i have not writen in a while. lately things have really been getting to me. i feel so alone in my own home i dont feel welcome. my niece still lives with me. my money is going i worry about it i was set to live comfortably. until they moved on. now i am so worried howcan a 72 year depressed sick woman with osteo. make money. i worry about every thing. i dont care about very much any more. i only get to go pick up my prescriptions once or twice a month. sometimes i get to run in the grocery store and buy a couple of things. i dony know what to do. i feel like the world is caving in on me. i stay sick and have bad headaches. what i say or do is usually wrong. i am seldom right about anything. im scared. i would like to have a little happiness in my life before i die. doesnt look possible. i am so tired. sorry you hear all this all the time. thank you for listening. i need my niece i would be alone without a car or anyone to get my meds or food. im stuck withsome one who doesnt care she is bi polar with severe depression. gloria789
Hey gloria, so nice to see you back. Like you I have only my state retirement pension and benefits. Not easy, but we have to manage somehow. I am lucky her in UK as I do not have to pay for my medication. People under 16 and over 60 get theirs free.
I have joined something her in UK called U3A, which means "University For The Third Age." It is not university at all. It is classes run by volunteers for people of retirement age. It is worldwide, but I don't know if it exists in USA. You may have something similar there.
I am not always well enough to attend my classes, but when I feel up to it, I really enjoy it. I meet other people, and feel much less lonely.
Depression stops us enjoying so much. When I am low I sty in by myself, but when I am up to it, I am out of the door finding things to do.
No car to drive now, but I have my bus pass, and have been to quite a few different places with a girl friend.
My cat is great company. I know you said your cat passed away. Have you thought about getting another? There are plenty of cats, like mine, who have been abandoned, and are looking for a loving home. I find my Smudge so calming, and such lovely company.
I seem to say the wrong thing on this site a lot of the time. Just the way I am I suppose. But I find MedHelp great. I have been on the eye community, arthritis, books. Nice people everywhere. Stay here on the depression site and see how wonderful people are.
Although my arthritis hurts a lot sometimes, I find walking helps. May be slow, but sitting around makes it worse. I get migraines, and that is limiting, but take pain killers and rest. I help myself as much as I can, and try not to complain. I never tell my children how I feel, I am cheerful in their company. Others don't want to hear us moaning about our aches and pains.
Her on this site you can have a good moan and get the sympathy you deserve. I look forward daily to reading the messages here. There is always someone worse off!!
Keep writing here, and I am sure you will get friendly responses.
I, too, am glad to see you back here again, Gloria! Try to stick around if you can! You'll get lots of support here, plus, there are a lot of different aspects to the site you may find interesting. We really care!
Maddie has given you GREAT advice. Like I told you before, you need to look into your local county's resources. They are out there.
I know you love your niece, but is she helping out with the money? Does she work? Share with the bills? It's not unreasonable for you to ask her to contribute to the living expenses, gloria! If you had the money, it would be no big deal, but you're struggling to eat and get your meds! That's not right!
Really start looking into things in your area, both for your finances, transportation, and leisure. You should have a local senior center, and I know, in our area, our local school district offers different interesting classes for the adults in the community, some for free.
Also, I think I mentioned this before, but as far as your meds go...look on the Rx bottle, there will be a manufacturer listed. Google the name of the company and contact them. All of the big pharmas have programs for people who are struggling to pay for their prescriptions. Please look into it. That may free up some extra cash for you.
Also, have you thought of having yard sales, I'm sure you probably have items you don't use or need around the house. Have your niece help you with something like that. If you have a few yard sales, you may be surprised at the extra cash you could bring in.
I know you feel stuck in a rut, and I'm so sorry. That really stinks, but with a little effort and research, you should be able to improve your situation some.
You're in my thoughts!! We're here for you. Glad you reached out again!
hi i have medicare and blue cross ins. they pay 75% on all prescriptions. my niece works part time at walmarts 5 hoyurs a day for 4 or 5 days a week. she spends her money on her and mostly her dsughter and 5 year old grandson. there is no place arounc here that delivers. where are you from nursegirl? im from texas. im going to ask my doc about some things. good luck hope all is well with you. gloria789
Hey, I am sorry my post came up twice, I don't know how that happened. I do hope you feel better "talking" to your friends here. It does help a great deal I find. Just to know there are people who understand how you are feeling.
Such kind caring people, and nursegirl is one of the best. She has great sympathy for everyone, and has such sound advice. How kind of her to help you find activities in your area.
Being in the UK I know things here are different, but I also expect some things are similar.
By going out, I have found friends. I talk to them about my depression, and all understand and are very understanding. But I have not found anyone else who has depression.
So glad you are going to ask your doctor for advice. I am so proud of you for doing that. Take a list of questions you want to ask. Make sure they understand how you are feeling. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
Do please let me know how you get on. Do you think you will be able to get out of the house and find something to do. Please try not to isolate yourself. I know we all do when we are low, but if one day you feel you can do it, get out of that door and see what there is. Good luck my friend.
Check this out Gloria...there are all kinds of activities in the area. Looks like the Library is real active, and offers several leisure activities. There is info about volunteering, classes, there is a link to the local community college, and looks like they advertise local garage sales, which would be good if you decideed to have one! Check it out.
That's great what nursegirl has found out for you. You don't have to rush into anything, but you could go to the library and look at the notice board and jot down any activities you think you would like to do. That way you will feel a lot less lonely and have something to look forward to each week. You will meet new people.
I think the senior center is a good place to start. There will be things that older people enjoy doing. No need to sit at home now. Take a deep breath and pluck up the courage to phone someone. Not easy I know, but if you really want to improve your life then they are all there. You just have to be strong enough to make the first move. You will be so glad you did.
Have you seen doctor yet?
let us know how you get on, and if you have managed to get to the library.
there is clinics that will help you get your meds. you need to ch3ck this out. you should not have to go through this alone. you will make a lot of friends on this sight. i dont now where you live but we have a county hospital that will treat you and will offer you their insurance. sometimes it is a long wait. my family is not caring either. they could not care less. ,y niece lives with me and does nt think there is anything wrong with me. even though i have broken out in cold sweats and nearly passed out a number of times in front of her. but do know there is people who care. gloria789
Here are people like gloria and I and nursegirl who care so much about others. We are all here to help as much as we can. At lease you know we all care about you.
So sorry you are in so much pain. I myself have arthritis in back, hips and hands. I try to keep moving as much as possible. I have read self help books for arthritis and depression. I take cheap over the counter pain killers, but also have a prescription for same from doctor, which I take when the pain is bad. I find they help a lot. I do not like taking strong pain killers, and although I have been offered injections for the back pain, I have refused.
Have you depression? Doesn't your husband care about you? Surely you look after each other as best you can. I know it is not easy you both being ill, but at least you have each other. Many like gloria and I are alone.
Keep posting here and find sympathy and understanding.
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