My boyfriend is 24 years old and has ADD. He also has a unconscious verbal situation where he talks to himself, especially while in the shower, saying things such as "You're a loser. No one likes you. You have no friends." He holds himself to a high standard and usually verbally puts himself down when something goes wrong or a memory from a previous experience occurs in his head and he thinks about how it could have gone better. He even did it on Sunday during out date-night where he called himself an *******. I asked why and he said he didn't know he did that but he remembered a time when something went wrong so he proceeded to talk to himself. The thing is is that he is unaware he is saying anything at all. I'm not seriously concerned but I would like to try to figure out why he unconsciously talks to himself and it always involves putting himself down.
The real issue here is that your boyfriend has a very harsh internal critic and should seek counseling to understand why he let's this irrational set of self doubts appear to be truths. He can some help working on his self doubts at my site www.myvirtualshrink.com.
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