Feel detached

[angiep1219]

I been dealing with depression for about 5 months now, but recently my symptoms changed i feel really strange and have this detached feeling. Has any one expericenced this? If so what can i do to help stop this scary feeling.

[always hopefull]

hello :)
just to help me understand more of your problem ,it could be one of 2 things :
is it a feeling of detatchment as in emotional like you are not loved, or u feel distanced from your friends and family,  the kind of feeling of being alone ?

or is it : a feeling of u feel like your living in a dream , like there is a glass shield or sumthing inbetween you and whats going on around you , like your there but feel in a haze.it pretty hard to explane.but this is called depersonalization/derealization , which is pretty common in alot of people suffering from some kind of depression,just not very herd of.if you search the net and find out about it. there are meds to help with this. im on prozac and after about 3 months my feeling of detatchment /dp/dr has almost gone away,and life is alot more bareable.

for both these problems there is help
let me know if this advise is any good to you.i am an expert on depersonalization/derealization :) and if u need more help im here

love sarah

[Jamieww]

Hi,
I have suffered from depression for over a year and a half and have felt 'detached' from real life quite a bit.
Sometimes life just seems to go by, and I have no feelings towards it, I just let it go.
I was involved in a really nasty accident, which I was very luck and walked away from it... though this surprised all the emergency services that came out to help... Now as this was after my depression started, my friends and family expected it to give me a 'kick up the backside' and to get back on track - but it didn't, I calmly got outta the car walked over to the other drive (who was drunk,ran a red light and was going at 70+ in a 30 zone) and checked he was ok...
I wasn't angry, or concerned about wot had just happened, and when my family seen the car there were tears all around... yet It made no difference to me in the way i felt or anything, it was as though i watched it from the outside....
My past few years has been like this alot, everyday things just don't seem real anymore, I have no love, lust or life left in me..

I am not in control of anything anymore - this could be my problem coz I'v always been a control freak!! And because I can't control things, I just let them happen and don't think about them..

This probably doesn't help u in anyway, but I'm just trying to show that I think I understand about being 'detached'

Take care
Jam

[marstreis]

Yes, I have been through this as well.  Sometimes it feels like it may never go away!  Many times feelings like these are just a part of many changes (or things not changing) in your life.  If you wan to stay away from prescrip meds as I did there is a lot of good info on diet and lifestyle changes at this link that are helpful: http://www.jigsawhealth.com/articles/depression.html.  The best thing to do is to give yourself a little time at the end of each day to reflect or even meditate.  This will allow you to get in touch with yourself again.  Eventually you will come out of it naturally, just dont give up on yourself, it seems like that is so easy for people to do these days.  Good Luck!

[Jim123456]

Yes, I have recently gone through this problem as well. I devloped a somewhat severe depression disorder a few months ago; and since then, this feeling of being detached has been with me ever since. I have both kinds, though...the dream-like state, and the emotional detachment. It's hard...but over time, it goes away a little bit (at least it did for me).
-Jim

[umya]

yes, i have felt this way before.  i used to describe it as detachted or as if observing everything through glass, or as simply "there but not there".  this is a very strange and unsettling sensation that i learned for me, was a dimension of chronic moderate to high anxiety and obsessive and (essentially defensive) preoccupations.  this feeling quietened down considerably then disappeared altogether after entering analysis and discovering the root causes of my depression/anxiety/obsessive thoughts.  it has apeared maybe twice in the past decade for a moment or two under stressful conditions.  i cannot recommend analysis enough.  may this pass quickly for you.  

[umya]

*detached* sp :)

[retrofire]

Hi, im 17 and male from UK. I am in my second year of A level studies and have always been quite intelligent, never academically excellent, but i always achieved well. Last year i did the teen rebellion thing and forgot my studies, choosing instead to socialize etc...It screwed up my life and i failed all my exams. My teachers said that they would allow me to carry on because they know im more than capable, but this year when i decided to get back on track and focus, everythings gone down hill, i cannot focus, i cannot sleep, when i do its usually at an inopportune moment and i never feel rested, and without realising ive become a virtual recluse I dont go out as much, im always grumpy. people dont want to even be around me because im not the same anymore, i can barely write a sentence unless it is dictated to me. Now, with weeks until my exams, im in a worse state than last year with no hope of passing. I have a feeling of living in a constant daydream, the closest thing i can relate it to is, when youre falling asleep and someone drags you back at that last second of consciousness which has grown over the year almost to a point of failure to function, all i can do is basic things but they hold no real meaning to me. I didnt want to go to the doctors because i keep thinking, why should i be depressed, there are many in much of a worse position than me, im scared to tell anyone how i feel face-to-face because i feel like an idiot for feeling like this but i dont know what to do anymore and i cant let it get any worse.
Can anyone say whether the reason is depression or what it might be?

[umya]

do not think the classic "there are many in much worse position than me".  it's self-negating.  do not feel like an "idiot".  it sounds like youre in a difficult place right now.  i'm sorry, that's awful.  your feelings matter as much as anyone's either "better or worse off"  than you.   the reasons for depression are complicated, layered and very nuanced.  most people have no idea of the real reasons they end up depressed until in analysis.  you seem very bright and self aware and owe it to yourself to ask a councellor at school or your doctor to refer you to a psychiatrist/psychotherapist.  there is no shame in this and you have only to gain.  in fact, it takes more courage than any nay sayer has any clue about.  you're young, and most people ignore their emotional states and develop defensive techniques very early that carry them into their mid life when they then crack up for never having dealt with things properly.  ultimately they end up having led very compromised lives.  you on the other hand, have the chance to clear up your emotional life at a very young age and live a  life unencumbered by depression.  best of luck to you!  i hope you start to feel better soon.  

[PootlePlum]

I'm currently going through moderate depression and severe anxiety. I spend most mornings feeling 80-100% detached from my surroundings. Afternoons are generally a bit less intense. I find it really hard to leave the house as I'm scared of facing people when I feel I'm not there. It's a really frightening feeling. It had eased a bit while I was in the care of the home intervention crisis team, but since being discharged last week the detachment is increasing again. I have weekly visits to my GP and am currently waiting for a programme to be put in place with the mental health unit at my local hospital. It's so important to get support from people who know this feeling, cos it sometimes feels like I'm gonna be like this forever. I'm on citalopram (cipramil) 60mg daily, which has helped ease my physical anxiety but may also make me feel more spaced out. It's like a vicious circle not knowing what to do.
My sleep is affected and I spent 3months on sleeping tablets (zopiclone 3.75) from october til now. I have come down gradually and take my last one on monday.
It's comforting to know I'm not alone in this, and helps confirm that actually I'm not going crazy, cos this is how it feels!!

[ianvpenguin]

Yeap, ive been through the dream like dimension...although ive just got it for the past few weeks, bt its scary, feels like ur trap in urself...people say its caused by depression...i could nver imagine depression could do this to me...bt hell it did...darn...it seems like it never goes away, but there are times i feel i can escape from it...so thrs hope..its hard to live in this condition, not just the feeling of detach from reality, it has this dizzy feeling with it as well...feels like we're floating...and thats annoying...but stay strong..this must be a test from god...have faith in him...there will be light! peace be with u all...