Forum where you can just talk to someone

Does anyone know of a good depression site where you can just talk it out--and talk to you when you're really down?  I have a **** job, **** home life, **** from my brother, **** from my parents, **** from my teenager (yeah, I know that's normal), a good husband but one I don't appreciate in this state, I am extremely irritable, have no true friends I can trust with this, and one I did have somewhat  I really feel like she has has betrayed me this week as well.  So where do I turn?  I pray, I cry, I try to look for a new job, but am too depressed to feel capable of taking something new on (terrified of it) even though I feel desperate to get out of my current job.  I need a no-brainer job, but it won't pay the bills.  Where do you go to talk when you have no one to talk to --or no one you really trust to talk to?

[dallas123]

you go right here!!!!! and you also go talk with a dr. ASAP!!!!!

[stacy21]

hi?

[liamn56]

Hello...

[GRAMMA2]

Oh my dear, I understand what you mean. My constant question is why am I so depressed? I have a wonderful family & friends, a nice home, no major worries, but still I continue to feel alone. And as for working outside the home, I feel just like you do too. I am so worried my anxiety will increase & I will fail at a job. Prayer does help me alot & my church family, but I do feel myself sinking into that deep dark well again.
I am hoping this site will help not just me , but others as well. Depression is so misunderstood even today's society. Thank God they don't lock us up in padded cells anymore & leave us there, like in the old days, when the medical society diagnosed people like us as nuts & we might be a danger to the outside world.
Well, I've written a short book here. Just wanted ot let you know you are not alone.

[dallas123]

HEY SWEETY......YOU OK,? YOU THERE?????

[lbedgood]

i can't breath either and i have no one to talk to.

[ILADVOCATE]

  Here's my take on the picture. As for social networking don't confine yourself to mental health sites. I could reccomend a couple of mental health sites but they are not well moderated like here and you could get harassed by other users as has happenned to me. But on the other hand, why, especially on the internet where you don't have to disclose and people won't see your disability would you confine yourself to a depression site? As for myself though, I do fully disclose and the information has made its way onto sites all over the internet not for self gratification but to inform and educate people about disability awareness and advocacy. Some sites were more welcome then others just as in the outside world but I found acceptance where I least expected it.
   As for depression there are two things going on. First of all the actual psychiatric disability, depression in which case its a matter of anti-depressents (or other related medications) being adjusted or changed, talk therapy and support groups. Secondly, its a matter of attitude. I know for myself with severe tardive dyskinesia and tardive psychosis (in study) after having recovered from schizoaffective disorder that I should have ever reason to feel depressed. But I don't. I do have some minor mood fluctuations left over from the schizoaffective (the experimental antipsychotic glycine I'm on is not a mood stabilizer, I am on one as well) and the tardive psychosis produces a bizzare personality altering dissociative depression that as the Zofran wears off I enter at times.
   But the first thing I said to myself after I got used to all this (including the recovery from psychosis) is "I have to accept this. What do I do?" and the first thing was to make use of the time to advocate for social change. And to make sure that whatever went wrong in my life that didn't go away. Not everyone has that as part of their life of course. We all travel different paths. But I would suggest (and not as an outside commentor, I've been through strong depression before recovery) for everyone, one great step is to reach out to other people even by volunteering. Step outside of yourself. I remember, and this was even before recovery when I volunteered at a homeless shelter and this was at a down point in my life. I didn't have much in common with the volunteers but of course many of the homeless people had untreated psychiatric disabilities and we all related well to each other and whatever happenned they never once discriminated against me or acted antagonistic although they did towards the other volunteers who were non disabled and could be very condescending. If you think you are down in society look at someone even less fortunate and in bringing them up you will bring yourself up as well.

[birdie0907]

If you live in a city they probably have a free distress line where you can talk to someone.

[lbedgood]

wow..now I'm really depressed... should be thinking of people less fortunate than I am....talk about pushing me over the edge....now i feel my problem are insignificant compared to others...which is true. I don't matter compared to those less fortunate.

[ILADVOCATE]

No. Seriously not. I meant that I in working with those people had a sense of empowerment not that I was obligated to. That was before I was recovered and the other people who were volunteers ignored me but the homeless people did not. We were in the same position mentally. I don't think of other people with psychiatric disabilities as "less fortunate". Everyone who has a disability has a common experience. I just think volunteer work is a good "pick me up" not an obligation. Regardless of my postings I would never want someone to feel sorry for me for example. I have posted some questions here but any advice I posted here was to have people get more out of their own life. I don't spend any part of my day trying to get people to feel bad about me because of my physical disability but I do use it as a way to help people come to terms with their own recovery.
  But what about my other reccomendation? If you don't want to feel depressed why should the chat room be confined to people with depression? What about all disabilities? Or what about general networking sites? No one will know you have depression. But if you are on a chat room for people with depression only then yes you will run into people who speak about their experiences with depression in a negativistic way and that seems to be what you want to avoid. Just join a general social networking site and don't disclose your disability. See if you are able to blend in. Then when you figured out how you did it try the same techniques in the outside world.

[unloved31]

hi ya there... im so glad im not the only one feeling so depressed...
im also looking for a good site where i can find someone to talk to with no luck..i just hope all my problems dissappear before i try to do stupid things..i think god has left me..i hope he sends someone now..

[LeftCoastChick]

Depression is nasty, down right painful, remember it's now you, BUT the depression. I can drag you down the 4th level of Hades. If you feel you may do stupid things, run don't walk to your ER.  You should not be suffering, and that's what depression is, suffering! I just getting back out of a funk, and it's sure not easy to think normally when you just feel like you are in a black hole. I had my meds upped, and I'm just feeling that now, and it's been a week.

Are you on meds and have a pdoc? if you don't you need to asap. I went through the ER locally because otherwise I would have had to wait a year. Please go, you will only get better!

[depressedgymnast]

I do not hate life, I just hate who I am, what I do and why I do it.

[depressedgymnast]

I am falling, and I can not seem to stop it.  Pain is in everything I do, everywhere I go.  NO matter how happy I am, the pain is still there.  I have sought out help time and time again, and am alone once again.  It seems like noone can help.  Noone knows what to do when I tell them about my life, and before I know it they are gone.  This can not be my lot in life.  

[LeftCoastChick]

Please go get some serious and immediate help, unfortuantely we can't replace therapy for you, I can give a website, with some 24hr hotlines, but honestly you don't sound that great and going to the ER would be better for you.

http://www.befrienders.org/helplines/helplines.asp?c2=USA

[depressedgymnast]

Thank you, but my life is too busy to even seek help, and as I said the help I have sought out has left me just the same as whenI started.  I would appreciate if you gave me the 24 hour hotline site.  I hate hurting and I am scared.

[mekim2005]

i have been depressed about thing i can not control . my life . i have a husand i love very much . he had a affair a year ago . i am afaid all the time he will leave me again . he moved out a year ago for a month. he asked for forgiveness and i gave it to him. we have been married for 3 1/2 years. i have 4 wonderful step child .18,13,7, and almost 9 mo old . shortly after he left i found out i was pregant also . i had a miscarraige (miscarriage) a month after we got back together due all the stess i was under. i do not know how to get past all this. i ask him how he feels about me and he tells me he loves me. i just dont know what to do

[ILADVOCATE]

  Yes its difficult to make him do the right thing which would be to stay with you as marriage is a commitment. He has to make the change and if he had an affair he has shown he might be unwilling to regardless of what he said. Realize you did nothing wrong. Just the opposite. However if you want to discuss this further relationship therapy might be of help.

[Torieluvsyou]

Boo.. I know how you feel.. I'm only 14 and I'm already making my death list.. I feel so lost.. So sad.. And I don't know why.. I try telling my parents but.. I get to scared. They don't notice how sad I am.. They don't notice the tears run down my cheeks.. And sometimes.. Sometimes it feels like they dont even notice I'm there..  It's been months since I realized how sad.. Depressed.. Miserable.. I am.. It's been only a couple of weeks since I even thought of killing myself.. It's been only a few days since I was about too...and.. People like us.. Need to stay strong.  I just wanted to say that I care about you. And as much as I want..wish.. That someone will tell me that they care about me.. I feel like the strangers are the ones that will care about me the most. <3

[Poo44clooner]

This is the place. Depression forum and community for all.
Angela