Can't get use to getting older

[kyleharv]

I'm 25 and life is changing. Full time job, friends are getting married and having kids. It just seems life is a rush.

I never get to see my friends anymore and it just depresses me. Some of have moved away and others are so busy with their careers or their significant other.

I just can't get use to it. I use to be out all the time now I never am with them. I just miss the good ol days

[mandy876]

wait til you turn 72 then you start worrying you are still a kid.  you have a long way to go.  the right person will come along and your life will be great.  could be soon.  dont want to miss something that could be specially planned for you.  god has his own plans,  mandy876

[Nighthawk61]

Kyle, i think it's wonderful that you found us here on medhelp. You've mentioned that you feel depressed in your thread, so do the things that have been suggested to people suffering from depression. My son is getting into an Art Therapy Program and will be working with people who suffer from depression i think.

Have you considered getting into a hobby right now? There's nothing sexier in a partner than someone who is able to express themselves creatively. I'm buying into clay and wood sculpting in the round.  Why not listen to what your soul is asking and provide yourself with a creative new hobby? Maybe take a class at the local Art Centre? Who knows, maybe you'll meet your partner there? Or at the Y while you're working out or swimming? You can do this, if you're looking in the right places. You're in my prayers Kyle. Hugs.

[witheredrose]

Hey, dont stress this too much! Its life, things change as you get older and theres no stopping it, unfortunately. Change is life, and life is a cycle of change..if that makes any sense :) its something we all have to accept.
I bet you would feel a lot better, if you pursue the same things as all your friends have. Find your destiny, and follow it!
Im sure if you called your friends, and asked if they wanted to hang out and catch up, they wouldnt mind it!

[brice1967]

I thought about you post for a while last night.  I remember feeling the way you do.  I look at some of my friends right now, who seem to be living this "care free" life style, and it seems as if nobody keeps in touch.  Not so long ago at a friends funeral.... I ran into a whole bunch of people that I hadn't seen in years.... how sad is it that it was a funeral that brought us all back into the same room again?

Look, I am 45 so statistically I am closer to the end of my life than the beginning.  I've done a lot of things and I plan on doing a lot more.  I looked in the mirror today and saw grey hair on my head and in my beard.  (That **** was not there a year ago!)  My eye sight isn't what it once was....  Some friends aren't around anymore....  That is life.

I'll stand by what I said above.  It's never too late to make new friends and new memories.  Don't take the day for granted.  Do things, meet people, be kind to people..... all of those things pay off.

[thatquietgirl]

I feel you.  I'm 24 and experiencing the same thing as far as spending less time with my friends.  I see them posting all the time about things they are doing with each other, and I long for the days when I could do that.  These are the friends who aren't taking school seriously.  Unfortunately, part of growing up is learning to be responsible, which in turn doesn't provide too much free time--especially if you're going to school.  You have to learn to cherish what time you do get with your friends and make an effort to get together with them when you can.  Send a text or make a call when you can.  Let them know you miss them.  Don't be held back by feeling like you might look desperate and silly.  That's how most friendships are lost--both people pulling back because the other's too busy in each other's minds.

[shannonm75]

I understand that. Though you are young. I'm 37 and yeah all the people my age are married, kids, etc. Life goes by fast. Makes me feel old too when I see young men or women who are off to college or getting married, having kids and they are younger than me. I remember when they were babies. It seems like time was slower as a kid.

[brice1967]

I've got you beat by 20 years and I can tell you that the older you get, the quicker time flies.  I've got a freshman in college and a sophomore in high school.  I remember the days when I had to carry the little one and hold the older ones hand, every where we went.

I remember all of the good times with all of my buddies.  Doing a lot of things we shouldn't have been doing, never harming anyone, but always trying to impress everyone.  Those are memories, and there is plenty of time to make more memories.  

Take advantage of every day.  Reach out to an old friend, even to just say "hey".  Never miss an opportunity to make a new friend and make new memories.  Life is short.... but life is good!