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[Pat112512]

I'm at a loss. My wife left me on Sunday. I know she had a bad past but I tought my love would help her. She just up and left me and said she can't be close to anyone. Why marry me and hurt me and my kids who loved her. Now I'm left with a very broken heart and bills I can't pay alone. Why would someone do this?

[mammo]

Hi, I'm so sorry for what has happened to you.  Often we do think that "love" will help someone with a troubled past, but in reality they themselves need to resolve their issues through therapy.  I'm sure her intentions were good when she married you and chose to have children, but the past came slowly creeping back on her.  This doesn't make what she did right, it means that she is very troubled. It would have been best had she addressed her feelings with you, but for whatever reason she didn't, and now you and the children are hurting. I think she's proven she's not able to love and be close to anyone.....certainly not fair to you or the children.  As an adult you realize how painful and troubling this is for you so you can only imagine what it's doing to the kids.  They come first and are counting on you to keep their lives secure and happy.  Take it one day at a time or you will become over-whelmed with it all.  Call your creditors and work out a payment plan with them after explaining the situation.  Focus on the kids and being a parent that will always be there for them, I'm sure they are worried that they'll lose you as well.  Your wife is troubled and until she seeks professional help there is no more you can do.  Get an attorney and find out what your rights are as the custodial parent and go from there.  I know you feel lost right now, but you will love again one day and I wish you all the best!

[MadsIsSad]

Because some people are selfish.. I don't know exactly what's going on in her head but I do know that if you be the best dad you can be to your kids by picking yourself up that'll be the best thing you could do! The best form of revenge is happiness so show her exactly what she's missing! You never know, she may be going through something right now but never the less, show her what she's missing out on..be the best dad your kids could wish for and you'll see good things will come your way..it just takes time but it WILL happen :) x