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Depression and Weed
Can anyone tell me how depression and weed effect each other?
My boyfriend has depression and he has done for years it's always been on and off for wow years and he has always smoked weed on and off for years!
But now his depression is at its worst and has been getting that way for the last year, he has also started to smoke more over the past year.
He turns nasty quickly and sometimes it's like it never happened, he has lost so much weight in a year it is extremely noticeable, he hardly eats and his day consist of waking up going work, sleepin as much as poss more than normal and smoking that wacky baccy.
Everyday he complains he does not feel well, his head hurts, his tired, dodgy stomach and bad head etc.
I keep telling him his tablets don't work anymore and he needs to change I'm or up the kilogram but he does not listen then gets nasty and shouts I don't think he likes change
He doesn't sleep Pripyat night time & he sweats the bed
What do I do
My boyfriend has depression and he has done for years it's always been on and off for wow years and he has always smoked weed on and off for years!
But now his depression is at its worst and has been getting that way for the last year, he has also started to smoke more over the past year.
He turns nasty quickly and sometimes it's like it never happened, he has lost so much weight in a year it is extremely noticeable, he hardly eats and his day consist of waking up going work, sleepin as much as poss more than normal and smoking that wacky baccy.
Everyday he complains he does not feel well, his head hurts, his tired, dodgy stomach and bad head etc.
I keep telling him his tablets don't work anymore and he needs to change I'm or up the kilogram but he does not listen then gets nasty and shouts I don't think he likes change
He doesn't sleep Pripyat night time & he sweats the bed
What do I do
I'm sorry to hear this, but sweetie, you're going to have to make some tough decisions. If not for you, for your daughter. She shouldn't be around someone like that, who is making himself and everyone else miserable.
You're right, he has to want to help himself, you cannot do it for him and it's bringing you down. NOT good.
Make you and your daughter a priority and leave. Tell him that you love him but you cannot be around that day in and day out, especially considering that he's not making an effort to help himself.
Good luck to you.
You're right, he has to want to help himself, you cannot do it for him and it's bringing you down. NOT good.
Make you and your daughter a priority and leave. Tell him that you love him but you cannot be around that day in and day out, especially considering that he's not making an effort to help himself.
Good luck to you.
Thank you for your replys, my fella has had the depression for years and it seems to be getting worse the worse that gets the more he smokes, the more he smokes the worst he gets - just a visious circle:(
He is just nasty and horrible to be around now and it's so hard to be around him yet alone answer a call from him, everything is a downer, he is always negative constant doom and gloom lights off quiet no talking with sleeping on the sofa - my daughter even hates being around him.
He never wants to talk about his problems or the weed if you bring either up in conversation then he just gets nasty high rated and starts get angry and shouting it's so frustrating as I can't help him anymore and he really won't help him self I feel like he is sitting around waiting for things to fix themselves instead of him getting up and doing it for himself he is so lazy, his weight is scaring me as he has lost so much he looks seriously I'll but never eats says he has no appetite or he has passed it..
As soon as am around him he makes me feel down and everyday I wake up thinking today is the day but it never is or I think I can't stay with you no more as it's not good for me nor my daughter then I feel selfish and think I can't walk away from him not after 8 years but am so unhappy with him.
If he would only go and get help he instead of feeling sorry for himself constantly and making everyone around him suffer and getting everyone down.
Since we last spoke he still won't go doctors and get his tablets upped on the mg or change them completely and the weed well his been saying he is going to quit for the last 12 months and still ain't
He is just nasty and horrible to be around now and it's so hard to be around him yet alone answer a call from him, everything is a downer, he is always negative constant doom and gloom lights off quiet no talking with sleeping on the sofa - my daughter even hates being around him.
He never wants to talk about his problems or the weed if you bring either up in conversation then he just gets nasty high rated and starts get angry and shouting it's so frustrating as I can't help him anymore and he really won't help him self I feel like he is sitting around waiting for things to fix themselves instead of him getting up and doing it for himself he is so lazy, his weight is scaring me as he has lost so much he looks seriously I'll but never eats says he has no appetite or he has passed it..
As soon as am around him he makes me feel down and everyday I wake up thinking today is the day but it never is or I think I can't stay with you no more as it's not good for me nor my daughter then I feel selfish and think I can't walk away from him not after 8 years but am so unhappy with him.
If he would only go and get help he instead of feeling sorry for himself constantly and making everyone around him suffer and getting everyone down.
Since we last spoke he still won't go doctors and get his tablets upped on the mg or change them completely and the weed well his been saying he is going to quit for the last 12 months and still ain't
I agree with Paxiled completely.
Even if we don't fully understand how or why marijuana exacerbates conditions like depression or anxiety, it's very apparent that it does.
Unfortunately, there isn't much YOU can do. You've encouraged him to look into a possible medication change. Has he ever been in therapy? Have you ever discussed him stopping the weed? If so, how do those conversations go?
The bottom line is, HE has to do the work if he wants to feel better. If he doesn't put forth the effort, he's going to stay "stuck". Be very very careful staying in a relationship like this. You're not married to him, and while you may be committed, you shouldn't be committed to the point where HIS issues that he seems unwilling to address start affecting your life negatively. That's just the reality of it. I'm not suggesting that you bail, but I AM suggesting that you don't lose yourself in his issues, especially when it seems like you care more about his depression/drug use than he does.
Best to you, I really hope he has a change of heart and starts being proactive about helping himself. Keep us updated!
Even if we don't fully understand how or why marijuana exacerbates conditions like depression or anxiety, it's very apparent that it does.
Unfortunately, there isn't much YOU can do. You've encouraged him to look into a possible medication change. Has he ever been in therapy? Have you ever discussed him stopping the weed? If so, how do those conversations go?
The bottom line is, HE has to do the work if he wants to feel better. If he doesn't put forth the effort, he's going to stay "stuck". Be very very careful staying in a relationship like this. You're not married to him, and while you may be committed, you shouldn't be committed to the point where HIS issues that he seems unwilling to address start affecting your life negatively. That's just the reality of it. I'm not suggesting that you bail, but I AM suggesting that you don't lose yourself in his issues, especially when it seems like you care more about his depression/drug use than he does.
Best to you, I really hope he has a change of heart and starts being proactive about helping himself. Keep us updated!
Marijuana usually brings out what's inside us, and if depression is inside it will bring it out. And of course, like alcohol and other down drugs, it lowers energy and therefore can exacerbate the down feeling of depression. Some probably benefit from it, but I just don't think marijuana and mental illness go together. It also can exacerbate isolation now that it's been bred to be so much stronger than natural marijuana -- it can really bring a person inside, and inside he's depressed.
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