behavioral therapy

I have ocd for about 5 yrs now.I have been self treating w/ the help of a book.I have also been to 2 therapists who specialize in cognitive behavioral therapy.My question is im not sure if im doing the therapy right.What i do is every time i start obsessing -instead of fighting the thoughts i make myself have them.I know im cognitive therapy they say that you should accept the thought is this the same thing as accepting it?I find it helpful but tiring at the same time.Thank you for any help you can offer.

[Roger Gould, M.D.]

It is difficult to answer your question because I am not sure what you are doing and what thoughts are involved. In general, the most important process is to deprived the obsessive thought of its "reality" by any method you can. That means not acting on the  thought as if it is compelling or the truth. The next thing you can do is try to understand how the obsessive thougtht is a substitute for feeling something deeply or having an ordinary conflict within youself. If you can surface the conflict, you will want to change the "conversation" and convert that into a simple honest statement to yourself about life.