Hi,
Before my wife and I got married, she has always thought that she is having some serious illness whenever she felt unwell or discomfort at certain parts of her body. As my wife is an occupation therapist, I felt that her study and work has contributed to her thinking this way. So far she has panic over leukaemia, dengue fever, tumour and different cancers especially breast cancer all which have proven to be false.
Recently we have moved out with our 2 years-old daughter after staying with my in-laws for 3 years. Since moving out, my wife has been complaining about sickness, whining daily and often absence from work, relying on my in-laws’ help to cope with our daughter.
Besides that, she had a recurring cyst problem which become worse by swelling and accumulating pus . To resolve it, I encouraged her to have a minor surgery to remove the granuloma as suggested by her doctor. She is currently recovering from the surgery but pus has accumulated on her operation area and the pain kept her thinking that she have some serious illness like cancer.
Unlike the past, she will daily send me texts of her feeling unwell when I am at work, telling me that her time is running out and spend most of her time worried. At home, she will complain of aching and pain all over her body and she expect me to believe her (which I did with a pinch of salt) but it ends up that I have to do most of the household chores, taking care of my daughter and enduring her bad temper.
I tried convincing her to see a doctor but in vain, and these has resulted in plenty of quarrels.
All I feel now is tiredness and because of her, I cannot focus at work and feels unmotivated to do anything. I am at my wits’ end, so I will like to seek this forum’s help to see if there is anything I can do to change this.
Prior to the current state, my wife has been living with her family all her life and has relied on her mother's traditional medication to feel better about her health.