Gradually over this past month my ex-girlfriend, who is still my very close close friend, has been going through a big meltdown. At first she wanted to alienate herself from the world, all her friends, and family. She was talking about being a self learner, dropping out of college, and going to NYC to get internships in the financial district. As our school finals drew near, she started to worry about problems at home between her and her parents, and she started doubting that people cared about her or loved her. She's missed her finals, having gotten extensions from her therapist, so has two tests and two papers to make up. She told me she's been having thoughts of suicide, images of blood and gore, and images of people she knows with 'devil horns'. When I'm around her she usually cries or gets emotional. But now she is out of control, it seems. She has been calling me no less than 8 times a day, sometimes yelling at me, sometimes crying, sometimes appreciated thing I'm here with her. It doesn't seem like one problem that she talks about to me: she talks about the problems she has with her parents, feeling unloved and unworthy and ugly, and questioning the meaning of life itself. I find it hard to talk to her without her blowing up in my face, or she frequently hangs up on me if I say something that even has a trace of discomfort. She has started to get mad at her friends, it seems too. Just tonight, for the sake of an example, she was mad at me because I've been doing so well in school while she has been suffering this condition or depression. She feels like I should have compromised more, and feels cheated almost because I did well.
But also, which is very important, about a month ago we had an accident during sex where our contraceptive (condom) failed. Immediately we rushed to the pharmacy and she took the Plan B pill no more than 2 hours after the accident, and she took the second pill at the right time. She started to have the side effects we expected. About 6-8 days after the accident, she took a pregnancy test which came back negative, to our great relief. However her symptoms are making me believe that the pill might have failed: she's extremely moody and miserable, she's usually tired, and has been a bit nauseas. She's supposed to take another pregnancy test tomorrow, and needless to say, we are both very anxious.
I'm wondering what your thoughts are; whether a week was too early for a pregnancy test; whether Plan B can cause prolonged hormonal imbalances; if this might be a case of hormone imbalance not related to anything about pregnancy; what I should do when I get those 8 calls per day.
She has been seeing a therapist at the university center for about 3 weeks, but only a few times. The rest of the week she uses me as a punching bag for her anger. I'm doing my best to comfort her and give her love. Though we're no longer a couple, there is no bad blood between us or anything, and I think the anger she expresses to me these days is probably a result of her mental health. Any help would be greatly appreciated.