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Hi,

I don't know if I am posting in the right place.  I have lived in a new country for many years now and my mother and sister had moved over 3 years after me and my hsband.  

My mother lives an hour and half away whiloe me and my sister live close.  When my mum would come and visit, my husband and I would always make the effort for it to be an opportunity for all of us as a family to have food together at ours.  My sister would not do the same however.  Whenever my mum would come down to visit, my sister would only cook for my mum so me and my husband could only meet together before their meal (always brief visit because it was after work too).  After their meal my mum always leaves for the long trip back.  

In the end me and husband stopped doing these meal get togethers, because the effort was always only one sided.  It has turned out now that we never do anything together as a family, Where it has been this way, me and my husband feel we do not belong to a family.  Before we moved abroad, we had lived a different lifestyle with his family who do not live in the country where we are.  We would meet together at weekends and do things together.  Lack of this makes me and my husband feel low now like we don't have a family.  Also depressed at times.  We will never move back to our roots country again, but I don't know how to turn this feeling around.

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It's very difficult to get together with family when we're all spread out.  I think you and your husband should continue the meals with the family and not worry about your sister's actions.  You do this for yourselves and to have the family together, and I'm sure it means a lot to your mom.  Life is too short to worry about who's doing what.  Do what makes you and your husband happy, and this appears to be together as a family.  It's obviously up to the two of you to make this happen when you can.  Your dinners together mean a lot to everyone and I wouldn't give up the opportunity to be a family if only at your house.  It's not the best situation, but you can make the best of it.  Maybe one day your sister will see the light, until then enjoy dinners with your family. Best wishes.
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Hi Mammo,

thanks for the advice.  Seems like a good suggestion.  My husband would get annoyed with the suggestion but I'll give it a go and we'll do it once we can afford to.  Unfortunately I have been out of work for 2 months and found out at the labour office that it will be quite a while till I get any cash:(  It is true.  Life is too short.
Best wishes back to you:)
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