Back from treatment, and not feeling better

[halogirl555]

I just got out of treatment the other day. I was in a residential treatment for 3 months, and my parents pulled me out against doctors orders and before my treatment was even complete.
I don't feel like things have gotten any bettter. I feel like i need to continue treatment. My parents got upset at me when i told them that i still needed treatment, and i want to tell them that i need to go back, but they will get upset. what do i do?

[mammo]

Tell your parents that they have got to take your pleas seriously, and for them to get upset with you is not fair!  Tell them if they don't take you back, then all this has been a big waste of time.  Tell them that all you hear is "talk to your parents", but they refuse to listen.  Even your doctors felt you weren't ready, ask them "why" they would do this to you? I hope you can get them to listen, and don't worry about upsetting them, right now it's about you!

[halogirl555]

I have tried telling them that i need to go back, but they just wont listen.
I still want to die. I cant even walk past  a peice of glass on the street with out struggling to resist picking it up. I've been cutting since i was 11 and now im 14.

[mammo]

You've got to find someone to listen to you!!  How about a relative, or school counselor, or principal?  Please resist all temptations. I know it's hard, but you can do this.  You need to find someone to talk to your parents, what about the place where you were getting therapy, can they help you?  If not dial 1-800-for-kids and tell them your problem. This is for abused children, and for your parents not to listen to you is abuse.  You are trying so hard to get help, and they should be proud of you for this!  It may upset them at first that you went outside the family for help, but then they'll realize that it had to be done as they weren't helping you.  Think of you right now, and getting the help you need.
Please find someone.

[whodunnit]

Hi Halo,

Really sorry that you are suffering as badly as you have been. Wish I could make it go away for you, really do.

Could I say to you that your parents would have thought long and hard about taking you out of the retreat?

They did, after all, agree to you going in didn't they? How long were you supposed to stay there? 3 months at age 14 is way too long in my view to be in any sort of retreat where you don't have parental contact at least daily.

What treatment was not completed? I am confident whatever treatment it was that such treatment is available as an outpatient as well so why couldn't you complete it from home? Most people do you know.

Retreats can be very, very expensive and maybe your parents just decided they were wasting their money as they have seen no benefit for you. You've said as much here yourself haven't you? No real change in 3 months of intense treatment?

These sorts of retreats, in my opinion, are not for young people at all. Were there many others there of your age? How long had they been there?

What I'm trying to say to you in my clumsy way is that I read from your parents actions that they love you and care for you and want you back as you were. They don't want to just leave you in some retreat for someone else to do whatever treatment wise with seemingly little result. I think they'd much rather have you under treatment where they can ensure you are getting a benefit from it.

Not because they are selfish. Because they care. They wouldn't have paid for 3 months at the retreat if they didn't.

Please think about it and try and understand what you parents are feeling too. Don't fight with them, help them understand instead.

Thinking of you.