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Help! I cant go on like this - what can I do?!

Im 17, over the past 4 months Ive gone through a lot. Ive had three deaths in the family all of which I was hugely effected by. I find myself crying a lot for no real reason. Ive already grieved but sometimes when I start crying over nothing I cant help but think about the people Ive lost which results in me getting more upset. My boyfriend has also recently moved 50 miles away to study, I can get upset just because I miss him. Im rarely happy. I still laugh but only really happy when Im with my boyfriend or my parents. I used to be a really bubbly person with lots of friends and I was really talkative but now I struggle to find anything to say in a group of friends. I want to go back to my old self. I just dont know if or when it will happen. What can I do? I cant think of how to make myself happy.
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1551327 tn?1514045867
Of course, I understand.  I know that it is difficult and sometimes we pray for an easier way.  There may not be an easy way but there is always a way and you will get through it.
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Thank you. I will try doing that, I just need to think of ways to stop the pain and the crying, as it happens to often and it's really draining and exhausting.
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1551327 tn?1514045867
You will never really be your old self again.  You will be stronger when you make it through this but right now you are hurting and that is normal.  How did you go through the grieving process?  Did you get help?
I don't know how to make myself happy either but I know how to stop the pain.  Sometimes to deal with things I just them pass because almost everything heals in time and everything changes.  You are changing now and change is scary.
Sometimes I try to get to the core of the problem and aid myself in the healing process but it is just that- a healing process.
The cycles we go through in life hurt us.  I have been through so many.  However, looking back I have to realize that I am not that little naïve boy anymore.  I had to pick myself up several times in my life when I was knocked down by tragedy.  I still have the scars (some of them literally) but I wear the scars and I am still able to find inspiration in my life.
I hope you find some support and you can always come on here to chat or get help if you need to.
Good Luck friend,
Larry
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