz at www.depression.com, and she shows almost all of the symptoms. The reason why I have visited the site is because we have been fighting like crazy lately. I always seem to think that something is wrong with me, and that it's something that I'm doing that's hurting our relationship. Since I took the test, it seems to me that she is depressed. Now, I have brought the fact that she shows signs of depression up to her before, and she absolutely refuses to seek professional help for it. She recognizes that she probably is depressed, but ultimately refuses to see anyone about it. She says that she has a hard enough time opening up to me and could never open up to a stranger. When I bring up the fact that we might fall apart, and break up because of it, she says that it's fine; she won't go and talk to anyone about it.
I love her with all of my heart. I really want to see her get better. I've even offered to go and see someone with her (couples councellor) but she absolutely refuses. I am at wits end and don't know where to go from here. I don't want to break up with her and lose everyting we've shared and had. But at the same time, we do nothing but fight lately, and it's really taking it's toll. Do you have any suggestions of where I might go from here? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you very much
Marty

[Susan]

I, too, would recommend that you talk things over with a mental health professional.  I felt that way for YEARS!  I did not realize it was just the depression.  I truly thought my life was over because I didn't even know the simple things to do in life if I had any time on my hands.  I didn't know what "normal" people do.

I am on an antidepressant (I don't know if you are depressed or not) but I no longer have that awful empty feeling of not knowing how to live my life or even what I wanted.

I contribute it to my medication and a LOT to therapy.

Good luck to you!

[HFHS MD - RG]

Oftentimes as a psychiatrist, I hear these words. For anyone to be this distressed, I sense the frustration of your agony. However, it would be beneficial for you to see a psychiatrist to find out what is going on eith your LIFE that you seem to have difficulty in. Sometimes people do not see the value in talking or sharing their thoughts and feelings to another person, but I assure you that making the first step in seeing somebody to work with would be very helpful.