Depression Is Ruining Me

[teenageworrier876]

I'm 18 and I'm a female. My parents recently divorced and being close to them I took it really hard. I hate change, so the move ripped me apart. I have been in a relationship for almost a year and a half now and since I moved from my old home everything has come to question.

When I moved, my sibling and I moved into my relatives house. I was no longer with my parents and was spending 8-10 hours home alone. I suddenly felt the spark in my relationship go out and I am still questioning my love. I am questioning everything about me. My love, my orientation, my future, my looks, how I feel. It's like there is no joy or passion to my life.

My dad also recently walked out on me after a big dispute and I moved back in with my mom, but yet no home. I question my existence and whether or not this is all normal... I just want my life, my love, and my happiness back..Please just tell me if this is normal?

[lea_cattel]

Hi

I'm so sorry to hear about your current situation. Divorce really is a tough time for the children. And to feel sad after the separation is a normal reaction. What you should do is consult a clinician for a diagnosis and if you have depression  start immediately with the treatment measures. Now if you are diagnosed of having depression I urge you to communicate with your loved ones. they need to understand what you are going through. You will need their love and support in battling depression.

You are still young and I'm pretty sure that you can overcome this situation. There are many treatments out there to help and if you need a place to vent out or ask questions this forum is open for you and we will listen.

[Anaje070]

They say children is the source of happiness in a family, my dear hope is not lost but I will say that if only you will commit every of your problem to God and also ask him to bring your family back to united, I know you can do it, you can't just sit and wallow in pain, you have to stand and take a move to bring your family back to normal, love is a good thing that can happen in one's life, if you really love whom you are with in  your relationship you can make it whole and I will also pray that God will take permanent control in your relationship and also in your family...Thanks.

[brice1967]

I'm sorry you are going through this.  You're in a difficult time of life and dealing with different issues that are really stressful.  It's difficult and you have every right to feel confused and doubtful, if you ask me.  If these feelings continue for much longer, please seek the help of a mental health professional to help you weed through these feelings.  I waited way longer than necessary and it almost ruined my life.

One of the tools I was taught to help deal with doubt is, make sure you are looking at things from the proper perspective.  it takes time because you have to remove yourself from the minute and pretend to be on the outside looking in...(pretend you are a fly on the wall looking at the situation.  Would you as the fly feel the same way as you did as a human?)

Sometimes you'll see that maybe you didn't have things in the right perspective.